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  • Well, for me, it has been episodic At some points in my life I would say more often than not. Other times not at all.

    Now, my girlfriend and I have three children together and frankly, we are so slipshod about birth control of any kind that it is a wonder that we don't have ten children. However, truth be told, I am such a besotted milksop of a father that if my girlfriend told me tomorrow that she was pregnant you would not be able to wipe the smile off my face.

    The time I lost my virginity to my virgin girlfriend - she was 15 and I was 16 - it was without a condom. For the first few days after that I was sure of three things. 1) I was a man! 2) I was totally in love. 3) My girlfriend was the woman I was going to marry, move into a house in the suburbs and have babies with.

    Then it hit me - "What if I got her pregnant?" I imagined having to tell my parents and her's. I wondered how it would impact my senior year of high school and how it would impact my prospects for college. Truthfully, it never entered my mind that I would not stand beside my girlfriend and our baby if I had gotten her pregnant - even when I was 16 - but it sort of freaked me out as the kids say.

    So for the next two weeks my girlfriend and I sweated it out. I especially kept talking about it. Especially my famous question - "Have you had IT yet." (The "IT" being her period. She REALLY got tired of THAT question.)

    Well, we got lucky and she was not pregnant and we continued to date - and have sex with condoms - for another three years until the distance of going to two different colleges effectively ended the relationship. On good terms, but ended it nonetheless.

    After that, though, it more seemed to depend on mood and convenience. I had even a couple of one night stands without. I got woman pregnant but she miscarried and I literally never knew till years later.

    Then I got another woman pregnant. I was excited and happy - and scared to death, to be sure, but ready to step up and be a man. Then she aborted our little baby without telling me. Never, to this day, has something broken my heart the way that did. I cried - literally sobbed - and even as happy as I am now it still hurts and brings a tear to my eye.

    Then after that it was all condoms all the time. Then back again - I was going to have a a baby no matter what. Then back again. My emotions swung wildly.

    Then I met my current girlfriend and we lived happily ever after and birth control just does not seem to mean that much. I love the three little gifts that she gave me out of love. Also, it is not so much how sex with a condom feels but - and this sounds stupid I know - but sex with a condom makes me feel sort of neutered.

    There is something about sex without protection that makes me feel like a man. I am giving a woman the most elemental thing I can give her - a part of me - and she is accepting me unconditionally.

    Totally dumb and I get it, not at all rational. More in my head than the physical reality. My girlfriend jokes that I am controlled by my penis and sometimes I wonder if she is right, frankly.

    (She also asked me once, years ago, if I wonder if I have another child that I might not know about. Truthfully, the thought has crossed my mind and all I can say is that if I do I would want to know and I would love that child with all my heart as if I had known him/her all his/her life.)

    So - and sorry for it - but long long answer to short question, I would say that I more often than not had sex without condoms. However, it really depended on where I was in my life. Right now, though, it is not even close. 90% without. Earlier in life, it was very mixed as I illustrated above.

  • Previous girls I’ve been with, I always wore a condom because they either weren’t on the pill or because I didn’t trust them. I never finished though from penetrative sex though. My current girlfriend, the first time I used a condom and still didn’t finish. The second time, we started with a condom, then moved to without one and I was able to finish easily. Since then, we’ve always gone raw. It just feels better and I can actually finish and not have to worry about going soft.

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  • I've had more sex with my fiancé than all the guys I was with in my past. And I only had sex without a condom with my fiancé. All the other guys were with a condom. So, I have to say, I had sex without a condom more often than with one. But only with one person :)

  • Unless he's sterile, always with a condom! I'm not risking getting pregnant. And even then, I make sure he's STD free as well.

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  • More without
    Cause I have a boyfriend right now

    • Are you on any kind of birth control?

    • @Paige90 Yes, I don't wanna get pregnant

  • Without a condom. I have never once had sex where the guy was wearing anything. Always been bareback.

  • With: countless
    Without: none

  • Overwhelming - without. No girlfriend except one ever expected me to wear a condom. And that one only had me do it the first time we had sex. I had sex twice with hookers and of course wore a condom those times.

  • More sex without. I only had sex with a condom in the first time with my bf's, then always without it because I'm on the pill.

  • ALL sex that I've had in the last several years, has been with a condom.

  • Without. My tubes were tied at age 22-23

  • I have a lot of sex and use a condom every time. I do not want to be a daddy yet or get an std.

  • Usually without

  • Much more with. Once I know him, I tend to jettison them quickly.

  • I'm always bare, as pregnancy is not a problem.

  • Have never worn a condom. Had lots of sex.

  • Neither. It sucks.

    When I've had girlfriends, normally we start off with a condom and then without after we are settled into a relationship.

  • It's probably 50/50 for me. I don't have sex without a condom unless I know the guy really well

  • Definitely without, I hate them

  • More sex without

  • Over only ever not used a condom with 3 people. 2 were long term one was an error in judgment. I guess it's about the same if you're talking nuts.

  • Without

  • In a relationship I usually do. I pull out. And its amazing! Feels so good. I do cum deep inside a woman but with a condom on.

  • Neither.

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