Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the beginning...
From a young age I was always quite sexual, I remember masturbaring as young as 5 or 6 years of age, I didn't quite know what I was doing but I knew that rubbing down there felt good so I did it.
I lost my virginity at 17; I was pretty good for a few years and only slept with guys while in a relationship. I jumped from relationship to relationship but a few years ago after a relationship breakdown everything changed.
I started to post on Craigslist for random hook ups; I would sleep with a new guy almost weekly, sometimes I'd meet someone I really clicked with and we'd become friends with benefits. I couldn't tell you what lead me to Craigslist, I don't remember how that part happened.
Although I was sleeping around I was quite picky with who I saw, there was one guy who kept contacting me who I kept rejecting, he eventually offered me $250 for an hour of my time, he lasted 20 minutes but I still got my money and that's how it all started.
The rules...
1. I will not meet married or attatched guys, even though I see this as a job I won't touch another woman's man.
2. I always use condoms plus I am on birth control, I also get tested regularly.
3. I don't see anyone under the age of 20, even though 16 is the legal age of consent where I am from I feel like under 20 is too young.
4. I will not take a guys virginity.
Whoring Around Town...
At the time I was struggling financially, I was behind is so many bills to the point where I was being sent to court if I didn't pay up, to me this was easy money to get out of a bad situation but now it's just something I do for fun.
It was easy to make the transition from casual sex with randoms to getting paid for my time, I do enjoy sex and I needed the money so it was a win/win situation! I work for myself so I don't have to pay someone else to get me clients, I have various ads on different local classifieds pages so I pocket all the cash myself.
by the way it's really difficult to keep explaining to friends why I always have a lot of cash on me, I'm running out of excuses lol
I would say I am still quite picky with who I choose to sleep with but not as picky as I was before. A lot of the time I get a bad vibe from certain men so I do not meet them. My instinct hasn't steered me wrong yet but I will not become complacent, I am always careful.
I see about 4-5 men a week, I have regular clients I see fortnightly and others I see a bit more sporadically but it's a consistent flow whether it's regular clients or newbies.
My sex life is never something I have been ashamed of but it's also not something I share with anyone because people can be quite judgmental and I don't care to deal with it.
I have been doing this for about 3 years now but I'm starting to think I need to end thhis life, find a good guy and settle down. I am not taking on new clients anymore, I am seeing my regaulars but have warned them that I won't be in this much longer.
Choosing this life was easy but stopping it proving to be difficult, I'm getting sick of leading a double life and I hate lying to everybody I care about. I'm slowly taking the steps to get out of the life and I know I'll get there eventually.
Thanks for reading, feel free to ask what ever you want, I am an open book.
Side note: I have been single most of the time I have been doing this and when I was dating someone I stopped, I have never been unfaithful.
What Girls & Guys Said
44 121Sleeping with different guys is a serious problem because 1. You can have a disease no matter if you used protection or not that guy can make you fall asleep somehow and do what ever he wants to you 2 . he probably wants more of it if you say your busy or this of that then he will probably come after you 3. Honestly i hate saying this to you but he might lied to you to.. and 4 if you want a husband you can not be doing this cuz that will cause a big problem for you and your relationship
If you want to stop then Change your phone number and stop posting ads. I'm curious though abut your vetting process on picking these single, non-virgin 20+yo guys.
Not every disease is physical in nature, nor can it be detected with blood tests or equipment. But to your credit, at least you have rules, and abide by them. They won't save you, but at least they ensure you minimize the damage you could spread to others. Perhaps if more hookers had rules like yours and stayed faithful to them, then hookers in general wouldn't be quite so frowned upon.
I don't really get the point of your comment.
I don't have anything against prostitution, and I don't think poorly of woman who choose to do it. I think it's great that your looking to take your life in a new direction, and I hope you find what your looking for and wish you all the best.
I only wish I could be a prostitute. i don't blame you. But men don't get that opportunity often.
limiting to over 20 is a lot safer. Although women never get prosecuted for sex with those under 18, only men ever do.
It is sad that you "won't take a guys virginity". Many guys would love that and there is nothing wrong with it. Every guy remembers his first. I can understand a guy not wanting to be a woman's first. Women get way too emotional about sex (usually). But I don't get the other way around.
My rule for no fuys under 20 has nothing to do with prosecution, that is not a concern of mine. I don't do it because I just feel like they're too young. I don't want to be someone's first, most people end up regretting this first time and I don't want to take from someone what they can never get back.
Eh, but why? What about wizards (+30yo male virgins)? Most of them are inches for the rest of their lives.
@DanoMR98 I just told you why!!! It's something you can't get back and I am not going to take that from someone.
This was actually Interesting to read. And you sound very professional! I'm glad you didn't run into a horrible situation like getting nearly killed or something!.
we should meet up or something.
What makes you think I'm anywhere near you?
im just saying thats how much i support your work.
In a comment you mentioned that someon's first time should be special so they don't regret it later. Well, was your first time "Special"? Do you regret it?
At the time I thought it was special coz he said all the right things and he was really sweet but afterwards when he stopped talking to me I realised he was just a dick. I guess I wish I waited but I wouldn't say I regret it, I don't regret anything I've done because at the time I felt it was the right thing to do and I'm not going to tell myself I was wrong for feeling that way.
That's a pretty risky life-style I hope you will able to get out that life and find a good guy. I think it may be difficult if the guy you want to marry founds out about your former occupation.
There is a spirit behind every action, stop the action then the Spirit will flee. Talk to yourself, develop self control, look for better means of meeting your daily needs, stay away from the wrong people. Wish you well.
I've always wondered how prostitutes meet new clients. I mean, just about anything you could do must be monitored by the cops. And assurance of safety is basically nill unless it's well regulated in your area (i. e. vegas). I guess if you live in a place where it's legal, it makes everything really easy. But otherwise, I guess I simply don't understand how it could possibly work.
Interesting read, at least you are open about it. I think it is good that you want to change your life I can't imagine how difficult is it to keep it from your friends and family.
why does a person think it's wise to openly admit to committing a crime.
The question you really should be asking yourself is, why are you assuming it's a crime where I am from?
because you never specified, so in the grand scheme of things, it's safe to assume it's illegal.
The are so many counties around the world where prostitution is legal so why should I have to specify? Maybe think outside the box, there are countries other than the one you hail from but this is a stereotypical American attitude so you probably can't help it.
so hostile damn lol.
You're taking me the wrong way, I said that more with matter of fact kind of attitude.
if that is the case, let's give you the benefit of the doubt. having said that, you giving off your preconceived notions towards me, some random person you don't even know on the internet, that i couldn't possible fathom, or help, thinking outside the box, just because of where I hail presumably. we can't convey tone over text, but it's a sense telling me you're being somewhat snarky and throwing jabs at someone you don't even know. and over what? my initial statement? which was a generalized statement that you could have easily rectified? but instead, responded as you did. sure you could argue why I didn't just ask to begin with, but we're already past that because I already responded how I did, in a generalized assumption to curiosity. facing the "facts", we both could've cut the bullshit, but we didn't. However, i was perfectly tame. you're the one who immediately judged.
aside from all that i really don't give af, it's nice having a conversation cause im bored lol. legal prostitution or not, you do you dude.
Oh yeah, I totally judged your first comment. You're from America and it's widely known by non Americans that you guys are typically quite ignorant when it comes to anything outside of America.
at least you're candid. I don't come across that trait much these days lol. but again, damn so hostile xD
@Z-Spark let's not insult anyone here. we don't know each other, that's the real truth. we simply don't know each other, all we have are our own approaches. her approach may have come off as somewhat hostile, but that's fine. that's how she handles her business. I handled mine differently.
she's 25, a girl and worked for 3 years as prostitute for the most part we dont need to know more.
I've blocked him for spamming my post.
@Z-Spark one of my main points is that you can't just assume because of a few details. she's made unpopular decisions in her life, doesn't mean she's entirely a bad person. I'm American, doesn't mean I'm a closed off ignorant moron. that's really what I'm trying to say. but throwing constant insults like that, I gotta ask, what are you trying to accomplish? and will it make you proud if you achieve it?
He can't respond to you coz he's blocked.
oh well it's over now.
also, apart from the distinct possibility that it's legal wherever she is, I also wanted to point out that "openly" is incorrect, since this was posted anonymously..
Times are changing, there are no old fashioned men anymore:
www.foxnews.com/.../why-men-wont-marry.html
that's so untrue lol
The marriage and reproductive rates have fallen dramatically in the last 10 years. The real divorce rates are between 85-90% and not the 50% the lie to you about. The divorce courts are heavily skewed against men and laden with misandry. The court slaughters the men emotionally and financially. The percentage of unmarried people between 18-45 is 70% Men are more intelligent these days, the cost/benefit analysis is a big deficit to them. Plain and simple, they are not marrying anymore , MGTOW is catching on and spreading like wildfire as a result of feminism. Men have swallowed the "Red Pill" and love their new freedoms and the resulting wealth to enjoy it with. The difference between "Free Sex" and paid sex is, free sex is more often more expensive and the women are fat and ugly. This is the new millenium.
www.csmonitor.com/.../Singles-nation-Why-so-many-Americans-are-unmarried
I really can't be bothered read that, you said there are no old fashioned men anymore which is simply just not true. Yes, times are changing, that's how life works but to say there are no old fashion men is complete and utter bullshit.
Your in denile.
Nah I'm not, I know a lot of young people who are married. Last Friday a good friend of mine got engaged to her partner of almost 2 years my they're even waiting till marriage to have sex which is sweet. Yes the world is changing, people's views on marriage are changing but there are definitely still old fashion men out there. Now if you said that there a much fewer old fashion men these days then I may agree with you but to say there are none well that makes you the delusional one.
You said you would never take a virgin as a client, but you insist on finding an old fashioned guy that you will have to deceive, like you have to decieve your friends and love ones. When you do find this innocent unicorn and marry him, how can you trust your own beautiful hypersexuality, when you say men would always make you offers of sex. You would then have to seek extramarital affairs in order to satisfy your needs and desires. You see you would not only not be truthful to your loved ones, your new and pure unicorn old fashioned guy, but most importantly to yourself. The Goddess of Venus blessed you with beauty and a powerful, hypersexaulity... own it. It is sad that that you wish to fetter its wings like a caged bird. I say be true to yourself, spread your mighty wings and let your sexuality soar and explore new horizons, rather than condemn yourself and your old fashioned man to a life of bitter disappointment, resentment and heartache ultimately ending in divorce.
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Just wait until you hit your sexual prime in your thirties, temptation will be great. Just embrace it, don't fight it.
Who said I insist on finding an old fashion guy? I said I want to find a good guy lol you know someone I'm compatible with and who treats me well. I never even said old fashioned guy until you brought it up 😂😂😂
Wow I actually can't read through any more of your insane rants, you sound like a crazy person. I bet you're one of those conspiracy theory nuts 😂 I'm usually always up for a good online argument but the shit spouting is actually insane, I wish you all the best in life mate.
interesting reading
I'm just glad you didn't get mixed up with this too much honestly. When I worked in Phoenix for a contracting job, I was outside at 2 in the morning in the ghetto. Only white guy within a good radius of the job site. I dealt with gangs and violence, people trying to fight me all the time, you name it. One of the worst moments in my life. I remember seeing prostitutes all the time, not in the best condition. They looked dead on the inside. One of them rolled out of a taxi that came flying into a parking lot, tires squealing and all, and was bleeding from her stomach. One of her 'clients' decided to get rowdy and pull a blade on her. She wouldn't let me call an ambulance for the fear of cops. I doctored that girl the best I could in the parking lot at 3 in the morning. I remember thinking to myself, this is hell. This is rock bottom.
I respect that fact that you yourself respect other people's commitments. Good for you! Wish you all the best.
Nice history of your life that you have lived but to be honest with you, you can do all you can to control those ways but if you have lived that life for a while you would need to start over again. If you want to give it up then so be it but getting in a relationship after a long while of living that life I think it would be hard bc if you have one relationship and he doesn't satisfy you then it's possible you will be doing this behind your boyfriend back and even your husband. With no satisfaction sexually with your partner you will be doing it again.
With your regulars, it may help you decide who you want to be with and which one gives the satisfactions where you won't need or have any other desire to be with in sexually and relationships.
Remember your partner does not need to know your past just as long as you get satisfaction and the pleasure and you want to be with that person is what matters.
You're talking about me like I'm some sort of sex addict 😂 I was in a 3 year relationship and 6 months into it he had to start taking a certain medication that made him impotent. I stayed with him and I didn't stray, didn't even consider it. I didn't even ask him to satisfy me in any way because I felt it was unfair as he could be satisfied. I just used my trusty vibrator if I was feeling horny. Just because when I am single I am promiscuous or get into prostitutiont that doesn't mean I wouldn't be loyal when in a relationship. I won't even sleep with married or attached guys because I have so much respect for relationships whether it's mine or someone else's. You can't just make assumptions about people when you only know a snippet of their lives.
Since you are able to do that then get in one! I just don't get why would you still use a vibrator if he satisfies You? Do u need a guy that needs to last two hours with you or until you are satisfied? It's your thing, you do what you do. By the way I'm not calling you some sex addict sorry if it came out that way.
Wtf are you on about? Did you even read what I said? He was impotent, that means he can not get an erection, which means he wasn't satisfying me sexually so I used a vibrator if I got horny. Maybe read through the text properly before responding. When you said "just get in one" I'm assuming you mean a relationship? Do you really think it's that easy to get into a good relationship?
Hope you feel rewarded... cause not sure how you can feel fulfilled with doing such a brainless mindless act... I mean it takes no effort or has zero challenges...
Boring life if you ask me... the money doesn't mean anything, it's empty dollars cause you didn't earn it... so there isn't that same respect as someone who actually worked for it...
Sex certainly isn't brainless or effortless, if you feel that way you aren't doing it right lol I have earnt my money, my objective is to pleasure my clients and that's what I do. Some people's job is to stand at the front of a store and welcome/farewell people, others scan and bag people's shopping. We all earn our money somehow. Just because my job is to have sex that doesn't mean I don't earnt it like anyone else.
Its a brainless effort like sleeping and eating dear... someone standing in front of a door greeting others has a major impact on the company and brand as a whole... it attracts more clients and therefore increase business profits AND most important she pays taxes, adds working years for retirement and contributes to society in a meaningful manner... Can you really say the same for a sex girl... not really
But all that is besides the point... I do have something I want to ask... Did you ever fall for a guy?
Sex is not a brainless effort, it's not like I just lay there while my client has sex with me. Every single client is different so when I'm with someone I have to figure out what they like and how they like it because no two clients are the same. When I'm with someone I'm constantly reading their body language to gauge whether or not they are enjoying what I am doing. Like I said, if you think sex is a brainless effort then you are not doing it right.
It's just an expression... obviously nothing is brainless cause everything requires thinking... even eating to chew your food and swallow requires to think a little I just mean it's natural to gauge and read people during sexual experiences... it's what we do everyday for centuries... humans mate with humans... in that sense, it's isn't really learning anything you don't already know...
I work out on a daily basis, sometimes twice daily and my diet is on point because I need to keep myself in shape for my clients. I work on advertising my business and getting myself out there. Just because I don't work as many hours as most and I make more money that does not mean that I don't work hard.
Trust me, it certainly is not natural for people to actually be able to understand and pleasure their partner.
Trust you... what do you mean Im talking about the basic general idea here... yes it's natural to have sex... I don't think that we can refute that... sex sells on it's own... it doesn't take much for sex to sell, all you need is sexy pictures of a girl offering sex for money and she will get clients... cmon now...
A lot of people work out and have their diets on point... that isn't something above and beyond that is again... basic health... exercise and a good diet is recommend for all people...
You're trying to make it sound like natural instinct like sex and basic health like exercise and eating well is hard work... Im not saying what you do is a walk in the park... it's just not mentally challenging in a rewarding way... reward comes from accomplishes and goals.. there isn't any with the sex trade
Maybe to you it's not challenging or rewarding but that doesn't mean that it isn't for others.
I agree... maybe But I believe you can do more and I don't want you being less than what you can be...
I'm happy going what I'm doing.
I believe in your more than you believe in yourself...
Lol no, you just don't understand that I am genuinely happy with what I do. I enjoy this and I don't see it as something that's bad.
And a serial killers also doesn't see hurting people as bad... it's not what you think is bad, it's what we deem as a society as a whole And obviously you said you're living a double life and tired of it... so you are hiding where you get your money from... someone proud of their accomplishments wants the world to know about it not hide it... see you can say what you want, but the little details tell a different story
I hide is because of societies views on this line of work, You can't compare me to a serial killer lol I am not hurting anybody. Serial killers don't feel guilt but they generally understand that what they do is wrong. Just because society views what I do as wrong that doesn't mean it is wrong. Society used to view black people as second class citizen, some people still feel that way towards black people... does that make it right because it was societies view?
Details do tell a lot but you are making assumptions based on those details and you're wrong. I hate lying to people, I don't hate what I do.
Eh she does have a few points. Not everyone is good at sex and it does need skills that you earn over time. Keeping a healthy diet and exercising is also good work since especially in the states you have a high level of obesity... Her arguments are actually logical. The only downside is that she doesn't pay taxes
And asker no you're not happy or see a future in it or what s the point with the question
I didn't ask a question lol this is a MyTake... I'm not sure why everyone wants to tell me I'm not happy lol
Eh whatever Point is in your take/question you 're saying you wanna stop lol
Not take/question.. it's just a MyTake. I didn't ask any questions and yes I do want to stop because I wanna settle down and I hate lying to my friends. That doesn't mean I am unhappy.
Omg whatever Didn't say you 're unhappy but it s not what you want anymore.
You're right, you didn't say I am unhappy then word you used were "no you're not happy" which basically means the same thing lol
Makes all the difference in the world! 😂😂 ok you got me I didn't reread my comments cause I am lazy. Bottom line is you can be happier
I find it diff to believe they are regulars. They must have feelings attached for u. Call it sex dating with income.
Do you regularly take std checkups? When you were doing this job?
Oh never mind, i just read that you wrote you were tested regularly. Did you stop when you had the job at the bank?
How did your friends know you had extra cash? Was it the expensive things you bought that they saw on you?
Define a good guy?