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Do any of you personally seek out sex when you are lonely and want to feel connected?

I donā€™t see the connection between sex and lonelinessā€” Iā€™d imagine a person would feel far lonelier having an Empty physical interaction esp bc intense hormones get released in the moment then you feel worse afterā€¦bc you are reminded of and more acutely aware of your solitude. Itā€™s hard to believe anyone believes sex will make them feel emotionally satisfied but maybe thats just me.

Do any of you personally seek out sex when you are lonely and want to feel connected?

I am often seeing people claiming they want to hook up out of Loneliness and I wonder are they thinking sex will make them feel better OR is it just easier to get sex then emotional connection quickly OR maybe hoping it will turn into something more?

Do any of you personally seek out sex when you are lonely and want to feel connected?
For me Hook ups relieve loneliness temporarily
Vote A
For me Hook ups donā€™t relieve loneliness but at least itā€™s contact and itā€™s easier to get than emotional support.
Vote B
Sometimes Iā€™m just lonely for sex itself
Vote C
Other
Vote D
I do not think sex itself will cure loneliness but I am Hoping the sex will turn into more.
Vote E
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  • I have a simple equation and i guess that you are already aware of it as much as i keep repeating it 😂

    1st comes love, 2nd comes marriage, 3rd comes sex, when these 3 are achieved than there will be no loneliness anymore...

    And these 3 things in my opinion are only achievable betwee a MAN & a WOMAN, maybe this man & woman answers some of your other questions 😁

    Woman + woman = 👎🏻

    Man + man = 👎🏻

    Man + woman = 👍🏻

    When you're with someone and feel nothing, it means there is no love and if there's no love than others parts such as marriage and sex are doomed...

    Also when you have feelings, you must make sure that your feelings are right, i cannot have feelings for a man because 1st it's abnormal, 2nd it's not right, 3rd no future with a same sex, 4th goes against my faith!

    When i have feelings, i must have them for a girl, now the game starts, for which girl? I really don't know cause it depends on her character, the way she communicates with me and how she treats me and if she makes me comfortable and happy 😌

    If i have feelings for a girl than love can occur later, when there's love than it's easy to have a communication and when these both are present than there will be a future together which is marriage and after marriage comes sex to deepen our physical feelings and since we are a man and a woman than our love wilo bring more members to our family which will be new born babies and life continues...

    That's how i see things skyscrapper girl, maybe i have dodged some of the invitations that you sent me for some of your questions because they were sensitive topics and i know that my answers will be harsh, that's why i kept calm hehe

    I believe this answer right here will answer the questions that you asked and invited me for and kept calm about them 🙂

    I'm sure you get the point 😉

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  • For me, sex was a cure for horniness, not loneliness. Sex is a great relief. But afterwards, you haven't been cured of loneliness.

    I wanted more than sex - being infatuated with a female best friend that I could talk to, hang out, go places and do things with. I love the company of a lovely woman. But within that relationship, sex is a must. That's the point of having a female partner.

    The problem with a hook-up is, you're back to square one after sex. You have to search for the next hook-up. But there's nothing better than being in a relationship in which she is infatuated and we crave each other.

    I hated not having a girlfriend.

    • Iā€™ve definitely heard it described very much the way you explained.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't seek out sex because I don't even have sex lmao

    I wouldn't do that if I was lonely, I would probably just sleep all the time and starve myself, like the usual

  • No, I seek out sex when I want to be with my husband.

    • 😊😊

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  • I never did that And wouldnā€™t work for my personality and values.

  • Hook ups are like eating fast food.

    • I think so too 😐

  • I have in the past but it didn't cure it.

    Now I seek out basic company.

    But I do take pleasure in flirting sometimes which might lead to sex if we have chemistry but still sex is an outcome and not the main focus

    • I can understand this, makes sense.

  • I did once and all I got out of it was herpes.

    Now I don't want anything to do with sex.

    All because of my dumbass decisions trying to fulfill the desires that I don't really want in the first place, never again.

    • Also The decision to seek sex as a way to help your loneliness is kind of the same futile way to try and cure your happiness with other things. Like video games, junkfood and etc.. You don't really think about all that stuff when you're feel so damn down, all you can think about is an escape. You don't think about how bad it is to eat junkfood or how bad it is to drink or do other things. And if you are, the overwhelming feeling for a fucking hit of dopamine overrides all those thoughts and you do it anyways. Only to regret it all once it's over. I guess that's what post nut clarity is in a nutshell for example. We know it's futile, but the overwhelming feelings people get can push them to go for it anyways. I feel like you're looking at this from too much of a logical and idealistic perspective. You should know full well how emotions can make a person do things that they wouldn't usually do.

    • @ And if you are, the overwhelming feeling for a fucking hit of dopamine overrides all those thoughts and you do it anyways Fair point I guess in this case I was thinking of how sex will make you feel WORSE not just not better but true so will all those otter things. Youā€™re right.

  • When I was alone for an extended period of time and dealt with loneliness, I did not resort to hook-ups to deal with it. In my opinion, any temporary relief from loneliness that casual sex would provide was outweighed by risks.

  • I don't think sex helps get away with our loneliness

  • No, but really really thought about it when I was young, lonely and single.

    • Do you telekinetic what seemed appealing about it rather then say talking to a friend or someone or going in a date?

    • Well when I was young. I lacked Self-confidence (hard to believe right, me of all people) and feared rejection So talking about it to a friend would e embarrassing for man to ask or talk about. See back then men, men never talked about their needs or showed emotions

    • It took a few years to learn my confidence and that's when I learned more about myself

  • I seek it out when something triggers me, like breathing. If you'e the same way we should meet and discuss

  • Hook ups for me when I was young but I got tired of spending my energy on people that I didnā€™t knowā€¦so just masturbation until I got married again.

  • Seeking out sex to cure loneliness probably wouldn't work for me. I couldn't enjoy it if I wasn't invested in that person.

    • Yeah I get that

  • OK. I picked other. I do feel lonely often and want a hook up. I haven't done it yet, but keep thinking of it. Maybe it's a little exciting as well to just hook up with someone. There's a woman here I want to ask if she wants to have sex. But it would have to be only that. I get cold feet, don't think she'd wanna see me like that, also she's 25 years younger. I keep wondering if I'm broken. Lol

  • I experienced two extreme sides.

    When I was 19 or 20, I had sex with a prostitute. It was my first time. Condom break, I get freaked out and did several STD test during an entire year.

    After having sex with the prostitute, I felt emotionally empty. It was a hallow feeling. Years passed and I had a LDR. Problem was: we were an ocean apart. In that relation I was entirely into her, but there was little to 0 sexual intimacy.

    From there, I experienced the emptiness of having sex with no emotions in between, and the emptiness ofā€”despite being in relationshipā€”been "loved" by a partner who's not positively responding to the sexual sphere of the relation.

  • I do not. To me sex without love is a waste of time and energy. I'd rather go for a run or hang out with friends than have sex with a random.

  • Sometimes I seek out porn when I'm lonely, but I'm not expecting it to make me feel connected, because I know that's impossible. It's just what I do when I'm feeling hopeless and I give up on finding connection because I feel like that will never happen; I'm tired of trying and getting nowhere.

    • But at least the people in the video have SOME sort of connection. Or I can use my imagination and pretend that that is the case.

    • Maybe the hormone rush is also a relief from feeling bad? Doubt anyone in the video feels connected 😂 😊

    • The concept is that if you can't have something for yourself, at least you can root for those who do. You can appreciate their success instead of being envious.

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  • I haven't had it that many times so I don't use it to get away from loneliness, I use conversation.

    • Yeah convo makes sense tho I can h deferent wanting to feel something like Iā€™d people talked then hooked up I guess I could understand 🤔

    • Could you rephrase that?

    • lol yeah I have no idea where hails that went Convo makes sense to me. I can also understand wanting physical context but if it started off with convo and a bond then turn to sex Iā€™d understand that.

  • Sex is great - even when it's bad.
    Only on rare occasions have I wanted her to hang around afterward.
    Those were the ones with something between their ears.

  • I have a girlfriend and don't cheat

  • Nah, sex is something that follows when life is going well in my experience, not the other way around.

  • I voted D. Iā€™m mot lonely, but when I want sex, I text one of my friends with benefits and several hours later Iā€™m fucking.

    • @vivant Thank you for the Like

    • Sure thing Jerre 😊

  • Without good connection sex is no fun to me.

    • Thanks for like!

    • For me *

    • Sure thing Pete!

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