Did any of your exes come out as gay/lesbian after dating you?

[DizzyDesii]

Or have you come out after a hetero relationship? I wanted to honestly ask “Did any of them GO gay?” Just because high school and college had a weirdass trend of people constantly bragging about how much they enjoyed experimenting with the same sex, and then had the nerve to deny it when brought up later in life, AND they still ask to be referred to as straight/hetero. Nah, I don’t think it works like that 🤷‍♀️ I’ve never had an ex follow the trend mentioned above nor has one genuinely come out as gay, but I’ve had my suspicions that a few were not straight, which is part of why one or two got the boot in the first place. No more ATLiens for me lmao. #FeelFreeToList #Lesbianest (Lets Be Honest)

[MCheetah]

Yes. One girl I was dating revealed to me she had an "ex girlfriend" and unintentionally came out as "bi" (queer) to me. I was so pissed off and heartbroken! I was used and lied to by a lesbian, and she thought I would accept being cucked like that! I immediately broke up with her and it took every once of me not to curse her out even more and get really nasty and mean. This was late 2009 and I'm still pissed off at Ellen for that bullsh*t! Mainly because she came onto me andmade the first signs of interest, giving me the false impression she was straight/hetero (attracted to men). So yeah, not only did one of my exes come out as gay/lesbian to me, but she did it WHILE still (pretending to) date me!

[DizzyDesii]

Her name would be Ellen 🤣 Ellen Degenres, Ellen Page

[MCheetah]

Damn, I didn't even think of that!

[MCheetah]

@DizzyDesii Thanks for the MHO.

[Jerre]

Had one girl who said she was a lesbian. After we fucked and she came multiple times, she changed her mind. I still fuck her several times a month.

[DizzyDesii]

You are such a trip 😂😂😂

[Mac-One]

@dizzydesii Ok if you think that. Was not passionate with any of them, not even a kiss except possibly one but can't recall doing it.

[Mac-One]

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[MrOracle]

I had a friends with benefits relationship for about 6 months with a pre-mission Mormon girl who was in her rebellious phase. She went on her mission, came home, married a Mormon guy, had 2 kids, and a few years later divorced him because she realized she was a lesbian. She's been living with another woman for nearly 20 years at this point. So, yes, I think this qualifies.

While I think there was always SOME attraction to women in her, even back when I was with her, she was certainly not at all shy or reluctant to be having sex with a man at the time - quite the opposite.

I still talk to her from time to time - she's the second cousin of a good friend - but she lives 1200 miles away, so I haven't seen her in 15 years or so, when I was in town to visit last time.

[DizzyDesii]

How did she just suddenly realize lmao

[MrOracle]

It wasn't sudden - her realization took several years, during which time she was still married to a man and having kids.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle She left her husband because his dick wasn't as good as yours. You ruined her. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Jk. He was probably abusive, actually, unfortunately.

[MrOracle]

No, she actually has a very good relationship with her ex husband, who is remarried. She was always attracted to women to some extent, but never saw herself either having sex or being in a relationship with one when I knew her. I'm sure some of that was religious expectations, but her interest level just wasn't very high at the time. It seems that 12 or 13 years later, that changed.

[Jamie05rhs]

Interesting.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

LOL!! I think so. Or maybe bi… I don’t know for sure but he definitely would joke around with his friends, and his friends would act gay together.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea in high school a lot of guys would hump eachother while telling us “hey im gonna do you like this one day!” Like why would i want you after seeing you hump him lmao

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Exactly lol. Weird shit…

[Aerissa_Jade]

I had a boyfriend that is why we ended it, he said he likes guys more. We even had lots of sex to be sure. He said sex was awesome and best he ever had but he was finding guys attractive. He doesn't really think he is bi, he thinks sex with women is good but that its biology, he really likes the gay stuff and has no interest in going back to women anymore, and if he did, it wouldn't be because he wanted anything beyond a quick orgasm from them, basically using her body real quick. Whatever, its his life to live how he see's fit.

We ended it on good terms and are great friends and he has moved on to men, been in a few relationships with men, and was my roommate last fall. After a rough breakup he moved in with me for 3 months or so, until he got his own place. Being that rent and housing is so pricy.

We are still great friends though, if/when he ever gets married I'll be attending his wedding, and he to mine.

[DizzyDesii]

You hella nice for that... thats all i can say

[Aerissa_Jade]

Many of my ex's we are on good terms, I try to keep things civil and friendly. Some we just lose contact and that is that, others I hate their guts and want them to die. We are great friends though and he has my back, would stand up for me still. Not all relationships need to end badly.

[DizzyDesii]

I need them to end badly so that i never want to take them back. Almost all Tried to end on a good note. So i go into savage mode and say wreckless shit to ensure they’ll never want to see me again. It makes it easier for me to move on within that same month

[Aerissa_Jade]

Makes sense, I've actually met some really great friends and future boyfriend's from ex's that we were on good terms with. I though, have often said we tried this, lets not try it again. It didn't work out.

[Lliam]

I don't have any gay inclinations at all. All my exes were hetero and loved cock. I seriously doubt if any of them turned gay. The ones I stayed in touch with certainly didn't.

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂😂 you were a good reminder to them 🤣

[Lliam]

Right? After they experienced the greatest thrill of their life, that's what they craved. 🤣 🤣 🤣

[ChrisMaster69]

I had a girlfriend decide she was bisexual while we were dating.

[DizzyDesii]

What made her randomly feel that way

[ChrisMaster69]

We used to go out with my friends who are lesbian, Bi , gay etc and my sister n her girlfriend She had a relatively quiet life and had not been to gay bars etc She admitted to being attracted to girls

[DizzyDesii]

Yea one of the guy im referring to, before having met me, his friends dragged him to a gay bar and he kissed guys to see if he liked it. I had no interest in him after he told me that

[ChrisMaster69]

Oh we kept on dating I had dated bi girls before That and my friends were a mixed bunch so would be hypocritical

[DizzyDesii]

I dont think its hypocritical to be friends with a gay person but be of a different sexuality. If they all jump off a cliff, you jumpin too? Nah. I let them do they thing. I do mine. We just date the opposite of what eachother prefers

[ChrisMaster69]

They were not gay, lesbian though

[DizzyDesii]

I just bunch it all together. But I’m just saying, you shouldn't feel pressured to date someone lesbian just to show support for your lesbian friends. You can be their friend and still do your own thing. But you’re 41 so im sure at this point, if you date someone, its cause you like em

[mikaelis]

I've had an ex best friend turned out to be gay/ bi a few years after in his high school years? Although probably more on the gay side. By that time though , he already smeared my name, bullied and insulted me during jr high which I still don't understand why but we were so close inthe early years I just didn't get why. Hope he is better but one day I should ask why he became a jerk. Don't really mind how he came out sexually lol

[DizzyDesii]

A lot of people are mean to the person they like. Maybe he knew you didn't like him back. I was bullied by a girl throughout high school who came out as gay and college.

[mikaelis]

Sorry to hear that. Hope he didn't like me in that way because I couldn't reciprocate but I do hope he is happier where he is. I am besties with a gay guy from day one of my workplace in a different state but didn't realize it until a friend at that time told me so I have no idea what that says and know way too much about the lgbtqi world for a guy whose as straight as an arrow haha. Maybe my gaydar is broken haha

[DizzyDesii]

My gaydar definitely broken

[mikaelis]

Tell me about it. I end up befriending gay men only later to be told they think they like me and I have to convince them how to get back to friendship lol. But they give up really quickly so I'm good lol

[himiko089]

I have not thankfuly but I would support them if they did no matter who they are.<3

[Harleigh90]

🤣🤣 You already know my answer!

Yes about a year after he come out as gay. Is now married, I was a groomsmaid at their wedding and also Godmummy to their daughter.

[DizzyDesii]

I don't know how you do it 😂 You’re a good friend all i can say

[wagsingle]

I've known 2 different people from fundamentalist churches who's spouses left them after coming out. Serious heartache caused by the homophobia in those churches. People marry because they think it will fix them or help keep it a secret.

[melanieeeB]

Thankfully NO!

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[NathanDavis]

nope... three of them were straight before, during and after our relationship, and the last one was bisexual before, during and after our relationship... and me, same as usual... lol

[DizzyDesii]

Lol ok

[Lucy68]

Two actually; the first one ( fun fact he was my first kiss) was freshman year of highschool and he cheated on me with another man. The second one was sophomore year of highschool and long story short he preferred men but due to his family being extremely religious he was afraid to come out, well they accepted it after we broke up and the guy went all out.

[DizzyDesii]

I watched a lot of soap operas as a kid and they had crazy storylines about couples leaving the other for the same sex or a trans. So yea i just dont ever wanna go through what they went through. On one of my shows, the girl got pregnant by the guy then he came out as gay. Now she's dating his younger brother. His younger brothers twin just left her guy for her best friend girl. Their uncle’s ex wife’s dad just left her mom for another man. A man who once kissed the uncle who i think is closeted. Its a mess 🤣

[Lucy68]

Sounds like a typical day in my hometown (which is a small town in the deep south) well minus the gay part but everything else was accurate

[20yearsolder]

None that I know of and I'm definitely not gay

[DizzyDesii]

🤣 I’m just watching tv and i see people breakup with a good guy or girl and then they go for the same sex all of a sudden. I guess they had an awakening or something

[20yearsolder]

That's on TV, I'm sure it happens in real life too

[DizzyDesii]

Thankfully never to me but i did like one guy until he admitted he kissed a guy one day to see if he liked it. Thats just a no from me dawg

[Fiend88]

Not that I know of. But you know what they say... the only difference between a straight guy and a gay guy is a half a gram.

[DizzyDesii]

A gram of what lmao

[hafinjun]

Almost anything these fays

[hafinjun]

Days

[GMANN56]

I have smoked pot, coke, done x, dropped LSD with guys and never once was tempted to fuck or suck or be fucked or sucked by any of them.

[DizzyDesii]

@GMANN56 this is so bad br so funny at the same time 🤣 Yea drugs are not a good excuse as to why someone experimented. If they did that shit, they were likely into the same sex before having done the drugs

[IamAdonis]

Thankfully No! I’m not sure how my ego would handle a dumping and then that …

[DizzyDesii]

I know right lmao

[Citizenkirk]

Some people might be afraid too come out of the closet, I imagine.

[DizzyDesii]

They’re hurting others by faking it. I hope they at least dont date people who prefer someone hetero cause trickery is not nice

[Citizenkirk]

I agree

[AvaOneLasTime]

What? No.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao i’ve seen too much tv 😂

[AvaOneLasTime]

TV and internet and games are not close to reality.

[DizzyDesii]

I don't know i’ve seen some shit go down in High school. I think tv is accurate

[AvaOneLasTime]

Different countries then. I can't name a single example like that, in my life, in my surroundings or/and from people i know.

[AvaOneLasTime]

single case like*

[AviatorTom]

Not that I know of. I can relate an interesting story though.

Many years ago, a married couple worked at the company I worked for. They had been married for about 5 years when the husband unexpectedly asked for a divorce. The wife, who was a very attractive woman, was devastated. After the divorce, the husband moved in with his gay boyfriend.

[DizzyDesii]

Man thats hurtful. Why prolong it? It further hurts the person. He should've just said honey im gay, byeeeee

[Slartybartfast]

No, but during my highschool reunion my wife asked if I had a crush on anyone. I said I asked *"""" out and she turned me down.

She laughed and said "don't take it personally , she asked me out and I turned her down "

[DizzyDesii]

Wowz

[Agape93]

Nope