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Confidence in the bedroom?

After finding out my partner was watching a lot of porn and even live cam girls I was devastated. I can live with the porn but not the live stuff. It was overstepping a boundary for me, we had a really good talk and opened up about our wants and needs in the bedroom. The more we talked the more turned on we both were and have had amazing sex and everything in between since.
so opening up and communicating is really helping us. We’ve been together 3 years and have a daughter of 6 months so I guess you could say finding time for us has been a bit more difficult as of late.

a few things that came out were that he loves it when I am confident in my body. After a few glasses of wine I was. However I struggle to fully relax most of the time due to my ‘’Mum bod’ I have a belly that does wobble and overhang and it’s all I think about while in the moment thus stopping me from fully letting go and just enjoying the moment. He’s assured me it doesn’t bother him (it carried his child) and loves me naked so why can’t I just relax? Does it bother men?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • It sounds like you have rediscovered your sexuality after childbirth which is a great thing.

    As a man, I can say that the loose skin on the tummy or stretchmarks would not worry me at all.

    I hope he agrees to cut out the camgirls. You have to insist on this point. It has to count even at a time when you may want less sex for whatever reason.

    All the best for you and your child.

    • Thank you so much!

  • He has said your tummy doesn't bother him so just accept that and try to let yourself fully go in the bedroom. If you're not totally comfortable with that take baby steps and do it in stages.

    • Thank you for the MHO. 😊

Most Helpful Girls

  • Talking and softly being loved enjoyed and praised will slowly help!

    Just snuggles no sex and kisses all over can help!

    Our self confidence is just so hard for us girls!

    Your an amazing Mom and deserve to be happy and comfortable! Do some exercise to just feel good! After have a special snack 😋 treat yourself till you can get in a habbit

    • Hi lovely!! I have already started the healthy eating and exercise and am beginning to feel loads better! I fly to Spain on Thursday and had a skirt that I love but looked pregnant in and to feel comfortable wearing it was my goal and I tried it yesterday and was like daayyyuuummm I look pretty good 🤣 so there’s a start!

    • Good start 😁 beautiful ❤️! Your going to keep looking more amazing and in time feel way better about relaxing! Takes me ages to feel confident and still sometimes feel like I look pregnant in some outfits! My tummy slowly is getting smaller again.

    • Same! And all this crap has just knocked me back but I’m doing this for ME he can 🖕🏻 He’s been told anymore stunts like this and he’s gone.

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  • Devastated yes. Tell that to the women in Ukraine.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It does not bother most men, especially if the woman got this from carrying their own child.

  • Nothing against porn, but it kind of boring to watch the whole sexual act. I like the part leading up to the sex and the ending act.

    • I kind of understand the porn as quick fix to get off however I actually watched one of these cam girls yesterday and pretty much laughed the whole time it was ridiculous mainly her with an anal toy hanging out and jiggling her but cheeks around…I was just like what the actual fuck is this?

    • Never understood the actual thrill of getting off on watching someone else doing it on a screen. It kind like watching a cooking show looks good, but you sure can’t eat it or have it. I like r/t stuff.

    • Must admit I am the same! I much prefer the real thing and all the emotional and physical aspects to it. I look the comparison to a cooking show you are so right!!

  • I think a tummy is sexy. I like a bit of a bulge over the panties.

    • It isn’t even that bad but the skin is stretched and wobbly and it’s killing my confidence!

    • Don't feel bad. It's fine. It's sexy. 🙂

  • He is basically cheating on you, no matter how much he might try to sugarcoat it. Find yourself a decent man and not this creep.

    • Yes I understand that and I agree I do class it as emotional cheating but I don’t feel it’s as easy to just end things. We have a daughter and life together. Other than this shit he’s a great father and man. I have made it very clear that this won’t be tolerated any more and he will be out! Thank you for your reply

  • No, on the contrary, I like this kind of thing 😍😍😍

  • Leave him
    He’s not worth it

    • Do you realize they have a baby and share the responsibility for it? In addition, they already started rediscovering their sexuality and it is not all bleak. He has to stop the camgirls, but a little effort on the part of both partners can be expected. Honestly, it's not anymore just like dating for fun.

    • @EricSummer thank you for this. We have too much not to at least make a good try and you’re right this has to be from us both!

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