Dating and Sex in College: Healthy or a Shockingly Bad Idea?

[KaidenKass00]

Let me get this out of the way right now: I didn't have sex in college.

Yeah, that's right.

I could argue that as a commuter (I didn't live on campus), I never really got into the "college life" so-to-speak. I could also argue that I've always been old for my age and I kinda looked on the incessant partying as just...unappealing. I mean, I had my own circle of friends I had in high school because even though we all went to different universities, they were also all within driving distance. So I'd hang out at other campuses every now and again and it's not like I didn't have a social life.

But perhaps none of that is an excuse. Maybe I should've dated and had lots of sex. Would I be better off today...? What about you? If you're in college, do you find the dating scene exciting and healthy, or is it just plain scary? I bet girls and guys give very different answers...

You might want to check out this article, too, because it brings up a lot of interesting points. There are people who believe dating and having sex in college is a natural and healthy part of social development. Others say it's basically just an excuse for bad behavior and it can lead to BIG problems before you even get out of school.

I have friends who wish to God they'd never partied as hard as they did in college. Yeah, partying and dating/sex are different but let's face it, one sort of leads to the other. If you're not doing much of one, you're probably not doing a heckuva lot of the other. And girls have to be more careful than ever, as instances of rape seem to be rising, and parents are starting to get a little worried.

For the record, I don't think anything is better for me because I abstained in college. At the same time, I don't think anything is worse, either. And people are starting to wonder if the maturity level just isn't high enough for all this dating and sex in college, and it's simply better to wait until you're...um...grown up. But wait, in order to "grow up," don't you have to have experiences?

And if you're religious at all...well, I'm not opening up THAT can of worms. Hell no. In the end, though, there might be some truth to this-

College is the best time of your life. When else are your parents going to spend several thousand dollars a year just for you to go to a strange town and get drunk every night?
- David Wood

[Jager66]

From what I've been able to find, mentally, it seems some people are well suited to casual sex and for others it can be very damaging.

It's kinda like how some couples are ok being swingers, it's even good for their relationship where for other couples it would ruin them and could cause long term personal issues.

Surprisingly few women seem to be well suited to casual sex, at 1 partner before marriage the chance of divorce drops from 80% success chance to just 50% and continues downward until 17% at I think it was 6 or 7 partners. Meaning some women 1/4 or 1/5 are well suited to casual sex but most are not. This trend is not found among men.

[Anonymous]

I'm, a commuter too, no sex on the college for me ;)

[DarkHumorRUs]

I don't want to do it all in college for the sake of doing it all in college.
I want to do it all in college because how the fuck else are you supposed to easily find that many girls after college?

[KaidenKass00]

Well, that is a point. ;)

[Vanadium]

I also didn't have sex in college, except for a few hookers, but that was on vacation in Thailand, so I guess it doesn't really count.
Anyway, I found college to be an underwhelming and sad experience. My already tiny social circle diminished to nothing, as I had moved to a town far away from home and couldn't make any friends. I studied computer science in a college that was kind of specialized on the whole technology and engineering sector, so there weren't even any women. I was invited to parties maybe once or twice over the years, but it was always the same: I didn't know what to talk about, so I just got completely shitfaced and went home.
And the saddest part is that I didn't even get a degree out of it because the loneliness lead to depression which caused me to fail my classes.
If you get the chance to make friends and have sex, do it. No matter how unhealthy you think it is, I'm pretty sure it's better than the alternative I got to experience.

[mrsingle]

College is the best time of your life. When else are your parents going to spend several thousand dollars a year just for you to go to a strange town and get drunk every night?
- David Wood

That couldn't be further from the truth! My parents didn't pay for my college, yes it was another town but close to home, and I never got drunk or hung out, after classes I went straight home. College was like high school for me just more stressful not fun at all.

[TheGuyFromMiddleEast]

Totally agree with David Wood. I'm amazed at the fact that people are getting funded just to go out there and have fun.

[WitchKing]

i'm a freshman in college and i've been having sex since highschool. I think its healthy. Why would sex not be healthy?

[orphan]

clickbait. doesn't answer her own question.

[orphan]

his*

[Wulfila]

I was at university for 5.5 years at 3 different schools, and I never had sex with anybody. College girls are a waste of time; there is little to no originality among them. Besides, I'm a love-minded guy, and most collegiate women are only interested in their "careers" or partying like loons. Needless to say, few wish to get into any genuine commitments, which is what I want.

[JennieF]

When I was in college, I had a lot of it.

[Anonymous]

well , i wil keep simple and to the point , iam a freshman at college , i have a fairly large social circle and lots of friends, guys and girls its all nice and good but i dont really see any girls willing to have sex, i mean i feel that all these movies and shows about colleges are lie s

[Anonymous]

In retro-spect, I should have spent a lot more time working on having sex in college. When I had a girlfriend, we should've been doing it every day (we did have sex or at least oral every time I stayed at her place, but still should've done it a lot more) and when not in that relationship I should've spent more time either in another relationship (or relationships) or just pursing something casual. The sex I did have was great though.

[KaidenKass00]

I think we ALL thought we should've done more in college. ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Ha! Very true!