Did I overreacted by stopping in middle of blowjob and breaking up with now ex boyfriend?

Question

He had a habit/fantasy of calling me names when I'm done on him.

I told him many times that I don't like it and to stop it. Last time I made it very clear that if he calls me names again, I'll leave.
And just as always, he said "my slut" in less than a minute after I went down on my knees.

So I just stoop up, told him it's over and left his house.
He deserved it, right? Or did I overreacted?

SjE78 · Accepted Answer

some people like that sort of humiliation and dirty talk during sex, however since you already warned him that you dont like it, and yet he ignored you and did it anyway then you was more than justified in what you did... and i can tell you stopping in the middle of a BJ and walking out he's gonna remember that cos he would be so sexually frustrated by not finishing it will remain with him for quite a while after...

roastbeef · Accepted Answer

Heck yes, especially calling you a "slut" and when you asked him politely that you did not like the name calling. Heck when a female is going down on me I appreciate and love it why would I want to jeopardize it.

GraceMarie01 · Accepted Answer

You definitely didn't overreact. The fact that you even had to tell him more than once to stop, and that it makes you uncomfortable sucks. Boyfriends are supposed to listen to you and make you feel safe. I would have ended it too. stay strong love!

Tamii693 · Accepted Answer

I'd say yes he deserved it. You should've told him something like "ima go be another guys slut, You are wayy too small"

AustinMan · Answer

You did, IMHO, over react. I'm confident you know he's not being sincere. It's just part of his fantasy and desired dominance. Do you agree that there's a slut in every girl?

ririissleepy · Answer

He should have respected your boundries. As long as you feel strongly about those boundaries it was a good reason to break up. But if you are suuuuper regretting your decision it was an overreaction. No one can determine that except yourself.

rachel776 · Answer

never did that but that would be a great idea if you're gonna break up with a guy

Stevepro68 · Answer

Yes you overreacted. He's an asshat for pushing the point.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

He deserved it

goaded · Answer

Nope, you did right.

bowenw · Answer

He deserved it. You warned him. He obviously doesn't respect you.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Wow, this whas an extrem move. On girl side i will agree,
On mans side i whink you whas in a very big danger to end to hospital.

Personal i hope nothing bad has hapen. I think he deserv a brake up in the condition you told him many time to not say thous thing, but personaly i whas hoping for a more decent brake up.
Something like, stop the blowjob, don't talk to him and brake up next day or something like that.

ColHathi · Answer

I dunno about deserving it, but you warned him, so ^^ He should've respected your boundaries.

douride2 · Answer

I don't think you over reacted. in my opinion you gave him ample warning not to do it again.

Skankhunt · Answer

It's all about boundaries and respecting them. Clearly you didn't have boundaries or he doesn't want to respect the boundaries that the two of you made with each other.

MountAverage · Answer

Why do you care what we have to say about it? You're either sure it was the right decision or not.

Dougzy · Answer

wow that was cruel he must have really deserved that

SenseiSeptred · Answer

There are names, and then there are rude names in general. You did the right thing, but you should have bitten his ding dong when he did that towards you each time rather than break-up with him to have you be his curse.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No you were in the right he dint care how you felt sirry to hear

MarkyMark77 · Answer

lol thats wild what did he say?

mrkdvsn · Answer

He deserved it.

Valnac · Answer

Absolutely not, you warned him and he did it anyway. Good for you!

mrgspoter · Answer

LoL you could have done worse than that, I'm sure insulting a lady after that is completely degrading, what's he saying your one for being with him weird?