Dating a Man With a High Body Count?

Soooooo I'm seeing here that a lot of men have strong feelings about dating a woman with a high body count, saying she can't be trusted and that promiscuous behaviour might hint that she's a cheater.

Of course, as a fellow female myself, I don't believe this is true. (Before anyone attacks me!)

If we turn the tables, do you think the same can be said about men with a high body count? What is considered a high body count for men?
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  • I think your question is really a search for an argument against high body count women. I think you approaching it all wrong. Before you dismiss me, please let me explain.
    Whenever people get into a relationships, the most important thing is the two people in that relationship. People in your past or his are not in the relationship. Therefore, it is nobody's business how many partners either one of you has had. As a matter of fact, asking your partner about their body count is never helpful. If you wish to know, you are not confident in yourself. I would focus in figuring out why you don't consider yourself in higher regard. If your partner is asking you about your body count, you should be sensitive to their insecurity and avoid answering the question and focus on helping them gain confidence. Perhaps, letting your emotions show next time the two of you are intimate. Perhaps, showing a little bit more attention to your partners sexual needs. The list is long. Try to figure out what matters to them and avoid the land mine that is the body count question.

    • I completely agree. And I feel like our journeys are all very different. Personally I've always just asked if they would consider themselves experienced and that's just to gage what kind of sexual RS we would have.

    • @sammy1537. Wrong. Past behaviour is a very good indicator of future behaviour. This is the basis for credit histories, driving records, security clearances, et. al. Buddy, you can't turn a whore into a housewife.

    • If I were to apply your reasoning, then the next Holocaust is inevitable. Democrats will segregate blacks and whites again. Chinese will kill 30 million people. There won't be a need to release criminals from prisons. Heck, if they're never coming out, why not just kill them. Do you see the slippery slope of such thinking? Our civilization has survived because of the notion of learning from one's mistakes and of forgiveness. Your logic is too broad and if allowed to race hold in human phsychie, it would destroy humanity.

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  • You are free to have ANY views and standards on men you want.
    Biologically a woman can be with a man who has slept with 200 women and she still knows 100% her baby is hers.
    A guy can be with a woman who has has only 1 lover who entire life... but has a 1 time, 20 minute fling and he could be raising some other man's child, another man procreated... not him.
    Biologically there are differences.

    • This is mad.

    • You being free to feel anyway you want? Judge prospective male dating partners... a possible husband... a possible father... by any criteria you want? You want a virgin? Go get one. You want to date a guy who has slept with 50 women? Go for it. You want a committed relationship guy? By all means, you go for that? You find players who go to bars and sleep around gross? By all means stay clear of those guys and turn your nose up to them. You want a male porn actor? Go for one of those. You go after any guy that reflects your values and attitudes about dating, love, sex, marriage. You reject anyone that doesn't hold the same values or those that are opposite of yours. Every woman on the Earth is free to judge men any way she wants. Every man on Earth is free to judge women any way he wants. If you have a problem with that then you've got issues. Oh, also, if biological FACTS bother you... you've got even deeper issues than first suspected.

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  • To me it depends when the bulk of the body count happened. If it was younger and not looking to commit and since getting older has been on relationships without cheating then the count doesn’t matter. If they are still racking up numbers, that person isn’t ready for a committed relationship. So they aren’t someone I want to date

    • But how do you know he was in a committed RS and stopped sleeping around? lol. He could be lying...

    • He might be, but so could a person who doesn’t have a high count. Can’t base the relationship on a what if.

    • True!

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  • To me body counts doesn’t define a person if some people will be loyal and not waste others people time maybe we all wouldn’t have more than One body on us to me we all some fuckery fuckers some broken hearted bitches

    • yes!!

    • What? Say that in English?

    • @Daniela1982 😩😂🚀🤦🏻‍♀️ You can't be serious chula read again your question 🤔😉 dont try to act smarter than others when you got to check on yourself 1st 😉fix yourself

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  • dat should depend on context, ain't it? like an accountant with a body count of 82 seems worse than navy seal. cuz navy seal might have troubled lots and found it difficult 2 make relationships

    • * might have traveled lots

    • Okay, I see what you mean. So you're saying men sleep with different women based on opportunity?

    • maybe if the guy (or girl) has a job that involves traveling all da time, and they can never stay in one, all dey got is ldr or some fun on the side. so i dont blame them for having some fun on the side, cuz ldrs suck

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  • Only time a high count would make me suspicious is someone who's had many partners over a not very long time spectrum. Because that generally means either that they aren't as good as you thought or that they don't know what they want and keep hopping around. Personally I'm not interested in being part of that unless it's something that we both are aware of and have been open about in the beginning.

    Otherwise I don't think body count is important otherwise.

  • A lot of women seem to want an experienced guy. I personally prefer that he's been with no more than 3 people. If he's a virgin, even better. I like to teach 🤣

    • Woah! Nice. I need someone to teach me to experienced guy for me it is! lol.

    • But you can learn a lot from porn or research. I dont consider myself experienced nor inexperienced. My first ex taught me nothing. He just pressured me into doing a bunch of stuff i didn't wanna do. My second ex was avirgin, so i used what i learned from porn/research (plus made up some tricks of my own lol) to pleasure him 🤷‍♀️

    • You know this makes me feel slightly better. Not to sound weird but I feel like I've always had a sexual nature and I've always been eager and watching porn from a younger age than my friends etc. I may be inexperienced physically but I feel like when it comes down to it I do know my shit lol

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  • Anyone with a high body count are Ho's in my opinion. That is what society has become with people jumping from one be to another without even touching the floor. The only reason you haven't heard about the increase of STD's is because COVID overshadowed it. I might add that the more people you screw the better your chances of getting either.

    You're shitting me! She got COVID and a couple of STD's? What was she thinking?
    You're shitting me! She got COVID and a couple of STD's? What was she thinking?
    • That covid shit has a 3% death rate only reason I’ve been celibate

  • Seems like a very strange way to address this as body count. Sounds like we are talking about a serial killer not a person who has had a good number of sexual partners.
    I really don't think it is that big a deal with either men or women as we are still waiting for conformation of the first case of a woman wearing out her pussy or a guy destroying his penis for starters.

  • Well first off, it absolutely is true. We have substantial data on this and you can actually determine the likelihood of divorce and cheating based upon her body count. She also has increased probability of anxiety and depression, disatisfaction with sex and dissatisfaction with long term relationships on top of it. We also know that a woman is more likely to be promiscuous if she has a poor relationship with her father.

    However the data shows that it doesn't seem to have as strong an affect on men as it does with women (which makes sense as sex is far more resource intensive for women then men (she is the one stuck with a baby after all if things go wrong).

    That said, I think its incredibly stupid of women to actively seek out men with high body counts (women do in fact do this, they virgin shame guys, they seek out men who have had multiple partners). If he was that impulsive before their is no reason to presume that he won't be in the future. If he was having sex with every girl he could, then your not particularly special. If he cheated on past partners he will cheat on you. If he tells you he cares about you there is a pretty good probability he is lying and gave that line to the past girls in order to get into their pants. All in all its moronic but it is her choice (just as its men's choice to decide to go after a woman that is a bad partner simply because they think that the past doesn't matter (despite the fact that it defines us).

    • Is there a sample size on that study? Is it just one? Where was it conducted? When was it conducted? What was the age range? Did they take into account religious beliefs and orientation or other factors that may majorly impact one's sexuality? Please share your data sources. I've seen someone else declare this as proven science so I'd just like to understand the types of studies done and their quality.

    • @Mars24 Yes to all of those but also why should I share the sources if we both know for an absolute fact that your going to ignore it? I mean do you really think this is the first time some one has questioned this? I go and I spend an hour or more giving multiple sources and your going to dismiss it outright because you don't like what it says (we know this to be the case because it has ALWAYS been the case). In fact not only do I know what your going to do, I know how your going to do it. I'm going to present all the data, you will point to the one study done by the heritage foundation and proclaim that since they are right leaning that everything they said must ergo be bias (the bias fallacy, just because some one is bias doesn't mean what they have stated is incorrect), and thus you will conclude that everything I stated must be false (without being able to argue against any of the other many sources I will provide). Again, I know how this is going to work because this is how it always works, you have already made up your mind that I am wrong (I can tell based upon your language choices and the aggression in your request), and their is nothing that will alter your opinion, not even if god himself came down from the heavens and corrected you. So do you still want to waste both of our times with this? I mean I will provide them if you really want me to (I'm a bit honored bound to do so), but we both know it will not change anything (best case scenario you slink off and say nothing and pretend like you didn't see the sources) so it seems rather pointless.

    • I wasn’t being aggressive or at least not meaning to come off that way lol. I am genuinely curious the quality of the sources. I have a background in science so like to look at the studies and statistics directly to get a better idea of how valuable their information is.

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  • I totally agree with you...

    its guys who have a screwed up sense of self importance and dont know the difference between fair and wrong that have this opinion... and MOST of them have a high body count themselves, so in that sense, I would say they are untrustworthy to make a rational decision, but NOT because they have fucked so many women, but because of the opinion that they keep that is so sexually biased...

    most of us rational thinkers know there is a difference between sex and love, and when one finds real love, all else that came before doesn't matter...

    • Well said! My exes were quite promiscuous and one of them literally told me that if I had not been a virgin he wouldn't have taken me seriously. Honestly wtf...

    • You were a virgin yet you got involved with promiscuous guys? Why?

    • @BlackCatBone Because I was dumb. Because they were very nice, patient and gentle with me in the beginning and made sure it stemmed from a friendship first. When I agreed to be in an official RS with them, that's when things started going down south lol.

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  • I am a girl who slut shames men. I got a player guy friend and i always point out his promiscuity whenever i get a chance. I will not date a guy with a high body count. I don't wanna keep on thinking if i was better than all those girls or if i am one of those girls

    • Who cares. Just don't complain if a guy ever calls you a Hoe Bitch

    • I was giving my opinion to a question asked by a user who was not you. I never asked anyone to care. I don't have double standards like you guys so i am far from a hoe I get called a bitch because people can't handle it when i say the truth. Like usual, somebody didn't like it when i said the truth so he decided to order me around

    • @hangry22. Funny how your "truth" couldn't summon up an argument about how hard your life is. You are all hat and no cattle.

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  • Starting with 10 would be pushing it and past 15 would be pretty much inexcuseable in my mind. High body count tells me the person has little self control, is impulsive, can't form stable relationships with people or greatly undervalues the meaning of sex. Basically emotional problems or coming from a culture where it is normal while for me it is not and I look down on such behaviour. In other words, we wouldn't be compatible.

  • I think the number of people you’ve slept with has nothing to do with being a cheater.

  • Studies have proven that it's a bad idea to take a promiscuous woman seriously. But men don't operate the same way women do. It doesn't have the same effect as it does on women.

  • I really wish this stupid term would go away.
    That, and spelling thick "thicc"...

  • Why is that of course? not all women are sluts, the tables are not turned, men and women are different. Men body count didn't matter to me, because I am a straight man.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyGirlIsNotASlut

  • Well you are free to believe that promiscuity doesn't have any negative effect on a woman. Reality + studies have already proven the opposite. Same applies for men. I would be wary of a guy who sleeps around a lot. Those are the type of men and women who don't know how to commit and lack impulse control. In other words, they are less suited for long term commitment compared to people who rather seek long term relationships rather than one night stands or serial daters.

    • You don't think that some people have just had more sexual desires than others, and never met the person worth committing to in the past?

    • @alyssa11 Just because someone has more sexual desires, doesn't mean acting on these impulses can't do you harm. It's called having no impulse control. This applies to pretty much anything. Drugs, alcohol, smoking, sex, masturbation, sugar, junkfood, you name it. Like I said, promiscuity affects both genders. Even more so for women since the biology between man and woman is different.

    • I see where you're coming from now. I'm applying this to myself - for e. g. I've always been someone with more sexual desires but I never slept with someone for the sake of it. I've always had an appetite, but I always choose to eat healthier foods to maintain by health and fitness. Impulse control is definitely a big one.

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  • Body counts mean nothing to me, men or women. The real question is, in line of that body count, was there cheating in the way?

  • His dick has been inside so many pussies he doesn't know whats special anymore, he just sees you as a number.

    • @chocobrowniemonster. What he realizes is that there is NOTHING special about her or most women. Most women are so devoid of personality or substance that they are practically interchangeable.

    • @KrakenAttackin exactly. Most women have nothing to offer except a pussy. And you can find those all over the place, they aren't special.

  • As a man I can speak confidently about my opinion on this! 😁

    Anyway. No as a man I personally don't care if I date or have an intimate relationship with a woman who has a "high body count"

    As for the reason behind some men "caring" about how many people she may have been with, I'll give you my theory on it.

    Many men and some women today, especially with how competitive the dating/hook up scene is today, are very... wary.. of those who may have more sexual experience Note: I could go into the whole reason we tend to be wary of sexual experiences due to society, but thats a conversation for later on. Anyway, we're wary of the fact that someone has a higher "body count" because we know that said person has had many sexual encounters Some of which may be horrible and some of which may have been amazing and so with this in mind we're afraid because as people who invest so much physical, mental, and emotional energy into someone; none of us ever want to feel like we were "dumped" or "ghosted" because we might not have measured up "sexually" as their old partners.


    Now again this is my perspective on the subject which is from opinion and personal experience.

    Note: The same idea I've listed can be applied to women being nervous of high body count men

    I look forward to hearing from you soon OP! 😁😁

    • I think I agree with you on this one. I virtually have no experience lol, so although I have always preferred dating experienced guys so they can teach me, I've always felt deep down that I might not match their expectations... then I'm reminded that I have much more to offer than sex (that's why they're dating me!) and we learn eventually :)

    • That's also a very good thing to remember. Based off the type of relationship you're in many times sex may be just a side benefit of it. It's always more important to talk to whoever you're with than to make unfounded predictions or expectations. Believe me most guys honestly won't blame anyone who doesn't any or much experience for asking (Well some might but those are your dick heads). We want it to be rewarding for both parties involved! Why else do you think guys focus so much on trying to make sure their partner "releases" during sex.

    • Yes, totally agree! My exes all knew I was inexperienced and were so gentle about it :)

  • I'd say it's the same... mostly because being promiscuous devalues sex as it goes from intimate bliss to a personal pleasure device.

  • The more partners the more chances you get to win a Sexually transmitted desease. I know a guy who has a high body count I don't respect him neither do hot women because he would fuck just any girl. All of them looked rachet, had baby daddies and I'm sorry for saying this but they all looked worn out. So if he's messing with all those dirty, burnt, tattooed women then imagine what unknown deseases he could've contracted.

  • I think you need too clarify "body count" because mine went up over 110 in 1991 when I made a radio call for air support near Kuwait. I won't even begin too get into what I did in Panama City with the grenade launcher on my M16A2M203. If your not referring too kill ratios in active war zones, than clarification is needed ASAP.

    • Come on, you know what it means.

    • Let's say, for the sake of argument, that I don't, being that my crystal 🔮 ball is in the repair shop and all. Clarification, if you will.

    • A level 6 and been in sexuality threads and don't know what a body count means? What are you, a virgin?

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