Dating a Bi-sexual guy?

Question

I've been dating a Bi-sexual guy since feb, he brings up the fact he's bisexual quite a lot which sometimes makes me question "why does he bring this up so often" i dont care if he is?

My real issue is more sexually speaking. He isn't the most adventurous in bed, missionary, maybe some choking but thats it. whenever we try other positions he can't keep it up and he never finishes unless i give him a hj?
He also doesn't go down on me, he mentioned he doesn't like doing it and i dont give him any because of this.

i need some tips on how to spice things up a bit and make things more fun for both of us!

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Bisexuals face a lot of erasure, bisexual men especially.

I'm bi, too, and for a while I mentioned it to my partner fairly often. Half to validate it to myself, because it felt amazing to finally be able to tell someone else who loved me as I am (I was closeted before my current partner), and half because some part of me felt this need to remind him.

Maybe your boyfriend is doing something similar?

I'm no longer making as much of a deal about it, but I've only been out for a year and a bit. So it is still relatively new for me.

I'd suggest an open hearted, fun, exploratory talk with your boyfriend about what he might like to experience.

But be prepared for a wide variety of answers - some of which may not be compatible with you.

My partner and I did that before we decided whether or not to go steady and have sex for the first time. We talked about what I wanted, what he wanted, what we both wanted, and how we would manage the items that didn't overlap. Some weren't really big deals to let go of, others required some talking.

But to me, even just being able to openly discuss my WLW side with someone who loved and supported me, who was as excited for me to explore these ideas as I was, was such an amazing relief. It brought us closer together, and provided us with lots of ideas for sexy times.

Quackthulu · Accepted Answer

Okay… the real question is why are you dating a guy that you aren’t very compatible with?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

the fact he keeps announcing he is bisexual could be because he desire a bi MMF threesome with you, he only finish from handjob might be because he used to have sex with men more, and the fact he doesn't like going down on you and not adventurous in bed might indicate he lean more to men than women.