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My husband is an alcoholic and last night he came home very drunk. I'm used to it now so I was ignoring him. He owns a gas station and often times he comes home late so I always leave his dinner in the microwave. I was watching TV in our room when he starts calling me into the kitchen claiming that he can't find his food. I refused to get up because he knew exactly where his dinner was but he was just being stupid. After a few seconds he starts screaming my name very aggressively. When I finally make my way to the kitchen I was super mad and he just starts laughing saying he missed me and trying to come on to me. He starts grabbing me and rubbing all over me which he always does when he's drunk. I was not in the mood and I kept pushing him away. He wouldn't stop no matter what I did. I even slapped him which made him mad and he got very aggressive. We ended up having sex anyway because I got tired of fighting and I was actually kind of scared if what would happen if I kept fighting him. The entire time I kept thinking about what would have happened if I had fought harder and kept fighting. Would he have stopped? I left for work early this morning because I didn't want to talk to him. I did talk to my friend about it and she is insisting that he raped me. I hadn't thought about that until she said it and it's really bothering me. Did I just get raped by my own husband? I have no idea what to say to him. I'm not sure if I should just drop it or bring it to his attention. Is my friend being dramatic. If my husband did in fact rape me what should I do? I know this is the dumbest question but im really conflicted right now and I think I need a few more opinions.
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 17Well technically he didn't rape you because you said you have in and let him. If you didn't and he continued and you kept saying no then maybe he would have.
The fact that he's an alcoholic should make you more worried than just this incident. If he didn't get help you need to leave him.
I wouldn't call that rape since you consented but I'd be more worried about him always being drunk
She only consented because she felt threatened... out of fear. That's definitely abuse
@BarbaraP it's just my opinion that it's still consent, I'm fully aware others feel differently
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