Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the beginning...
From a young age I was always quite sexual, I remember masturbaring as young as 5 or 6 years of age, I didn't quite know what I was doing but I knew that rubbing down there felt good so I did it.
I lost my virginity at 17; I was pretty good for a few years and only slept with guys while in a relationship. I jumped from relationship to relationship but a few years ago after a relationship breakdown everything changed.
I started to post on Craigslist for random hook ups; I would sleep with a new guy almost weekly, sometimes I'd meet someone I really clicked with and we'd become friends with benefits. I couldn't tell you what lead me to Craigslist, I don't remember how that part happened.
Although I was sleeping around I was quite picky with who I saw, there was one guy who kept contacting me who I kept rejecting, he eventually offered me $250 for an hour of my time, he lasted 20 minutes but I still got my money and that's how it all started.
The rules...
1. I will not meet married or attatched guys, even though I see this as a job I won't touch another woman's man.
2. I always use condoms plus I am on birth control, I also get tested regularly.
3. I don't see anyone under the age of 20, even though 16 is the legal age of consent where I am from I feel like under 20 is too young.
4. I will not take a guys virginity.
Whoring Around Town...
At the time I was struggling financially, I was behind is so many bills to the point where I was being sent to court if I didn't pay up, to me this was easy money to get out of a bad situation but now it's just something I do for fun.
It was easy to make the transition from casual sex with randoms to getting paid for my time, I do enjoy sex and I needed the money so it was a win/win situation! I work for myself so I don't have to pay someone else to get me clients, I have various ads on different local classifieds pages so I pocket all the cash myself.
by the way it's really difficult to keep explaining to friends why I always have a lot of cash on me, I'm running out of excuses lol
I would say I am still quite picky with who I choose to sleep with but not as picky as I was before. A lot of the time I get a bad vibe from certain men so I do not meet them. My instinct hasn't steered me wrong yet but I will not become complacent, I am always careful.
I see about 4-5 men a week, I have regular clients I see fortnightly and others I see a bit more sporadically but it's a consistent flow whether it's regular clients or newbies.
My sex life is never something I have been ashamed of but it's also not something I share with anyone because people can be quite judgmental and I don't care to deal with it.
I have been doing this for about 3 years now but I'm starting to think I need to end thhis life, find a good guy and settle down. I am not taking on new clients anymore, I am seeing my regaulars but have warned them that I won't be in this much longer.
Choosing this life was easy but stopping it proving to be difficult, I'm getting sick of leading a double life and I hate lying to everybody I care about. I'm slowly taking the steps to get out of the life and I know I'll get there eventually.
Thanks for reading, feel free to ask what ever you want, I am an open book.
Side note: I have been single most of the time I have been doing this and when I was dating someone I stopped, I have never been unfaithful.
What Girls & Guys Said
44 121Amen sis!
I really appreciate the existence of women like you. i don't care how much our hypocrite society scorns prostitute but i really respect them for their bravery and honesty. i been with escorts since day one and i wouldn't give them up for any of these disgusting hypocrite sluts nowadays who fuck for free stuff status and them claim they aren't whores and got too much respect for themselves and all that other bullshit lie they use as defense mechanism.
till then keep up the good work, the world needs more people like you!
Of course... the ticking clock is running out on you. :(
not really, I've only just turned 25 lol
And in five years you'll have to compete with 20 year olds. The older you get the more difficult it will become to find a compatible mate. By mid to late thirties it becomes virtually impossible - and all the good guys have been snatched up, married off, and what's left are the dregs, losers, nerds, rejects, and divorcees with kids in tow. Gee, you could be a 'step'. No, please, for your own good, get off this roller coaster and find a nice man and settle down. You'll enjoy life a LOT more. Don't squander your youth and beauty - it doesn't last forever.
Jezuz Christ thank you, I'm 26, not a male prostitute, and my dating life sucks balls. Thank you so much for putting the pressure on me! Oh no, wait! "losers, nerds, rejects", so I will just just to wait for my mid 30s to get the desperate ones. Thanks, man!
It's really sad that you have such a negative view on dating and relationships, thankfully things aren't the way you view them.
I'll take the nerd or single dad
It's really sad? No, it's reality. Hard pill to swallow isn't it? You can scoff all you want and think its not true at your peril. It is absolutely true and if you squander your young years fucking around you'll lose out. I promise. And no, this doesn't have anything to do with me - I've been married for almost twice as many years as you've been on the planet. One would think you would gain some knowledge and experience over forty some years of marriage, no? But whateve's, you have your life to live, you do what you want. I personally think it's disgusting the way you've carried on in your life. At least you got paid for it - way too many just give it away. If you're gonna be a whore make as much as you can. Supply and demand, ya know?
She can do what she likes, I just hope no guy falls on this grenade unknowingly. Like the woman that works her way up the ladder and then abruptly wants a man to take care of her at 35. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
Well you've been married for almost 50 years so I guess you wouldn't have have knowledge about dating in your 30's, would you? I see plenty of people date in the 30's just a few months ago i went to a wedding, both of them in their early 30's, no kids, amazing people. So be as negative as you want but there are way too many variables, you can't have such a close minded view on such a things.
@Spelling95 Oh, she'll dupe some innocent schmuck, get him to marry her, get bored, suck him bone dry financially, then bail or cheat when Mr. Chad Thundercock comes along and pays her some attention. It will be the biggest payoff of her illegitimate career. No, ladies and gentlemen, this is hypergamy at it's finest on display, unabashedly, without guilt or remorse. Thank god we get to see it all laid bare instead of hidden under wraps. Let the truth reign true. [applaud]
You think that someone who has gained so much life experience coz he is so old would know not to judge people based on only know one aspect of their lives.
Oh, and just look at all the brilliant white-knights all lining up here to defend the damsel in distress!! MORALS!! Right! Never be ashamed! Right? Egads. Where is that gagging-icon when you need it?
I'm not damsel in distress lol maybe some people are just a little more open minded than you are. Of course I have morals, everybody does.. we all just have different morals and there is nothing wrong with that.
No honey, we all judge. It's called discernment. And you don't have enough of it to be able to even grasp reality. No, you're a two-bit whore coming on here to explain to all these young men and women what a conquest your sex life has turned out to be and how you just decided to get paid for it. 'Win-win' were your words. Well I got news for you - you don't have a goddam clue and not the sense god gave a turnip. The more I read over what you wrote, the more disgusting it is. The complete lack of responsibility for your actions, the typical solipsistic attitude of how the blame for everything in your life is something out of your control, trying to explain how it's all from some external source. No, this is a classic case of hypergamic solipsim on full unabashed display. Congratulations!!
It most certainly is not discernment, you are judging but you aren't judging well. Who did I blame for my life? Lmao we'd are you on about? I haven't blamed anyone for anything 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You aren't really looking at all the facts here, you're judging me based on what I do but part of what I do is never sleeping with married men and not taking a guys virginity. The reason I do this is because I don't want to take advantage of anyone and I don't want to hurt people either. You can think what you want of me but you are wrong, I would never take advantage of anybody whether while doing this or in a marriage. I already have my own apartment which is fully paid off and I have a good chunk of savings too. I don't need anything from anyone.
All the more power to you if you've been able to make it work. I'd be scared to death of abusive rapists or other crazy types. I've casually hooked up with some guys that were obviously messed up people.
I guess I always have that fear in the back of my mind but I have never had an issue with any guys. I chat to the guys before meeting them and with certain people I just get a really uneasy feeling so I don't meet them. I have pretty good instincts and can ready people well.
You do you. But you won't find many guys who will like your past.
They won't know.
So you want to start a relationship based on lies about your past?
My relationships will not be based on lies, it's not like I'm going into saying "hey, I am not and never have been a prostitute" because that would be lying. I am just choosing to keep certain parts of my history to myself, my father sexually abused me and I choose not to tell anyone that.. does that make me a liar? Not at all, it's just something I choose not to disclose to loved ones.
You should tell someone that, a psychiatrist perhaps. Because that's the reason you probably view sex the way you do. And if you want a healthy long lasting relationship, you need to fix that before anything happens.
I have had two healthy and long lasting relationships, they didn't work out in the end obviously but it wasn't due to anything that I did. I don't see a problem with the way I view sex, I enjoy it so I do it. When in a relationship I am 100% committed, the reason my brief relationship where I had a break from this life didn't work is because he had a fetish for seeing me sleep with other men and I didn't want to do that, even with his permission so I left him. I appreciate your concern but you don't know me well enough to analyse me so you don't really have the right to do so or to give me that sort of advice.
Ok thats all fine and dandy but this is still unhealthy behavior. You have no self control. See sex as your need and a transaction Thats unattractive quality and the concern. You hate keeping this away from your friend I see and probably really want to tell him or her what you do on some level. Hows that going to work with a husband or life partner? Do you see what I'm getting at? You will always have this guilt, that's why you wrote this take to get it off yoir chest. You think you can keep this all to yourself for 40 to 50 years? I don't think so. You also can't be half in and half out of this. If you want a relationship go after it now. You can't slowly get away from something like this. This is your addiction. Its the smoker who constantly says I'll quit someday and never does. If you want change do it now, not tommorrow. Sorry I'm bluntly honest and no not analyzing you but you do need help from and unbiased professional I still believe. Seems the guilt may eat you.
Well I do have self control because when I'm in a relationship I don't sleep with other people or even want to sleep with other people, it's not a control issue and it's not an addiction.. I enjoy doing this. Understand that it's not the sleeing with guys part that bothers me it's lying to my loved ones.. not one friend.. everyone. I don't know where you got the impression it was just one person keeping this from. The guilt of doing this is not eating away at me, I feel guilty lying about what I get up to and stuff. So if I saw a client one night and someone asked what I did I will lie, that's the part I don't like so once that's gone then I won't feel guilty anymore. I am slowly getting out of the life, I don't want to but I have to so I'm doing it slowly then I will finally stop. You are trying to analyse me, you have made all these assumptions on how I am feeling and blah blah blah but you're wrong.
Think what you want. I'll leave you with this. Actions have consequences, and when you are ready to deal with or handle those consequences from the things that you have done now and in the past. Talk to someone and get help. Because if you chose to lie about this to a guy you want to date, and yes its a lie by omission (believe whatever you want), he probably will find out somehow and today is probably the easiest to find out anything about anyone. Sure no one knows now, that you know of, but it takes 5 minutes to talk to "an old friend" *client* and even less to find old pics.
I only have body pics online, I never show my face and I make sure to take the pictures without anything showing in the background so my room/house can't be indetified. It's not lying by omission because if asked about my sexual history I will simply tell people that it's not something I wish to speak about, now if I said I've only slept with so many people or made up something else then it would be lying by omission. Being upfront about not wanting to talk about it is being honest. The thing you are failing to understand is that I do not need help, I am not stopping because I don't want to just yet but I know I will have to eventually so I'm taking the steps to do so. Just because you think this is something that would eat away at someone or you think this is something that would require one to get help that doesn't make it so. I simply just don't think the way you do, sex is a fun and enjoyable thing for me and doing this excites me.
It's been three years and I've never once had an issue with what I do other than having to lie about where I am been when I'm with clients. I'm sorry but you're wrong, not all sex workers at mentally ill and need help. Some of us just genuinely love what we do.
Damn it! This is why I'm firmly believing, that women have it easier because nature granted them the irresistible beauty and charming body. -_-
Men are at a great disadvantage here! Curses.
And it makes me want to be born a woman 🙄
Anyway I don't blame you since we live in a debt-based world and I was a broke, starved dog myself.
EASY MONEY FOR THE PUS!!
Men don't have that luxury.
"find a good guy and settle down."
Yeah, that's totally not going to happen after all of this.
You could just become a porn star like Julia Ann.
I don't even know where to start with this load of crap... First of all I guess I'll start with your last comment many woman who come from a sketchy past find decent guys to settle down with so it most certainly is going to happen for me because I'm going to make it happen. Now for the fun part!! Woman do not have it easier, don't even try to play that game. There are pros and cons to both genders so don't even bother comparing them, I don't understand why people do that.. it's not a competition. The reason the sex industry is dominated by woman is because there is a demand for it so if you're going to complain about anything you should complain about how so many men can't keep their dick in their pants. You think men are at a disadvantage? Well you guys only have yourselves to blame for that. There aren't a lot of straight men in the sex industry because there is no demand for it, women can control themselves better than men can.
Have you downvoted me? If yes, then was it really worth it? "There are pros and cons to both genders so don't even bother comparing them" I agree actually. I aim to do just that but I always fail to do so. "The reason the sex industry is dominated by woman is because there is a demand for it" "so many men can't keep their dick in their pants." (which is because men are too sex driven, which leads us to...) "women can control themselves better than men can." There! You have kind of proven my point why women have it better because they can actually make easy money from that supply-demand sex industry. Again, I'm not opposing it. I'm merely pointing it. I would have probably done the same if I could.
Lol no, I haven't downvoted you but it seems to have annoyed you so I will now 😂
Men have the ability to control themselves they just choose not to; if men can control themselves around their extended family, in a professional work environment or any other setting where it's not appropriate to approach women sexually then they have self control, they just make the choice to not exercise that set control in certain settings.
Thanks and no, it doesn't annoy me. In fact I'm progressing with haters and fans :P I thought you were an open book as you mentioned but you actually bite back. Anyway stories like these make me wish I was born a woman. But oh well, it is, what it is, I'm male and so I'll just keep doing what I can. Luckily there is porn =) "Men have the ability to control themselves they just choose not to" Not always. Have you tried being on testosterones about 20 times the amount of what an average woman in her body has? As I mentioned there is porn at least, which keeps some of us (like me) in check with that. "where it's not appropriate to approach women sexually then they have self control" The keyword here is self control. It depends on the individual. For me porn discharges the urge to and as a result I have self control outside from watching porn.
You go from trying to differentiate which sex is better off.. To admitting that you always fail at doing that and that it's virtually pointless to even try.. Back to trying to prove that females have an advantage.. What the actual fuck? 😬 Also, just a side note- I was the original down voter. Simply because you were already derailing somewhat and I didn't like the direction you were heading. I really feel badly for the poor girl who wrote this my take and dealing with all the crap she's getting from it. I found it a great and inspiring read. Most are just being rude or weird. Trying to tell her how to live her own life like mmm nah no thanks. She's smart and knows what she's doing. I gotchu girlfriend 👌🏼
I am an open book but you're not asking me about my life or my story, you're making idiotic comments.
Ok so let's say you have really high testosterone and you're locked in a house with your mother and your sister, are you going to try and fuck either of them? So this idea that men can't control themselves is utter bullshit, it's a choice.
@ebbyeb "Trying to tell her how to live her own life" Never did I say so. I was only suggesting becoming a porn star since I think it pays off better. - "are you going to try and fuck either of them?" For some rapists, who otherwise wouldn't do it this won't be a problem. And I have no such an issue to do that. I get disgusted by the thought of it alone. What those comments seem idiotic to you have meaning to me, so I would appreciate if those 'idiotic' comments will go answered. Anyway I was making a point how women are able to make easy money from being woman supplying sex and men demanding sex. And what I wanted to know is if there is a male equivalent of that type of human being (making easy money as a man by easy ways also).
Honestly just ignore him :/ he's a douche who has nothing else to say since we've put him in his place.
@ebbyeb That goes both ways. Bye.
You proved my point, most men can control themselves but they choose not to. The male equivalent I would say is the gay sex industry, a lot of gay men have a straight guy fantasy so you'd probably make a killing. Good luck.
That's the kind of answer i was looking for.
I suggest you invest in a lot of lube and get some butt plugs to train your arsehole.
Understand, that i just envy women being able to sell sex to the opposite sex and me being a virgin, who can't get laid am trying to get into your perspective as a prostitute. It's girlsaskguys after all. So How was selling sex? Were you more or less comfortable continuing to be selling sex to your clients or have you forced yourself to? Have You had clients, where you thought "this guy can easily get free sex from another woman, I'm sure about that. But I'll take the cash."?
I knew you were a virgin 😂
by the way that laughing face was not at you being a virgin it was because it was obvious to me and I found that funny.
Forget it. I'm muting this now. I'll get my other answers elsewhere.
I have no answers for you dude, you already have a preconceived notion about this so I can't be fucked explains it in further detail.
You say that you're not ashamed-- but you're making a confession. You say that your sexual life is not anyone's business and that people can be quite judgmental but, here you are, "confessing" -- anonymously -- that you're a prostitute to a bunch of strangers online --but you're an open book and we can ask questions. You seem quite concerned about morality-- but you encourage other women to become prostitutes if they're curious. Things are "right" or "wrong" only when it's convenient.
Just because I titled it "confessions of a prostitute" that doesn't actually make it a confession lol "confessions is a.." is just a catchy title. It's not a confession, I am sharing my story, getting it off my chest because I don't speak to anyone about this and giving people MyTake on this lol Are you confused about where you are? You're on GAG, a place where people can share their take, ask questions.. that the point of this app lol I shared this to give people insight into the world of a prostitue and to show that we're not all drug fucked and on a street corner waiting for the next car to come along. Some of us are happy with our life styles and don't need drugs to number the pain. We can do this with a clear conscience.
When I say my sex life js nobodies business, I obviously means people who know me in real life. They don't need to know these things about me, just like I don't want to know about their sex lives. I am an open book because as I said I did this to give people insight into my world lol The anonymous because I don't want a bunch of dudes adding me or messaging me and I've had pictures on here before. I don't need anyone putting two and two together. The girls said she was thinking about it and I gave her someone advice from someone who's been there, I love what I do and if she has the same mindset as me and wants to do this then I would support her decision. I don't think prostitution is wrong lol so things aren't right or wrong at my convenience, everything I've said here I believe and live by.
Right. You told someone that you're not a liar but in you MyTake you wrote "Choosing this life was easy but stopping it proving to be difficult, I'm getting sick of leading a double life and I hate lying to everybody I care about. I'm slowly taking the steps to get out of the life and I know I'll get there eventually." Why would you advise someone to get into prostitution when you're "getting sick of leading a double life" and leaving that life "is proving to be difficult"? It just sounds like you want other women to be as miserable as you.
why so judgmental seriously doubt she wants women to be miserable
@troychapman When you post an article on Gag, you expose yourself to judgement in the comment section. Complaining about someone being "judgemental" is ridiculous.
that would be true-ish to the mytake owner but im not the mytake owner so if i think someones being out of line im free to express it
@troychapman And I'm free to make moral judgements.
its immoral to make judgments so that dont really fit
@troychapman It's immoral to defend someone for encouraging women to get into prostitution. End of.
Of course I don't want anyone to be miserable, whether or not she does this is her choice and she knows what some of the consequences of doing this are. Now she can make a better informed decision, I told her if she thinks she can do it with a clear conscience then go right ahead. I am doing it but I don't have a clear conscience because I hate lying to my friends about it.
What was your longest relationship while prostituting?
I don't have relationships while doing this.
Oh yeah. To rephrase: what's your longest relationship of commitment before you went back into the business?
A few months.
James Taylor says that every woman is a prostitute.
He's absolutely right.
James Taylor is an asshole or he's gay.
this is the type of prostitution I like. safer and harmless. no human trafficking. plus you made guys happy in their lives.
Here is my only question.
Why do you refuse to take a guy's virginity?
Well? You would be an interesting member of the females species to examine the daily thoughts of.
I notice you have not done this work while in a relationship. But I have to ask.
How many men you've dated, since you started this, knew you were a prostitute?
And you want to meet a good man. Do you think a good man would want to marry a prostitute? Would you even tell him, or just hope to bury it and lie?
That line of work tears on you, it sands away parts of you that should not be removed. I personally had a relative that turned to prostitution, and it badly damaged her and her personal relationships.
This life does tear away at people but not everybody. I am happy with what I do, I enjoy it and I have no issues with it other than the fact I have to lie to my friends about what I get up to, that's the only part that I don't like.
So do you tell your boyfriends you are a prostitute? And will the good man you want to settle down with know that?
no I don't, I don't talk about sexual history with partners and I don't wish to be blackmailed if the relationship doesn't go well.
And I'd be an ex prostitute, I wouldn't do it if I was with someone.
Ah. So you're hoping lying will help you land that good guy.
I'm not going to lie, I'm going to tell him that I don't want to talk about my past. If he doesn't like that then he is free to go but I'm not gonna run around and tell everyone I date. No flippin way.
A lie of omission is a lie all the same. Are you afraid a good man would not want to invest himself in a girl who sold her body? And thank you for emphasizing that girls who refuse to talk about thr padt are risky bets indeed.
Like I said, I don't want to be blackmailed if relationships don't go as planned. Some people turn into nasty pricks so not gonna risk it. He will obviously know my past is sketchy, he just won't know the details of it so it's not a lie or lie by omission, I'm openly telling him that he won't know all the details. If he wants to stay then that's great, if not then he's not for me.
Lying is when you lead someone to believe that's not true, I won't be leading anyone to believe anything. He will know it not good, it's the same as my childhood abuse. He will know it was bad but I won't give details, that's not lying.
Lying by omission is also a lie.
Sweetheart, it's not lying by omission. Yes, I am not revealing all the facts BUT he knows there are things I have not told him and he would be ok with that. That's not lying, I am of leading him to belive anything.
nymag.com/.../...-honest-than-plain-old-lying.html
Ok so didn't speak to my father seven years, when people asked me why I didn't speak to him (he has passed away now) I simply told them I didn't want to speak about it. Is that lying or even lying by omission?
I'll answer for you, it isn't. When someone asks me about my past I tell them I don't want to talk about it, I am not leading them to believe anything so it's not lying by omission. They simply just won't know but they would obviously be aware my past isn't good so no misconceptions there.
"Also known as a continuing misrepresentation, lying by omission occurs when an important fact is left out in order to foster a misconception. Lying by omission includes the failure to correct pre-existing misconceptions." That's what lying by omission means, just so you're aware.
Risky
You seem to have kept sanity, remarkably.
First, you need a job.
Thank you for sharing, this was an interesting read, I hope you find a new life that you enjoy.
Oh, so you don't want to carry my baby and you only want me if I'd had sex before. Oh well, I wouldn't agree to rules 2 and 4 anyways.
The man can lie and say he had sex before and didn't. Guess what, you would have had sex with a virgin and took his virginity.
I wouldn't have sex with any woman on birth control knowingly.
How does the whole fucking work, you just meet and fuck and go?
It depends on the guy, some guys want to meet up to fuck and go, some guys like to chat first or others are nervous so we just talk to them to ease their nerves at first. One guy used to pay me $200 an hour just to go down on me the whole time lol everyone is different.
"find a good guy and settle down. " the part I laughed.
I bet you hit the big ThreeZero and like every middle aged woman suddenly ask for the fairy tale prince to spend the rest of your life with while the pussy has become a piece of bacon. Good luck.
That's not really how vaginas work lol
I haven't hit 30 just yet and I've always been open to have a relationship, I think I even mentioned in the mytake that I had a relationship for a while and I stopped doing this then got back to it once it ended. I know I'll find a decent guy and settle down at some point so I don't need your luck but thanks anyway.
lol you're delusional girl
thank you for sharing, Good Luck...
"find a good guy and settle down"
Good luck.
if you see 4 men a week and have been working for 3 years that's 624 sexual partners, assuming that every encounter is a different person which you said it isn't. If we can assume that even half of your clients are regulars thats still 300 men. Average number of partners for a woman is about 4. Which means you have 7500% more partners than the average woman. So yeah, good luck.
okay. well your life... is just sad
Maybe to you but it's my life and I'm happy with it.
no you're not. You're better than that. I'm sure.
How would you know if I'm happy or not?
The only thing I'm unhappy with is that I have to lie to my loved ones about what I get up to some nights. That's a very small aspect of what I do but as a whole I have happy with my life and how it's going. Just being you think it would be sad and miserable that doesn't mean it is.
I can tell that you're a good person because of your boundaries and limitations. I don't know if you're happy but I know that a woman craves love and you can't get that through prostitution.
You know that you crave love but you don't speak for all women.
okay. fine. whatever you wish.