Did you have a threesome with your husband/wife?

I’ve been keen for years to try a threesome, I’ve always been curious about what it would be like to be with another woman and i also fantasise about my husband being with another woman while I watch. It’s a big fetish of mine. I’ve you had a 3some with your spouse, how did it work out for you two? Do you regret it? Did you know the person?
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  • Never had the pleasure, but I would be open to talking about it with my wife if she was ever interested. I have thought about threesomes often in my life. First, you need to ignore all the negative comments. When done properly, a threesome can be fully enjoyed and be a positive experience for everyone. Not all people are into them or think they are morally right, so that is why you just ignore them. Even people who did participate and still have negativity about them, take what they way with a grain of salt. I see many people are recommending a stranger. I sorta agree with this. Using a friend or someone close can be a disaster if anything goes wrong and they use your experience against you with other friends or family. No one wants that drama or embarrassment. If it was me, it would have to be someone we are both comfortable with, know rather well and also know 100% they are std free. So with a stranger you really cannot know this. So this becomes a bit of a catch-22. I recommend using a swinger type of website or something like craig-list to find a 3rd of your liking. Exchange a few emails back and forth and get a feeling for their attitude and mentality. You don't want someone pushy or aggressive. You can weed out all the perverts and headcases this way. Once you have been talking to someone you like, then you can meet up for coffee to discuss further. You need to meet them in person to make sure this is someone you can be sexual with. This is where you can really get to see if they are someone you can trust or not. You need to sit down with your husband or boyfriend before hand and talk about any rules or boundaries you are expecting. If there are things you do want, talk about it. If there are things you don't want to see, make sure you voice that too. Then when you talk to your 3rd about it and lay out all the expectations on the table, everyone can be in agreement with no surprises. The worst thing I think is going to a club and picking up a complete stranger, have your threesome and next day not even know their name or if they have AIDS or anything. They could be a complete stalking headcase that you want nothing to do with. I think if done properly, it should take several weeks to find the right person.

    • I wish my husband was more interested in the idea. I’m 100% up for it but is more cautious

    • Yeah, for sure. Lots to be worried about, lots to nervous about. This is why it is good to talk about it when you can. Hopefully he is open to that. There are other ways to slowing open this door. Watching porn together that involves threesomes is a start. Also, what about going to a strip club together and getting a lapdance while he watches?

    • I don’t know if he’s into strip clubs, but he is into porn as we do sometimes watch porn together

  • My wife and I have had a few. We are both pretty open minded individuals. Her experiences prior to being with me, where she had been with a woman before, I obviously cannot offer her that in our relationship. Therefore, I don't feel offended in anyway. She has told me she does not want to be with another man, since that would impact my feelings. Anyway, we've had both great and not so great experiences. One with a close friend, where we were all somewhat drunk and things just started happening and it was a wonderful pleasure. Everyone was relaxed and no one felt out of place. We've been with another woman we did not know very well and she became very clingy to me both during and after. Trying to call my office, visiting our home late, etcetera. But we've also been with a girl we did not know much at all other than a party and she openly asked the two of us back to her apartment and we had a great time there, and none of us had been drinking at all. I think it has to do with the person you are and the people you are with. As long as your foundational relationship with your wife/husband is strong, you can overcome anything else.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I would never do it personally, and I'm completely against it. If someone else does it fine I won't judge them, but if I'm dating someone and they're actually really considering it and does want to do it it'd be a deal breaker for me.

  • Whatever you do, make sure it’s a stranger if you don’t want to cause issues. Make sure there are boundaries, if you are not comfortable with something, make sure you tell him! Otherwise have fun!

    • Yea I think a stranger is definitely the best option!

    • I volunteer

    • Ha! We want a female

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  • I volunteer.. we tried with another guy friend of us but he thought it a bit strange and went out - but friendship is still there.

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  • My ex and I were swingers for 9 years, so I have plenty to share about this topic.

    • I’ve also thought about swinging! He is very against it though so I don’t think that’s something he would do. Did you enjoy the swinging lifestyle?

    • I really did, and it wasn't the cause of our divorce either. It is definitely something that both parties have to be 100% on board with. You have to be able to differentiate between sex and love and compartmentalize it in order to be successful.

    • Yea I can definitely compartmentalise it, not sure my husband can though. He isn’t keen on the idea and feels it’s the first step to me getting rid of him

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  • Ah well no.. you know i think sex should be private between a couple.. like not anyone for a something called the fun.. maybe we understand it wrong

  • I might create problems so id stay away

  • Threesome?

    No thanks, my man is mine only.

    • There's two ways to look at that. By letting him have a threesome with another woman.. you will feel that way when you control the threesome. And you will feel more empowered by the other female recognizing that you are in control of her too; because he is yours

    • @jtimberlake Pfft Hell No.

    • There's nothing wrong with you wanting him for yourself only as well! I respect that always, I always asked only a couple of girlfriends in my life to do it. But I always asked them if they are ready to be open minded about it first. It takes a lot of trust and respect for one another to do it!

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  • Can't imagine 🙈😂

    • Qhy not you're beautiful.. I qouldbt sharing you.. Just depends with as long he not a cyko.. Unless you into cickos?😁😁

    • Hahahaha

    • I was just looking at your profile you are gorgeous and really are some thiing, loll😁 Inboxx mee😁

  • No and I will never ever do it

  • Im Kind of jealous tipe of man it will be hard even to think on sharing my girlfriend whit somebody else , but you never know in life maybe some day maybe Not

    • Even with another woman?

    • I think its more about respect if i dont allow another guy i have also to be faithfull to my girlfriend but if she pray me to do that maybe i will try

  • Can't say I did... but I'm won't mind trying a FMF threesome

    However it has to oh ner request (like you) without any influence from me

  • Yes multiple
    Mmf ffm mmmf few other scenarios

  • My current fiance says she will only do it with a total stranger. But from my past, I found that the best was with a girl that was comfortable with me first.. both girls were comfortable with me and it seemed to make it more pleasurable for them. I've only allowed it to happen with another female, that's just my personal feelings on the matter. However, once you have had a good threesome; it may become an issue that you will always want a third party to feel that ultimate pleasure. It's better so therefore you will want that of course. Again, for me it changed my sex life and expectations of how much pleasure (sex tolerance if you want to call it that) will be heightened to a different level. Again, it may be different for someone else. I'm just saying the comfort level for the females is always the purity of any encounter I believe in full truth

    • And was there really so much extra pleasure?

  • If I were to get married, never.

  • Cool question

  • Yes twice. A MFM and a FMF

  • Yes I did but it really hurt the relationship as it caused jealousy afterwards

    • Was it a man or woman? And did you know the person?

    • Was someone I knew and it was a woman

    • Do you think it being someone you knew made a difference? I think we’d be better with someone that we don’t know

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  • Yea. 2 bi women n me. 😂😂😂

  • Noooooooooooo

  • Never done it but would like to try to

  • Did share my exgf many times!

    • With a man or woman?

    • Men! My present girlfriend i shared her with a woman! ;)

  • Many times

  • I sometimes used to have them with my ex and girls we met on nights out. We weren't married though.

    It was a big part of why we broke up.

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