Discussed contraception with my new boyfriend and he told me "whats the big deal, you gotta have an abortion". Should I break up with him?

We discussed contraception and I told him that I understand his dislike for condoms, but what will happen if I get pregnant... he said "what's the big deal, you will get an abortion".

I felt disgusted... he later explained that he said it, bc "I thought you've said you didn't want kids".

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  • He sounds like an uneducated guy with no sense of moral or sensitivity of understanding the affected it is on woman to terminate a pregnancy.

    Should you break-up with him? Well, even though he sounds like an a**, he is probably not the only one who doesn’t grasp the procedure of a pregnancy termination. If you truly love him and still want to be with him, not only tell him to educate himself about it, but also tell him to use condom even if he dislikes it.

    If he continues to show his true colours by insisting, he doesn’t want it, then you know your answer.

    Best of luck!

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  • Big rip. Either 1 he has dealt with too many shitty women who see abortion as birth control and he now falsely presumes all women do. Or worse he actually sees abortion as a method of birth control. Should definitely talk to him to figure out which reason it is. Hopefully it is number 1 because then you can educate him. If number 2 you end the relationship. Though neither of you should be intimate unless you are willing to risk becoming pregnant.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Immediate red flag. You don't want kids which is the whole point of using contraception, but he wants to risk getting you pregnant because of his precious feelings against using a condom and expects you to abort as soon as you get pregnant despite how you'd feel. Very irresponsible of him, abortion is not birth control.

    Either break up with him, or don't sleep with him anymore unless he decides to use a condom.

  • Yes break up he clearly does not care about you! Like the bfs who say they dislike condoms so they won't ever use them.

    Just selfish uncaring about you and you being happy and safe!

    Also even with no kids dies not mean you want and abortion! The death of your own baby inside And it being dragged out in pieces!

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  • I know what conversation I'd have with you.

    Put out or get out... whamen.
    Put out or get out... whamen.
  • if you felt disgusted, I think you know your answer. He obviously has no idea how mentally and physically affected you might be if you terminated the pregnancy. The lack of sensitivity is appalling.

    • This I agree with!

    • @butterly248 seems like an easy choice, unless there are are economic dependencies play. Even if there are, the world doesn't need people like that being irresponsible, and expecting others to barethe brunt of the pain.

    • I'm pro choice but yes J do agree with you

  • Men who support abortion are garbage, so throw the garbage out.

  • Not the best way to discuss it, however at least you actually discussed it and know where he stands. The options are back to using condoms and birth control, break up or contraceptive pill or similar and no condom with abortion as the option.

  • Better now than later...

  • You don’t have to break up with him but tell him you’re not going to fuck him until he wears a condom


    If he hates contraception would not suggest have sex with him at all

  • He's just an idiot. Besides, no guy likes condoms, suck it up

  • Today at 1pm Eastern Time would be soon enough.

    • Pro abortion is pro premeditated murder. You "blob of protoplasm" fans, don't waste my time.

  • ya, he doesn't sound like he would be a great choice.
    Tell him to just freeze some swimmers and go get snipped and you will be happy to drive him there to get it done and drive him back home.
    Move one to someone that cares about you.
    Birth control is a 2 person issue.

  • how long u two been dating

  • Leave him.

  • Ugh, dump this guy! Abortions should not be used for birth control. They are emotionally and physically draining for us. I'm sorry you have had to deal with a guy like this 😔

  • He sounds like an ass. What girl wants to go through the expense and trauma of abortions while the guy could care less and just want sex. I would dump his ass. I have used condoms every time I have had sex and guess what the orgasms are still fantastic! Tell him no condoms and he will just have to get use to jerking off. Birth control is a two way street and both partners have to be involved. By having sex with him raw you are just rolling the dice every time... don't do it!

  • tell to give you downpayment for it in case you need it

  • yes, contraceptives are easier and cheaper. He's lazy and putting all of this on you. Dump his sorry a

  • Yes. Dudes a piece of shit.

  • Wow that's pretty heartless but sometimes people say things they regret. You shouldn't disassociate just for a spur of the moment response.

  • He expects you to take care of his mistakes. It is you that has to terminate that which is living in you he does not care for your feeling or what you are feeling at the time of termination. You may agree or not agree with abortion, but I it should not be used as birth control..

  • It is the STD's that should worry you.

    • True but something that changes your body, the trajectory of your life, requires surgery and buckets of money kinda worries us more 😄

  • He sounds like imature guy or selfish

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