Confessions of a Ladies Man: Signs That a Guy is Worth Dating

Ladies have you ever felt out in the cold? Ever been ghosted by a guy and lost hope in dating all together? Here are some very clear signs that the guy you just started dating is a high value guy. If you see these signs from a guy it is VERY GOOD!

How He Treats You After the First Night Of Sex

After you have sex with him the first time a lot will be revealed. I will argue that no matter how long you date a guy you never truly know him or the relationship until you have fucked. It is the biggest give away. If you have sex and he cuddles with you or offers you to spend the night? Very clear sign. If he say sweet things to you the next morning or kisses your forhead or any romantic stuff? Very clear he likes you as more than just sex. Sometimes after sex a guy will continue limited text messaging. That is okay. As long as he responds to you the same day and sounds happy to hear from you..again..all very good signs.

He Wants to Get to Know You

If he is talking to you about more than just sex...if he is asking more information that invokes feelings like your childhood or dreams and such. Very very good sign.

Is He Making LOVE to You?

Any guy can pound away and orgasm. Cool. But if the guy you are with is focusing on foreplay. Giving you the full making love treatment. Slowing it down and being sensual...He is most likely into you on a deeper level

He Has His Proverbial **** Together

A lot of ladies think that a big spending guy is worth dating. "He bought my dinner so that means he likes me". Don't be fooled by that. A wealthy guy can manipulate with money. Really focus on whether this is a man who is on his purpose or not. Does he have aspirations. Is he striving toward something in his life? Is he passionate about a hobby? Date that dude. If a guy isn't buying you dinner or paying anything for you but is passionate about building sculptures. Date him over the business executive who has money to fly around. You want a man with PASSION. He is the life winner.

Confessions of a Ladies Man: Signs That a Guy is Worth Dating
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Most Helpful Girls

  • 🙄 Here we go again...
    a lot of what you're describing is how some people treat their friends with benefits like cuddling after sex, talking about things other than sex. That doesn't mean they're really in love with you at all. When you're the "only" woman they're doing those things with not because there's noone else available but because they don't desire to be with anyone else... And most of this was about how he treats you during or right after sex... Some people will do anything to have sex or keep the sexual relationship going. Again that don't equate to love. .
    When they think of your feelings, because they care, not to get something in return...
    When they are there for you when you need someone without you even having to ask...
    When they're ready to fully commit to you and to a relationship..
    When they share that side of themselves that they don't share with everyone...
    When they make time for you, make you feel you're a priority in their life..
    Those are more indications of feelings other than just sexual

    • I agree, it's another vanilla 'here, women, I know better than you do'. The overdoing of propaganda to commoditise relationships (probably Chinese/North Korean or Arab in origin, to market them as most suitable 'lovers' (if only you accepted a cuddle after sex is enough, he can go to his 2nd, 3rd etc))

    • @msbrightness right!

  • I can’t believe some people would settle for fucking only and expect the guy to be in love or have some kind of loyal commitment. You guys of course he’s going to enjoy foreplay with you and take his time making love to you if he likes you. Sex is not just about cumming if feelings are involved.

    • It happens all the time. Women think their pussy is magic. They are brought up thinking they can manipulate and control men with their pussy. Why do you think women sleep with married men? They believe in magic pussy theory. That their pussy can frenzy a guy into leaving his wife. Most women are ignoring 90% of guys and competing for the hottest 10% of alphas in society. An alpha like me is casually dating. Not committing yet. Slept with 2 girls this past week. Have a date set up with 2 others. I may have 4 sex partners at once if i want. 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • Pussy is easily accessible but a high value woman isn’t. And if you lose a high value woman, that shit hurts 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • "An alpha like me" LMAOOOO

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I agree but not quite.
    These are all good but they're like, baseline rules. They're not really signs of high value more like minimum requirements. At least I would hope for most women they would be.

    I don't really disagree, but a man being worth dating (meeting minimum requirements) doesn't automatically = him being a high value partner. He could just be the normal "normal" boyfriend. (Or he could be a fucker in another way, like abusively possessive, and still be well below worth dating.) Or he could really be that great, "high value" man.

    Also side note, sex is not the only way to know your partner or your relationship. Relationships aren't about sex, sex is just part of a relationship. A great part, obviously, but not the heart of it as you seem to think.

  • I think its a shitty list and very low low low standards. Your list is too much about sex when it should be about everything except sex. Sex is easy, its the rest you should be paying attention to.

    Is he fit and healthy?
    Does he earn 6 figures?
    Is he pleasant and social?
    Does he behave like a gentleman?
    Does he have boundaries and stand up for himself?
    Does he share the same values?

    If you can't answer yes to every single one of those questions why the fuck are you messing with that dude unless you're a loser yourself?

    • Exactly. These "ladies men" pseudo-Alphas think they're so manly for fucking many women but they're just pathetic and fucking low value women who know man of principles would marry anyways.

    • No man*

    • @NorthAfrican im not sure we agree there.

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  • Agree and disagree on the first point. Yes how a guy treats you after he's 'obtained sex' is a huge marker. Most guys though, are still nice after the first time because they want it again. Agree with your point but I think it takes about 3-5 hook ups whether or not he says he's 'open to a relationship' before a guy starts showing his true colors.

    On the second point: making love and doing foreplay aren't mutually exclusive. Many a player hinge their prowess in getting women to orgasm, in a way a videogamers plays to score a high score. Women come back because they confuse getting an orgasm as meaning something, and a man player doing it to prove something to themselves.

    Does he have his shit together: agree. Either he's in a place for a relationship or he's not. And no amount of 'I can be ready for the right one's gonna change that. Don't date people that expect other people to 'make them grow up.'

  • So she only finds out if he is worth dating - after - she has sex with him.

  • I'd support the last one. If a guy isn't passionate about something then he's usually as boring as fuck. It doesn't have to be anything major, just something like "I love going to the gym" is good enough.

    • And what do you actually offer of value in your life?

    • @oldasIfeel22 Damn way to be condescending. You basically implying she doesn't. If she cares about passion, she most likely has interests she is passionate about

    • @Leahbear232 have you seen what this girl usually posts about? She’s a woke SJW times 10. People like that usually don’t have anything of real value to offer this world. Instead they feel entitled just because they breath air and victimized when they don’t get what they want. They usually have too much time on their hands to blame and shame everything and everyone that support their pity parties. For the record I would never say that to anyone else on here. But hearing her having higher standards for men than she has for herself (while parroting radical leftist bs) just really pisses me off. I can’t stand women like that.

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  • @apope16 - I've said this time & time again you've obviously never spent much time with decent women. Just cheap easy betas & omegas. So let me make it very clear.

    This only applies to the women who sleep around because they lack self esteem, self-respect, self confidence and believe that by making themselves readily available they're desired when reality is they're a convenience.

    . What are "alpha" women, the top of the order, who have self confidence, self-esteem & respect and those who are actually desirable to men don't readily sleep around. Most "alpha" women would want to know their guy, get to know their man, before having sex like some cheap & easy slut like the drunken engineer you fucked earlier in the week.

    • I see the losers used to sluts downvoted. Unsurprising.

  • He actually likes me, doesn't want to use me for sex, and his life is going good. The bar is so incredibly low that we're below ground.

    • Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I mean those are a very valid points but certainly not high value, just bare minimum

    • Yeah he forgot the high-six-figure income and the movie star looks that women actually go for.

    • @zagor Nope. Not at all. But thanks for being condescending to people you don't even know. All I'm saying is if anyone, man or woman were "impressed" then they clearly don't have a good sense of values

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  • This reads to me that the stable girl who grew up in the barn can have a slice of par-ee and everything magnificent when her frogs disappear and prince charming shows up...

    Fantasy ranch. Well off, high-value men don't F to find his bride. Just another mistress or F buddy. Sorry to disappoint.

  • Ladies men are trashy I want nothing to do with them😷.
    Kindly keep yo stds to yourself thanks

    • Only Africans.

    • @Yamama?

    • ElisaDido?

  • No thanks. You can also know a lot about a guy without f**king him. Only a dumb girl will have sex to know more about him. I have known the 'Real face' of the people I dated in advance but still I wanted to give them a chance and yes I was right in the end.
    It's already a red flag if he wants to have sex before marriage.
    I find the idea of people sucking, inserting, licking and putting their private parts on each other as gross, dirty, unhygienic and disgusting. Only sex with one person is pure.

    • You would never buy a car without riding it first. So why marry for the rest of your life without knowing sexual chemistry or not. Desire for sex is biological. Do not date a guy who says he doesn't want sex before marriage. He is a liar. Never marry a liar. there's a lot of priests out there molesting boys denying gods plan to be fruitful multiply and enjoy sex.

    • How he is a liar if he doesn't want sex before marriage?

    • Buy a car without riding the car? Seriously? LMAO. Relationship is MORE THAN SEX! Sex is just a minor aspect. There are many other things like loyalty, good communication, having their back, making them laugh, caring and loving them unconditionally. As long he has a penis then it's all taken care of. We both can experiment as there is whole life ahead.

  • Agree with pretty much everything except the last point. Just because a guy has a passion doesn't mean that makes him worthwhile. I agree with the money part though.

  • For me is virgin guys who wait till marriage are good

    • That's so impossible to find and difficult to tell :(

    • I think a lot of those guys started off when good intentions. But when they actually tried being patient and doing what women “say” they want they burned and friendzoned. I respect men and women who can wait till marriage. Deep down that’s what I really want too. But finding a woman who will respect me though out the engagement process is very hard to find.

    • @oldasIfeel22 It's pretty sad that people blame their behavior on others. I've been treated poorly by men my whole life but that hasn't changed my will to make the right choices for my future

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  • You're condescending

  • I really wish this guy wasn't an editor

  • I don't know if this is good or bad advice but I'm just reading.

  • *grabs popcorn*

  • Some dumb bitches here.

    • Including you x

    • @Giselleselfish another one

    • Yes you and your mum

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  • "If a guy isn't buying you dinner or paying anything for you but is passionate about building sculptures. Date him over the business executive who has money to fly around. You want a man with PASSION. He is the life winner."

    Passion is great to have but realistically everyone must have a passion overall. It must be equal though, in all aspects but if it can't be then couples must learn to make it work till it gets there. You do not have to be super wealthy to be happy or have six figures. May it be within their job or their hobbies or whatever else. In order to make the relationship work with your woman, you have to put in effort. Effort is shown, and woman will believe it when they see it. I am disabled from a head injury but I am always striving for more to be someone that is more than just a guy with sparing amount of income & many passions to fall back on. I want to give, and if I am given back, it works out well. If it is one sided... their is not much hope unless their is an agreement made before hand. Which usually does not work out in the long run.

  • uhm, gosh. don't know what to say other than... you shouldn't treat anyone like shit after they do it with you.

    that's common manners.

    whether you like them or not, you gotta keep it positive.

  • He has to be sold his soul to devil

  • Let me add a few things
    1. He treats you respectfully
    2. Doesn't talk shit about behind your back with his friends
    3. His words and actions don't contradict each other

  • How He Treats You After the First Night Of Sex: But if he ghosts you after having sex it's kinda pointless?

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