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Dating a guy who went on a trip with his female friend. He keeps a condom box at my place and today I noticed 4 condoms in his bag. Please advise?

I’m dating a person for last 6 months who last week claimed he likes me a lot and we are exclusive and he even wants me to his parents.

This week he said (without any previous notice) that he is going on a short trip with his female friend - he said I am honest with you and nothing will happen. She has a boyfriend too and we booked 2 rooms.

Of course I didn’t like it but still I somehow trusted him. We had nice dinner together and I thought of trusting him with full heart. This morning, was keeping some stuff in his bag and noticed few condoms. These are the same condoms from my place (he keeps abox at my place).

Just to crosscheck, I randomly asked him this is a big bag what do you keep in this? He opened all chains and showing me all stuff but he didn’t show me the condoms. This really made me sad. Don’t know what is going on with him. Please help.
Updates:
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2 things to note here 1. He told me that I am going out with her and she’s just friend- nothing will happen because she has a girlfriend 2. I don’t know if he keeps condom in bag for us? In case we are finished at home
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  • This word "trust" is such a useless catch all platitude thrown about these days.

    Any girl with... you don't go on trips with male friends.

    "I trust them" I don't give a crap. First of all, you aren't there so there is no way to know if anything happened. Secondly... even if there was a way to know and I KNEW nothing happened I'd still break up. That is just too much close, intimate, personal time to travel with someone of the opposite sex.

    I wouldn't stick around with someone who chose to do stuff like that. That crosses my boundary. It is non negotiable. If it is ok with her and she chooses to do it anyway it is just a clean hard break up. Nothing more to say. I don't even care if they don't cheat, that just isn't something you do when you are in an intimate, romantic relationship with me.

    Trust has nothing to do with it. I trust her not to pull sheeet like that. That break up would have been an easy decision. There would be zero reason to even contact me again once she got back from the trip. The moment she left to go traveling with another man it ended.

    If you chose to stay with him you deserve any angst, turmoil, stress, doubt, worry, unease, suspicion, pain you end up going through. The fact something feels "off" and you are worried enough to start this thread shows your gut has been triggered. You didn't break up but are choosing to stay through this so enjoy whatever issues you have to suffer through.

    • Thanks for the reply! "Any girl with... you don't go on trips with male friends." Is this really not viable? a girl and a man to be friends. I am really worried here because.. what if.. he is telling me the truth.. should I just break up because he went on a trip? I had asked him what if I go on a trip with a man, he said this is 21st century and if he is your friend, then why not..

    • That was a spelling error. It should have read "any girl dating me... you don't go on trips with male friends" Boundaries. You do not spend that much intimate alone time with men. It doesn't matter if you have attraction or just see them as a brother. That is too close. No male roommates either. Too close. Boundaries.

    • Okay. Thanks.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Its Better to be safe than sorry? Although if he's going to be safe he could also end up sorry? Or he's thinking about moving on but if he doesn't feel the connection he thought he'd feel? Well at least he's thinking ahead and not chancing bringing back visitors or life long pests! Basically he wouldn't like to shit the bed or even the doorstep which he could find himself sleeping o? That's including the bed! Or maybe there for a mate? Ask him instead of torturing yourself and him come home to a load of his clothes cut to shreds! Lol
    Cheers
    Vlad76

Most Helpful Girls

  • If I had been with a guy for six months, I would of asked what the condoms were for... just to see his response.

    Now you will always wonder what they were for, you or her or if he found some other random guy or girl. You should be able to talk about these things.

  • If he wasn’t planning on having sex then he wouldn’t have brought protection.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Is it not obvious enough for you

  • Sounds like the end of this relationship.

  • Why don’t u ask him.
    u have nothing to loose.
    he's prob. having sex with others

    • I will. Once he is back from the trip. Can guys cheat if they look into your eyes and say nothing will happen?

    • Most people are honest when they say that, at least I like to think so. But... I was in a bad relationship, 6 months. The sex was bad and I cheated. She caught me with condoms in weird places and then Followed me. Anyways not the same situation as you... you guys sound happy, we were not.

    • Yes, we were.

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  • He’s playing you. I wouldn’t buy a damn word he says.

  • You got played :(

  • Let the guy have some fun... He'll pump her then sleep

  • He could be planning to have sex with her.

  • People that are honest don't try to convince people they are honest...

  • Big red flag MoveOn

  • Wow, you really trust anyone don't you?

  • I knew a married guy that traveled to Asia with a load of condoms. Pig.

    • He may have been going on a humanitarian mission in family planning? Lol

  • dump him? unless u dont mind him sleep with other

  • Ask him ffs

  • What's the point in going on a trip with a female friend if you aren't going to spend the whole trip fucking?

  • Kill him and his friend.

    Justice is sweet.

  • Well worst case, at least you know he’s being safe.

  • Agrees w the person who said men are only friends w girls they want to fuck. This seems a odd unless this was something that was planned way before he met you. He may have not done anything w her but I’m sure he wants to fuck her. I’d keep an eye on this. Especially considering the fact that he didn’t show you the condoms.

    • Doesn’t matter if she has a partner I’ve nailed many chicks who were in a relationship. Also if those condoms were for the two of you then he would have had no problem showing them to you. At the same he could have kept them from you cause even if he said that and that was the truth as far as the condoms you’d turn it into something else. Sometimes it’s easier to just not day a word.

    • Which I did. I just kept quiet.

    • Why do you think it was planned before? I met him ie 6 months back.

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  • Guys are only friends with females they want to fuck.

  • The collective is corrupt and ego driven, what do you expect? Only through God can you find a decent, trustworthy person. Any other way will be a fail!

  • He'll never become a good bank robber. How could he be dumb enough to not just buy condoms on the fly?

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