Exactly what level does she meet of your own expectations in a partner?
You’ve pointed out that she has the mindset of a child. Can she challenge you? (What we all normally need in a partner)
Can you see yourself falling head over heals for this woman? Or is she just an easy attractive virgin? The creep factor is that glaring part of your description, and that you mentioned it at all.
Mostly. What does she want? Does she even like you enough to take it that far? You would after all be one half of a whole in a relationship with her. Her own wants and needs matter just as much as your own.
Another way you could look at it. Imagine she was your daughter. Would you want you dating her?
Obviously an over the hill woman would immediately turn toward the "creep" perspective, but I digress... I said she was a virgin because her friend made that explicitly clear to me, and it stuck with me. As far as a woman "challenging me," I don't want my woman to challenge me- I want her to submit to me, as any real man does... I've met her three times now and she's told me and her bestfriend she wants to be my girlfriend, but again, at this point I'm more concerned with the perspective that I'm taking advantage of her, than the actuality of it. I already got shit for dating a 21 yo girl (from bitter over the hill women); I really don't need any other judgement.
Yup. There is the knee-jerk reaction I expected. The creep calling me “over the hill”. This woman deserves so much better. Clearly the others here who sensed it along with myself were all on point.
“ I don't want my woman to challenge me- I want her to submit to me, as any real man does...” This is so damn wrong. Especially given the situation. Behavior of a predator. You are looking for an easy attractive woman and found it. May her friends protect her.
It depends on your intentions, you question mainly focuses in her physical appearance and her childish mindset and then taking her virginity, seems a bit one track minded. When dating a girl your primary focus should be on how compatible you are as a couple, can you communicate effectively, do you have common interests etc, and ultimately can I see myself still with this person afrer the looks have faded and the sex has dried up.
She is likely going to need more time to be comfortable with a partner and especially being intimate with one, and that is something you will need to accept from the outset, she may even never want to be intimate with you depending on how her autism affects her. The pace at which sex in this relationship proceeds will be entirely down to her.
If you are looking at this from a purely sexual standpoint I think the chances of this relationship being successful are very low.
Having seen your responses to other people's comments, I now see that you are actually a predator and are pretty disgusting person. I had originally given you the benefit of the doubt, unfortunately you show your true colours in these comments on here.
My honest answer. I don't understand what drives someone to want to pursue and take the virginity of someone who has the mindset of a child. I'm not saying you're a pedophile, but it's definitely creepy. I think you also know this is a little creepy considering you made this post.
Invariably, anyone who uses the preface, "I'm not saying you're a pedophile, but..." is implying just that.
You can take it however you want. You asked me for my opinion on the matter. I have been around plenty of autistic people and some (not all) of them are never going to be emotionally or mentally mature enough to be in a relationship and have sex. When it is more severe to the point where they think and act like a child, it is very noticeable. The way you worded your question also very concerning.
My issue with this is that you mentioned she speaks like a little girl, and has a mindset of a child… And you are asking if it’s okay to take her virginity. I mean, to me that is really sickening to even think of taking her virginity.
It’s not pedophilia, but it’s beyond creepy and morally wrong, in my opinion! Its like preying on vulnerable people, someone who doesn’t understand the concept of consent or sex. I don’t understand how it would really be okay, it would be taking advantage of her.
That was one side of what I was thinking; however, look at it another way: She has autism, yes, but does that mean she can never have a relationship, get married, have a family? I can see it would be creepy if someone was dating her BECAUSE she had a young voice, OR BECAUSE she was a virgin, but ultimately what is the alternative?
I understand that, people with autism are fully capable of having relationships and families, etc… But, autism is a spectrum, there is mild, moderate, and severe.. Even with those spectrums, there’s much more to it, and some are developmentally delayed in some aspects. Here’s what I’m trying to say; You mentioned that she needs her friends to help her shower, she speaks like a child, and she has a mindset of a child. How does that not come across as weird? As if there isn’t an ulterior motive? As if it isn’t wrong? Once again, I get it. People on the spectrum can 100% get married and have families but you need to see it from another persons perspective. The way your post came across, it seems as though you want something out of it, to take advantage of her, take her virginity. That’s just how I see it.
I can see how it could be perceived as that, if someone views men in a certain way. My point was to make it clear that she hadn't had a relationship before. Thank you; it's not like your perception wouldn't be something people may think.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!My honest first thought... Sure why not who doesn't want to get dick. Why else would she be on Tinder
My second thought what the fuck is this question? The fuck is going on here
It feels like you already know the answer.
I hope this is just a troll...
Is there anything you like about her, other than her appearance? Your post is pretty much just a long list of negatives.
She goes to the gym with me; hikes with me; we watch anime together; laugh at memes, and she's shared some secrets about herself that even her best friend doesn't know. I do like her, I'm just stuck up on how her friend described her as "having the mind of a child." I don't think she does, but I've only met her a couple times, and she's asked to be my girlfriend.
um why are you posting pictures of her on here-
That's from google- it was a random search. The point was that she looked similar.
oh ok, that's fine then.
By this question, you don’t deserve this innocent girl.
Not if you aren’t serious about a lifetime commitment to her. Go slower with her.
Yes. Just understand her limitations and treat her like she is 13. Do not THINK of taking advantage of her. You will be lover and Dad at the same time. It can work.
I don't know how I feel about the Dad part, but alright...
Yes. Seems awkward. I've been around (but not with) a girl like this.
Its a spectrum, so some people who have autism you wouldn't know it by looking at them or even if you talk to them. It manifests in different ways for different people.
I agree- and I haven't had much experience, especially for female autistics. I'm not sure how deeply she can love someone romantically. I'm not sure if she can function in many ways, but needs reminding in others. I'm hoping someone can offer some guidance, because I've only talked to this girl for a few days, and she seems very invested in getting closer to me.
It's illegal because of she is mentally under 16 yes old
You shouldn't have tell him that.
That would be taking advantage of here if you took her virginity it's like taking someone's self worth away from them and especially if she has autism.
I'm not really following- your objection is that dating her (and being serious with her) would be intrinsically taking advantage of her? If so, then as I asked to someone else, is she then destined to never have a relationship? Because if anyone dating her is wrong, and they shouldn't do it, then what does that mean for her?
It's here virginity and virginity is pure
So they say
I think that would be called exploitation.
Has she been declared legally incompetent by her parents or guardian?
Then anything you do with her without the express permission of her parents is rape.
Pure and simple.
Stick to adults dude.
You’re already talking about her as if autism is her whole personality. Also the fact you’re already thinking of taking her virginity shows you’re using her innocence to take advantage of her.
and to the arseholes who are making out like autistic people can’t have a relationship - shame on you!
This. People who don’t know autism imagine autistic people like some kind of aliens, or like in this post, they think they are child-like. I suggest the asker to talk to actual autistic people before planning to take anyone’s virginity. Sounds like they’re not ready for this person.
I agree austism doesn't define anyone although it's mainly interacting with people but to take advantage of her he's referring to taking away her innocence is purely wrong in general rather dating or not 🤨🤔🤨
@PenkWing exactly I’m autistic and I’m not like that
I think you should consider that almost like a marriage proposal. On the same level of seriousness.
Are you willing to commit to that kind of a relationship?
Because that's a lot of work. If you're just going in cause she's pretty and you like her but not much more, I don't feel like this would be a good idea.
Pine needle oil and zeolite will cure the autism. It isn't a mental disorder it's caused by heavy metals and toxins accumulated in the brain. The vaccines they give us when we are infants have mercury in them, and communities that don't vaccinate their children, like the Amish, don't have kids being born autistic.
Haters gunna hate but this dude is a saint, listen to him
You better respect her and take care of her
There are different a levels of autism. If she has Asperger's, you shouldn't have major problems with her.
If her level of autism is several (it seems like it), why the hell you wanna even dater her, or bang her? Come on man, you're going to low with your dating options.
Severe***
Seems it's more common for an autistic girl to end up with an NT guy then it is for an autistic guy to end up with an NT girl
I would be asking her father about this.
Get out while you can, RUN!
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