Did my boyfriend cheat on me or is he being honest & I caused it to myself?

so i haven’t been with anyone else but my boyfriend. I’ve noticed my body acting different & so I went to the doctors. I had to wait for my results, but i get a call & they say I had chlamydia. I confronted my boyfriend & you know told him the doctor said I had that & I asked if he had to tell me anything. He was shocked when i told him & honestly it looked like he was innocent. He swears he hasn’t been with anyone, he looked disappointed but i want to believe he didn’t. So now I’m wondering if doing it from both holes can cause that, if my sex toys caused an infection or did he cheat? 🤔

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  • This is where if you don't have medical training... google is your friend.

    As a medical professional I'll be blunt... chlamydia is NOT something you can get through anal, oral or usual sex UNLESS your partner has it. It is NOT some magical comes out of nowhere infection. You are NOT going to get it from sex toys unless you share those toys with someone else that HAS chlamydia.

    It's that simple.

    Now you said elsewhere you've been involved for 2 years.

    If your boyfriend had chlamydia prior to you getting involved together trust me, you'd have had an infection LOOOOONNNNNGGGGG before now. You'd very likely have gotten it SOON after getting together if he wasn't treated via antibiotics.

    Why? Because once treated chlamydia is GONE until you are infected AGAIN by someone with chlamydia. It is NO DIFFERENT than any other bacterial infection. It is NOT like herpes or aids/hiv which is with you for long-term or lifetime.

    So... in short...

    Your boyfriend is a cheater and he cheated with some filthy STD diseased woman. If you are smart you'll contact your doctor and ask for a FULL STD workup - herpes, AID/HIV, etc. to make sure the CHEATER hasn't given you something else.

    • Thank you! This makes more sense!

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  • It has to be one of you. If it isn't you, then the answer is clear.

    • Yes, could be that he cheated because it doesn’t make sense to me till this day.

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  • sounds like he cheated. but he should get tested. if he has chlamydia then you likely have your answer.. frankly if you even if he doesn't get a test the answer is fairly obvious so long as you are being honest that you haven't been with anyone else. there are non-sexual ways it can be transmitted but it is very VERY rare

    • I told him to get tested & been on his ass about it but he was not caring for it. Then one time i got mad & asked him again & he said he went & got hpv vaccine. I had to take medication but yeah could be that he cheated.

    • thanks for MHO

  • You definitely got it from him, but that doesn't mean that he necessarily cheated on you.
    How long have you been together?
    Is it possible that he got it before getting together with you with no noticable symptoms till now?
    The longer you've been together the more likely is it that he cheated...

    • 2 years 😔

    • Yikes, while going weeks or possibly even months without knowing is plausible... 2 years... You would most likely have gotten it earlier if he had it before meeting you... Unless you two have been more or less religious in your use of condoms for the majority of your relationship I don't see how this could have happened without him cheating... Now you need to decide what to do about it. Him having sex with, or even feelings for someone else doesn't necessarily reduce/speak poorly of his feelings for you. His feelings for you are independent of others. And since most people grow up thinking that doing anything with more then one other person is wrong, it's not weird that he might be reluctant to talk with you about it... However it's still a huge breach of trust that he did this without talking with you about it. You should be able to be in a relationship with him and able to trust that he won't hurt your feelings. I don't think that what you should be upset about is him having sex with others, or giving you a STD. But him failing to be *completely* honest with you. Can you please pm me by the way? I'd love to talk more about this in private.

    • @losalt - he has chlamydia not HIV. Like comparing an apple to an orange and calling it a potato. Do TRY to use google if you don't know what you're talking about... seriously there's millions of articles on chlamydia.

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  • lol chlamydia is sexually transmitted.. it isn't from like an infection.

  • How long have you been having sex with him? He could have been infected when you met him. Did you get tested before you started having unprotected sex?

  • Try looking it up on line or ask your doctor on how you contracted it.
    A word to the wise, never go from the back door directly to the front door without it being washed squeaky clean no matter what.

    • I asked the doctor how i have it & my partner doesn’t if we both haven’t been with anyone else. He just stayed quiet & said he can’t answer that for me. But yes we stopped doing both or at least not too often.

    • well that doesn't sound good. Sounds like you found the guilty party. Sorry to hear that.

  • If he has pain during urination, a discharge from the penis or his balls are painful, he has chlamydia. If you haven't been with anyone else, chances are that you got it from him. It doesn't appear all by itself.

    • He said he had to pee more than usual but that was after I told him we needed to talk & told him I had chlamydia. I told him why he didn’t say anything to me. He said he didn’t think anything of it. We talked in person he looked upset & asked if I’ve been with anyone else I obviously said no.

    • I'm sure he was upset. He knows that he gave it to you, but where did he get it from? He needs to get tested for it.

    • Yes most likely he did, because it wasn’t me. We’ve been together for 2 years, but It’s been a while back since this happened I took my medication like they said. He said they only gave him hpv vaccines. We continued to have sex after a while & everything has been good. No other symptoms.

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  • Obviously cheated

  • Well, it’s only transmitted through sex from another person and no other way so it’s not from toys or doing anal. He definitely had it and caught it from someone else.

  • Cheated

  • No. It can’t. You can only get it from an infected person. You can have chlamydia without any symptoms for years though so it’s possible that he got it before he was with you.

  • If you don’t keep your toys clean, then I think it might be possible.