Did porn and video games replaced a man's need for wife and family?

[Steamnir]

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[MrOracle]

They did not replace his need for a wife and family - they replaced his motivation to commit to a woman who wasn't a WIFE (i. e., didn't have any of the qualities of a WIFE) just to get sex or to try to find a connection. They saw their fathers and uncles do this in the 70s, 80s, and 90s, and they saw what happened as a result - and many of them experienced it first-hand. The women get the house, the car, the kids, control of visitation, alimony, and child support, while the man is lucky to be able to afford an apartment and to see his kids 2 days a month - kids that many "moms" poison against their dad. These guys learned that lesson, and so they completely checked out of the dating market. Sure, they might occasionally seek out a girl for casual sex IF it seems doable, but they often aren't looking to date, much less marry, because they can't attract one of the limited pool of WIVES on the dating market.

And, yeah, many of that group also lost their motivation to make something of themselves - to have a good career and build a good income, etc. - because if doing all that work still isn't going to get them a WIFE, then what's the point? The whole reason that men were the primary breadwinners is because working is HARD, it's often DANGEROUS, and it's a huge sacrifice, but doing so USED to virtually ensure that you would be able to find a WIFE.

Feminism set about to ELIMINATE the nuclear family by turning women into men and men into women - and sad to say, they were fairly successful. Women have been taught for 60 years that degrees and careers and high incomes were the secret to women's happiness - and women today are less happy than women have ever been. Meanwhile, untold millions of boys have grown up without father figures AND often also with very Feminist mothers, and this has turned those boys into feminized man-boys.

Are we all happy about how that's worked out for everyone?

Now, WOMEN can be the ones who spend their entire lives working, and men can stay home and run the dishwasher and the clothes washer as they game all day and watch YouTube. Isn't Feminism and "equality" great? We're all so much happier now.

[Steamnir]

What a decent perfect answer, thank you

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle You NAILED it!! 🎯

[Jamie05rhs]

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[Anonymous]

The 'nuclear family' is something that has been actively targeted as being unnecessary and just bad, as in its current form, it apparently perpetuated the patriarchy and a woman's expectation to conform to a role, despite how men also were forced into roles they might not have wanted to play, too. I don't think we can generalize men as no longer needing a wife and family because of X and Y, as plenty of women throughout the years have prided themselves on not needing men long before men ever made the assertion he doesn't need women. Men have always been the first to admit that, yes, they need women and do want women. Women are proudly the opposite in a desperate attempt to empower herself, despite how it's just false and a sad display. It's the cause to the effect of how and why men are who they are today. Women don't really understand just how much they shape the men around them. You feign your interest in men altogether, and they lose interest and go elsewhere. The internet and social media has helped to push the agenda.

So, the existence of video games and the easy access to pornography is just a distraction from the real issues that exist.

Nothing is truly being replaced so much as it is just being discouraged, and men who are feeling largely abandoned by society and women as a whole, are finding alternatives to happiness whether it be hobbies or pornography as an aid to his sexual pleasure. Obviously, some men can develop a reliance upon pornography or even video gaming but I don't solely blame them for that. And it is something they will have to overcome if that is the case.

That being said, I think you can still maintain your relationship and children despite being a gamer. You obviously just can't choose the video games over their needs. And if you decided to marry and/or have children with someone who is obviously addicted to video games, then you chose poorly.

[AddylynnNightingale]

My boyfriend games and I can confirm that I am not being replaced.

[Berethor]

Wait unless sex robots would come out, feminists are rightly feared of being replaced. :)

https://www.feministcurrent.com/2017/04/27/sex-robots-epitomize-patriarchy-offer-men-solution-threat-female-independence/

[Berethor]

I mean wait until better sex robots would come out. :)

[normalice]

No, it replaced a lot of guys' ambition. Video games are a challenge but they are also a challenge that can be overcome. The drive to excel at something that is hard and compete or cooperate with others in video games artificially satisfies a need what would otherwise push most guys out into the world to meet the challenge of figuring out how to harness reality. It is by experiencing the world that men learn to appreciate the women and children in it, and so figure out that as they age, unless they become some sort of teacher, their only real handle on the future of humanity is going to be through children of their own. But such long term planning requires a foresight that is blinded by the bright shining flicker of a screen..

[Summeroflove]

Well. Lol. Maybe for some men. I don’t watch porn that often. It really makes me sick and it’s wrong. There is a lot of bad stuff.

Video games. I play sometimes. The same as watching TV. Long as it’s not excessive.

[HighValue]

No. Not being able to find an actual GOOD woman with an acceptable past, compatible good morals, no kids from past relationships but she does want some and to raise a family together, no drugs or alcohol, and having compatible long term life goals is what prevents GOOD men from being with someone to create a family with. Good men can stay single for years because they can't find any good quality women for an exclusive LTR. The better of a man he is, the less likely he will find someone compatible.

It is easy to find immoral hook up people, but very difficult to find anyone good enough.

And the majority of guys that are into gaming likely would want their woman to game WITH them, not replace her with games.

[Fireguy17]

nope, the real thing is much better than self-serve.

[Charlesbrandonf]

No not exactly. But phones did.

[DavidRaul]

No not at all

[Danny_dan92]

I don’t want a wife and family because a metric fuck ton of women these days have become the very thing they claimed to hate about men.


Cheaters, narcissistic, and egotistical




I constantly see women that are very visually pleasing to look at, that have boyfriends yet they act like complete hoes on social media. With complete disregard for how their man feels about them putting themselves out there like that.




I’m not talking about them dressing revealing, that’s cool. But there are a lot women that seem to not have the capability of letting go of tendencies that are socially acceptable when they are single, at the point of time they get into a relationship

[TroyDT2]

Definitely seems that way in Japan, and somewhat here in the USA. From working in the legal system, I do understand why so many are reticent about marriage, since it is a rather easy contract to break and the victim, if that person is the higher earner whether male or female, is the one saddled with the greater financial burden.

I was born sterile (non-CF CBAVD) so I will never have biological children. So why risk all that my grandparents left me on the bet that someone will remain faithful and not instead "change her mind" a decade down the road, find a skillful attorney who gets all of my separate property declared community property, and end up losing half of everything plus $thousands per month in spousal support payment till she decides to marry again? Sounds like a really bad idea to me.

GTW I hate porn, which is mind-poison, and the only electronic game I play is chess.

[TroyDT2]

by the way not GTW. typo. small keyboard big hands.

[MysticDevice]

Not even a little.

[Jamie05rhs]

No. They just fill the gaps.

[BJP21]

Its another avenue of Pornography and sexual exploration. If it does have fun. Id rather do a real person not a virtual one.

[boobliker]

it would seem that it looks like it, boy stay young longer now with P & VGs they don't even want a car

[Still-alive]

no. and you are a guy posting this.

[TallAnon]

Nope

[KrakenAttackin]

They are an opiate in a world that has near extinction of "wife material" women.

[Passing_by]

It never did, can or will ever do. People might be deluded into believing it, but it can't happen.

[abitcurious2022]

No, there are things a wife can do that video games and porn cannot. Some examples:

Good conversations, cook you a good meal, hugs, kisses, etc.

[FireFox001]

No. The looming danger of a divorce and it's life ruining consequences did.

[CharlieDMX]

No. A normal guy has room for all of the above