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Could he be embarrassed that he didn't cum?

This guy and I fooled around for the first time and I gave him a bj. I could tell he enjoyed it as he was moaning and clenching and doing body jerking movements, anyway we fooled around for about 2 hours and he never came? He did tell me before like weeks before that he's never had an orgasm from a bj. He hasn't initiated us fooling around since (this was like 4 days ago) we have hung out 3 times since and it's been fun but nothing physical. A guy friend if mine said he might be embarrassed that he didn't cum the first time, thoughts?
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So we fooled around again last Wednesday and he came! I think the first time was due to some medication he was taking because it didn't take long this time hahaha
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  • Gingerguy nailed it on the head! No punt intended! lol but seriously. Just talk to him about it! We all know this is one of the biggest reasons relationships fall apart yet we still choose not to communicate with each other? Get uncomfortable and dont hold resentments in a relationship its poison!! My two cents for what its worth
    have a great Sunday all :)

  • Well it does sound like he enjoyed it if he was clenching and going into contortions. He might have had more of a full body orgasm but didn't actually ejaculate. So this was your first time having any sort of sex with him? I wonder if he can cum through intercourse.

    • Yes he can he said he just never has from oral and yes it was our first time

    • Well a lot of the time we need "muscle movement" to bring on orgasm. This applies to men and women. So if someone is laying there getting a BJ, he might not be putting a lot of "thrusting" motion into it. The motion in a lot of cases helps bring on orgasm. Women experience this also in that they will use their hip muscles, etc to help heighten the pleasure.

    • I see your update! Did he tell you what medication he was on?

Most Helpful Girls

  • My boyfriend never cums, not even from sex. It could be a psychological thing but we r really not sure. Just keep trying, he's probably embarrassed.

  • just let him relax obviously he was too tense. just take your time and do things ass naturally as they come

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  • he's straight right?

    • Well his dick was really hard before we even started fooling around so I'm pretty sure lol

    • that may not be a 100% indicator the mind is a powerful thing.. but 2 hours of messing around and no orgasm that has to be an anomaly or he is not sold on his sexuality or you are doing something very wrong

  • Well... it's possible, but if this is "normal" for him that I'm thinking not. But you'd have to ask him. My advice (besides talk to him about this), YOU initiate it!! Don't wait for him. Also if you do talk, let him know you're OK with it. We'd like to hear that anyway. He might be more thinking of you, and that it bothers you that he didn't cum? But this is normal and it doesn't always happen. I rarely cum from one as well, but it has happened. But more often than not, it's not enough for me either... but still feels great!!

  • Maybe he gets so excited that the opposite happens for him. He feels too overwhelmed to really relax.

  • yep , that's happened to me but mostly because my girlfriend finished before me

  • haha yeah he is probably embarassed. just make sure he isn't embarassed by talking to him about it

    • Talk to him about him not cuminh? How do I bring that up without him being embarrassed?

    • ask him whether he is embarassed

    • just ask it straight

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  • Yes, males get very embarrassed when they fail to be manly.

    • It didn't bother me I would have loved him to fun but just makes me more determined next time lol

    • Make sure to put him in the right mood. Guys like compliments too. Make him feel like he's king of the jungle.

  • yeah I can sort of relate with your boyfriend here once my girlfriend couldn't make me cum from a bj. Would you say that his size of dick is too big for you?

    • No it wasn't too big it's actually just right

    • all I can say is don't let your teeth anywhere near his dick 😂 that's what made me not cum

    • No teeth I know better lol

  • he was probably nervous

  • such a poor dick!

  • Yeah that could be.

  • My first three BJs didn't result in me cumming. I definitely enjoyed it, but just didn't blow...

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