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Alright, everybody prepare for an angry rant. I don’t typically do these all that often but today I had another experience that just tipped me over the edge and brought up a whole lot of past resentment. Before I start, I just want you all to know that this is NOT intended to be a “fuck men” bashing sort of take, this is a take that is specifically complaining about SPECIFIC types of men I have met, not men as a whole.
With that said, I can’t believe how often I find myself absolutely repulsed and turned off by some of the dudes out there. I get it, when you find somebody attractive, you want to tell them … but there are SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE WAYS DO SO without puking out: “Nice tits honey” or “Hey mama, you wanna ride?” or “Wanna know what I’d like do to you?”
No, no I would not sir. I’m also not your mother, and I know my boobs are nice but you can appreciate them silently like everyone else.
I want to meet the person who told these people that making remarks like that will get them girls. I also want to meet the girls who are into that kind of shit so they can help me understand just why it is that this is apparently just so kosher and normal to some folks. Literally, I do not understand the guys who think if they honk at me and invite me in their car (while I am dressed MODESTLY) that I will actually do so, or if they make comments about my body I’ll suddenly be so swept off of my feet that I’ll just hurl myself at them, or that if they tell me they want to do dirty shit to me that my pants will just hit the floor like magic and their fantasies will be fulfilled. What fairytale do these people live in? Tell me, please.
So, here’s just a recap list of things that immediately turn me off when being approached by guys on the street ... grab a drink and a snack for this one:
Sexual remarks about my body
If you think I’m beautiful, just say that instead of: Oh baby, your tits are nice. That ass! I’d like to hug those curves! Stop … just … stop. You may as well have just shouted at me: I’m a creepy, horny fucker who can’t stop ogling you and I severely lack social awareness and self control, so I am absolutely NOT the kind of guy you would ever go out with. Remember that the next time you want to make a remark about a woman’s body. Especially if pepper spray is legal in your state.
Staring at my boobs like I don’t have a face
And no, before anyone asks, I don’t wear revealing clothes. I get that you can’t always help but look, but you do NOT need to stare like you’re making eye contact with my nipples, okay? It’s rude. Stop it.
Asking me to get in your car when I don’t know you
I don’t know what kind of parents you had, but mine taught me to not get into vehicles with absolute strangers. To even suggest to a woman you see on the street to get in your car with you says three things about you:
- You’re probably a fucking rapist
- You’re wrongfully assuming I’m a prostitute even though I’m completely covered
- You’re yet again a creepy, horny fucker who is so naïve that he thinks I’m going to get in his car and show him a good time no strings attached. AKA: You’re poorly socialized and delusional.
Shouting at me to try and get my attention, especially when you refer to me as any of the following
-Baby
-Honey
-Red
-Mama
-Sweetheart
-Etc.
If I’m across the street, the bar, or wherever, you either come up to me or wave to get my attention. Don’t start shouting at me; its super rude and embarrassing considering it catches EVERYONE ELSE’S ATTENTION considering EVERYONE CAN HEAR YOU! If you can’t approach me just let it go, man.
Continuing to pursue me when I reject you/tell you I have a boyfriend
Buddy, I’m a nice girl. If you approach me and try to flirt with me I won’t immediately grow horns and pull out the mace, alright? But I am going to reject you or tell you I’m with somebody to try and end the situation, something you need to accept. DO NOT … under any circumstances continue to pressure me into giving you my number, social media, or to go out with you, because all that says about you is: “I don’t give a single shit about your comfort or your status because I am a self-centered dog that’ll probably cheat on you.” There’s persistence … and there’s being a total pest.
Trying to block me in/corner me
Worst places to get hit on are on buses, planes, and elevators. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been cornered by a guy on a long bus ride. Literally, I have had guys block me in my seat and physically put themselves in front of me with their arms propped up thinking they can box me in, etc. It’s fucking intimidating. You might think that by forcefully keeping me there or cornering me that your chances of getting with me are raised but they aren’t. You’re actually scaring me, I’ve labeled you a total creep, and the second I can escape I am going to and make sure I never run into you again. Just do not do this shit, please.
Refusing to let me leave when I said no
If I say no to your advances and I try to leave, don’t … ever … grab my hand or arm to try and prevent me from leaving. Don’t try to block the exit or beg me to stay, let me leave you clingy, desperate creep. It is NOT going to change my mind about you, period, so just knock it off, PLEASE.
Cussing me out, apologizing, and then expecting me to un-reject you
If I reject you and you decide that’s grounds to call me every dirty name in the book … well, all I can say is fuck you too, you self entitled prick. But if you plan on doing this, at least be a man and follow through. Don’t try to apologize to me later and then expect to be in my good graces, let alone expect me to reconsider going out with you. You weren’t my type to begin with, then you called me a: “Fucking stupid ass cunt and a cock tease” … yeah I’m not going out with you, nutjob.
Trying to guilt me into going out with you
Please don’t give me the poor me crap if I reject you. I hate to say this, but I don’t care. It isn’t because I’m cruel, but it’s because you’re a stranger, I do not know you, and you can’t make me pity you enough to go out with you. So don’t tell me: “Oh I’m a great guy, but no one gives me a chance, I thought you’d be different” or “You just won’t go out with me because I’m ugly. You really shouldn’t be so shallow. I’d treat you like a princess!” Stop. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, but trying to make me feel like shit is not going to light the fire necessary for me to be attracted to you enough to go out with you. It makes you seem petty and manipulative. Besides, you only approached me because you thought I was hot, hypocrite.
Touching me ... period
If I am not reciprocating your advances, don't touch me. At all. Period. Don't grab my waist or hip, don't try to hold my hands, touch my arms, brush my hair out of my face, none of that shit. If I am not your girlfriend, do not grab my ass, rub or touch my thigh, try to whisper in my ear, or get anywhere near my boobs. I will make the biggest scene if you touch me.
That’s all the rant juice I have in me. I want to reiterate that this does not apply to men as a whole; it’s likely a very small portion of men who are just ignorant, poorly socialized or just plain weirdos. Thanks if you read all the way through and you guys have a good one.
What Girls & Guys Said
14 70What defines when a guy is being creepy: whether or not the girl is into him.
I'm sorry, but it's true. Yes, a lot of what you said are creepy actions. But a girl won't view it as such unless the guy in her eyes is unattractive.
There's been numerous videos on this very topic.
Vitaly did a joke video on YouTube. He was leaning against a Lamborghini parked on the side of the road. Asked a random girl if she wants to go for a ride with him in his car. She got all excited and said yes, without hesitation. He walked around the lambo to the car parked just in front of it. It wasn't a lambo, but the car wasn't bad. She immediately turned him down and kept walking, because "that's creepy".
I've personally been with girls I just met, randomly touched them in a "non intrusive" way. They were completely into it and blushed. That same girl would have another guy touch her and all it did was turn her off. It's all in "how" you do things and how she perceives it. So while this list may make sense in the broadest of senses, I know if a guy did any of these things but was attractive. "Your type", seemed very approachable and inviting that you wouldn't see it as creepy and go along with it.
A big problem guys have to deal with is "creep" shaming, because most of the time a guy isn't being creepy, the girl just thinks of him that way because he's not attractive enough to her.
No, it's not. If a man gropes a woman, harasses her - his attractiveness won't matter. I've been harassed by good looking guys before. I'm sure some women may be like that but I'm not. I don't care how hot the guy is, he doesn't get the right to put his hands on me.
Well, you certainly made a lot of guys butthurt with this take. :)
And that's kinda funny, I must admit. Especially when some throw the "all that is only creepy if the guy is ugly" thing. You can smell the resentment miles away.
I know right? I'm glad someone gets it.
I agree with you, and I don't do any of those things. But since you asked, repeatedly, why they happen and who tells people to do them, here's one example from right here on GAG:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22977-girls-on-tinder-do-smash-a-lot
"The opening lines that worked, were often extremely flat but to the point. One that seemed to work was just "wanna smash"."
Unfortunately, being a douchebag guy sometimes works. Sometimes he will get the girl with the great tits, and sometimes persistence pays. Unfortunately.
Once again, I see the pro-woman rant against guys and my reaction is again, "the problem isn't really guys; it's other women."
Keep fighting the good fight!
The guy being physically and vibe-wise attractive to the girl, will eliminate almost all of what you said here.
But for guys to avoid sexual harassment charges, it's good to use caution and not do any of the above initially.
Groping and such is obviously getting into creepy territory, the problem is that if a guy gropes a girl who happens to like him all to often she is totally cool with it.
Like it's only creepy if she isn't into you, that is a very common message women send to men, you may disagree and that's fine but it won't change reality.
If a guy touches me without my permission your getting kicked in the balls and punched in the nose
Homer isn't a creep, he loves his wife.
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Do you really get a lot of this?
When women stop using and playing men for their own gain, then I'll start to care about their travails. Until then, don't expect men to be jumping to your defense like some white knight.
The base point is sound, though I will say this, the severity and amount of this kind of behavior depends on were you live. In some places it will be quite bad and in other places almost non existent. You are right though being creepy is never good, but you also have to remember some people are just paranoid and assume things as well. So don't always assume someone is creepy and don't always assume someone may think you're a creep.
i get the sense sometimes that girls dont want guys approaching them at all anymore.
They only want the hot guys they're attracted to approaching them confidently, but also in a non creepy manor. If she's above your league dont fucking bother. She has millions of other hot guys interested in her so why the flying fuck would she be interested in some average looking, generic cat calling stranger? Its just basic logic.
It's not what you do it's how you do it
So you've never approached a guy you like or looked him over. by the way and this is the truth. If you think your just being casual when your looking chances are your eyes are hanging out of your head. Your body and face usually do the opposite of what you think they're doing so chances are you've done exactly the same things to guys and maybe creeped them out. I agree with what your saying though. There's a bit of tact needed even if your choking to jump on top of someone.
I have approached men before actually, that was how my last relationship started. See how silly it is to make assumptions?
There is a long way to go
Good take overall but there is an issue I have.
"Continuing to pursue me when I reject you/tell you I have a boyfriend"/"Trying to block me in/corner me"/"Refusing to let me leave when I said no"
In my experience with what a lot of my female friends have said, what those 3 quotes describe actually works. Pick up any teen romance novel or romantic/sexual fan fiction, I did and I found that girls fantasize A LOT about a guy who doesn't take no for an answer.
okay I always worried I may have come across as creepy in clubs but thank god I don't do any of these things. I'm shy so if I see a cute girl i'll probably glance across at them every now and then but i won't do anything... I'm kind of a nerd
its only creepy when the guys unattractive.
i get women to admit its only creepy if they perceive the guy as having low socieo economic status.
dont you have bigger issues?
If an attractive man gropes me, perves on me, it's still creepy. You must be a creep to be defending it and it's genuinely sad.
Sometimes I wear practically nothing at the gym and my gym bros in conversation just look at my pecs and striations. I'm thinking dude, my eyes are up here!! That was when I realized what life as a woman feels like.
Lol cool story bro
Its a cruel, cruel world out there.
Why u mirin?
@QooLipBite wait what? Hey only 4 blue downvotes, less than I was expecting!
Just say to everyone "why you mirin?" 😂
@QooLipBite hahaha "come at me bruh, u mirin.. we all gonna make it brahs"
"We all gonna make it" 😂😂😂😂👌👌👌👌 Is that a Zyzz pose... Bruh...
@QooLipBite hahah. well. yes, it is actually. And I'm going to follow you just for that because that shows we are friends lol. I'm not really into Zyzz bc he was a dbag lol but whatever, i still do zyzz pose sometimes. So alpha pose you know? 😎
It's a sick pose 😂 won't lie 😒
Great take. I always laugh when I see guys grab or say creepy shit like this, especially to a girl they don't know. I wonder what's going through their head.
That being said, the issue with this behavior is that it ruins it for other guys who are genuinely wanting a date whether it's online or in person. I mean I'm seeing a girl right now but I can see from a girl's standpoint as to why they're hesitant to talk to strangers because of this attention.
I agree 100%. Nice Take
*puts arm in front* sorry baby, I couldn't really read more after you mentioned "stare at my tits". How are those bad girls doing? 😂😂
Seriously though there are babes at airports, I really need to brush up on airport game.