Could/would you see the benefits of being abstinent for the right guy/gal?

[notatrap]

Is waiting to have sex until marriage a thing anymore? I am asking because I have friends who get shitfaced, and hookup on apps.. then friends who are married, some that did wait.. and the ones that did wait seem happiest.

Think its a good practice to build self discipline and loyalty to each other and build excitement, romance, and an actual connection to that wedding night?

Or just... fk it, just drop the trousers week 2.

Thoughts?

[Justin_Forthekill]

It depends on the person. If you both want to wait, waiting will make you happy. If neither of you want to wait, dropping trou on the second date will make you happy. If one of you wants to wait, and one doesn't, that's an incompatibility that needs to be worked out before anything gets serious.

It's too late for me to wait at this point, but I don't think I'd want to wait for anyone. I'd want the relationship to proceed at a natural pace for me and her, without declaring limits on things because of what others think.

[Dninja4]

I think it’s a positive thing, but not so common nowadays. It’s better to wait for someone you could see yourself marrying and having children with than getting some random girl pregnant you barely know.

[Dninja4]

To answer you question more precisely I think it would help with discipline and shows the other person you care about their beliefs and really love them. Whatever works for each couple.

[AngelLily]

There's definitely benefits to waiting.

[boggboss]

For some people sure but not for most

[boggboss]

Espessily since sexual chemistry is a thing and I would hate to marry someone that me and her where off sexually

[maxmoody1986]

So u r asking is it cool to be a 30 year old virgin

[notatrap]

Not at all. Can you read?

[maxmoody1986]

Yes I did u want to wait cool for. I was actually making fun of u

[israelisevil]

Im still with girl i lost virginity to in hs after knowing her 5 days. Its not really loyalty if you havnt fucked eachother yet. Plus girls that virgins can't fuck long so sex is shitty

[MannySimms]

Denying yourself a God given pleasure is ridiculous. Far too much importance has been put on sex play. It's fun, and if you have half a brain it's harmless. Back in the 1960s we had a saying: "If it feels good, do it!". And we did.

[Dchrls78104]

I have! I'm a virgin and I'm proud of it: I'm safe from STDs (like AIDS), unplanned pregnancies, baby-mama drama, and other pieces of stupidity that complicate people's lives unnecessarily.

[Twalli]

I won't have sex before 3 months, but I would prefer to enjoy sex with my SO before proposing to them.

[GreenGold1992]

up to you