Do any other men have trouble having casual sex without getting attached?

[CountryTJstar]

So, I started hooking up with one of my fitness coaches. We were both recently divorced, and became friends over time. Eventually it led to us hooking up and having amazing sex.

From the beginning of this arrangement she let it be known that she is not ready for any relationship progressing. Basically, we are good friends, we hang out and have lots of fun together, and we have sex sometimes, not every time.

We’re both allowed to see other people, but promise to always use protection.

the problem is that I get attached emotionally and she has stated she can have non emotional sex

[Sleeper07]

I like showing affection, because I love women despite fucking casually. I think it's natural to get attached if you love her company. My bigger question is why are you focused on trying to resist the natural? Just let it happen.

I don't know if this helps, I tell this girl I love her, and I do perform acts of love, that is I put her needs in front of mine sometimes because I care for her. But see we're not a thing, as she is cheating on her boyfriend for me. We technically don't have the standard definition of a relationship, and we both have feelings for one another.

But at any point in time if she says "okay I don't wanna talk to you anymore" I will be okay.

Breaking the social standards, can be beneficial in having a more fulfilling life. What is healthy is having that ability to let her go if she chooses to say au revoir. So maybe try meditating on becoming more stoic?

[CountryTJstar]

Yeah, this does really help. I am trying to enjoy my time away from her more lately, but I still find myself checking my phone to see if she messaged me

[Avicenna]

She's a very desirable woman, that's why you're getting attached. If you weren't so attracted to her on a physical and personal level, you would not care.

[CountryTJstar]

Yeah, it’s just affecting my ability to try and sleep with other women or potentially find someone who I can have a relationship with

[Avicenna]

Well, then stop having sex with her

[Anonymous]

This is why stags insist that their wives have a stable of bulls instead of just one or two.

[Nikki1989]

Most men can get attached so easily.

[RobT312]

I hear ta. For me its about having a connection. I can't be emotionless about it, i think its just the way i am

[CountryTJstar]

It’s funny because, I’ve had emotionless sex before, and it’s usually when I just get horny and sleep with someone I’m not overly attracted too.

[RobT312]

I have had it too when younger. I realized it wasn't for me

[FilmGuy93]

Most men have trouble with that, yes.

Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with another human. It's insane to me that so many people think they can do that nonchalantly.

[CountryTJstar]

Yeah, that’s my thoughts exactly. For her, she said she finds kissing another girl worse than if I just had sex with her.

[FilmGuy93]

I’m willing to bet that it would bother her in practice. She probably wouldn’t be thrilled if she found out that you were actually having sex with someone else. It’s a rare breed of person who can do it, honestly.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not my cup of tea trying to get laid then after moving on to somebody else

[clampfan101]

Isn’t that kind of the point of sex?

[In_Trance]

Some do, some don't

[Anonymous]

It’s the strangest thing. It’s like sex was designed to be a form of bonding or something.

[Anonymous]

Nope not at all.. I'd rather casual sex or 1 night stands.. it's far less complicated

[Anonymous]

Yes same here.!