Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Dear men: Do men still appreciate virgins these days?
Anonymous
I’m a virgin and I wanted to know if virgins are still appreciated by men and if they still want to marry virgins. Also please mention what country you were raised in and what is your descent i. e Lebanese, Syrian, English, Polish, Punjabi, Pathan etc so I can see how opinions differ by culture because culture can affect how people view things like this.
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What Girls & Guys Said
8 66yes, i can appreciate a virgin. makes the sex more special...
Not really. To me there's no value in virginity and I don't get the hype around it. I feel like only virgins think that virginity is special.
The only thing I like about virgins is they're typically disease free. Downside is a slow ramp up to becoming good at sex. Also, breaking up with a virgin can be hard. Leaving a first love always that way.
I meant to marry one specifically not as a temporary relationship thing. Obviously it’ll take time for her to get used to sex but it’s the fact that she respected her body enough not to sleep around. Doesn’t that make you respect her and think she’d be good as a wife or to spend your life with? I mean this is one reason I have heard before.
Yeah that makes sense but if you live in a culture where most people have sex before the age of 25, it's not a big deal.
I thought men think virgins are tighter (they are btw) and also the ego boost of being the first one. Also don’t most vaginas feel good? I don’t get how a woman can be “bad” at sex. Maybe the first few times will be painful but from what I heard most boys say the girls they have sex with mainly have sex in missionary position which tells me that actually most men do the work and the women are passive. I don’t get where you’re going with this if I am honest. Do explain because I would like to understand how you think and reasons for why you think the way you do.
Vaginal tightness is nice but not a requirement for me at least; as long as it's not as big as the Holland tunnel. A woman can be bad at sex if she just lies there stiff as a board, not being turned on and dry as hell. Then if its oral, she ends up using her teeth. 😬😳😂
LOOL you never know some people are fast learners. Maybe the girl is dry because she isn’t attracted to the guy. I think if the woman finds the man attractive she has to get aroused by him. It all depends I suppose. A non virgin could also be equally as stiff and just lie there like a board.
I am from the Uk. In our secular society zero value is placed on a girls virginity, it is more shamed upon than valued but in our christian community it is still desirable.
I’m also from the UK and I’ve only ever heard boys shame a girl for not being a virgin and they call them slags, whores, hoes etc. They don’t want to marry a girl who was “used goods” and would mostly only be in a relationship with a girl who is a virgin when they met her and that is a relationship that leads to marriage. The boys also require proof of virginity and that means they expect you to bleed and have at least a certain degree of pain. I actually prefer boys like that because I don’t want a boy would would be happy with his wife having slept with other men.
That's an awful thing to expect when having sex for the first time though. It won't always hurt and you won't always bleed. It didn't hurt for me and I did not bleed at all. I had a great experience and felt comfortable with my partner. Everyone deserves that. If a guy want's proof like that I would say he is a very toxic person with harmful and outdated views. You can prefer a virgin, but wanting proof like that is messed up
Yes I think that's still a thing. Men do wish to marry untouched virgins. Their rare nowadays.
I certainly can appreciate them, both from the strength of their beliefs and also through attraction.
Yes men do appreciate it. The one thing that I suggest is that you make very sure that when you do lose your virginity that the guy knows and understands that you are a virgin.
Yeah, we appreciate virgins, its your personal choice so yeah.
- from Nepal
Marriage is for weak men who are pussy slaves. As for you being a virgin, taking it up your tail pipe or sucking golf balls through garden hoses doesn't make you a virgin anymore.
By virgin I meant completely sexually untouched. A girl who has done nothing sexually.
and you know how much we believe you now.
Why do you find that so hard to believe? I have five friends the same age who are like this too.
Yes, I do. A virgin girl is ideal for me.
I appreciate virgins and want to marry one. I'm Caucasian (white) and American.
Raised in the US. I don't appreciate virginity. I don't see what's there to appreciate about.
dont really care about virginity
i only care about how wet she can be so the sex will feel great
yes... i still appreciate it... it's not a requirement tho... i understand people make mistakes... do some things for the wrong reasons... but no whores, please and thankyou... i'm from the great and mighty USA, i'm a redneck
I do
Yes they are still very much appreciated they are definitely a lot of fun to play with but I wouldn't want to marry one
So you want to have sex with her before you marry her then... how long would you wait for her to ‘be ready’ to do it.
Yes I wouldn't buy a car with out test driving it first the length of time I'd be willing to wait for her to be ready deoends
I won't marry a virgin. I will marry someone who I met as a virgin. I won't propose before 3 years and I won't wait over 2 years for sex. I am white and lived in the USA all my life.
Yes that’s what I was getting at of course. Do you say you’d appreciate her more because you were the only man she ever had sex with?
It doesn't really matter anymore
Absolutely.
I suppose. I saved myself until shortly turning 19.
Virgins are like sandwiches. You enjoy them more when you know no one has fucked them