Do I confront my bf about his masturbating?

I was making my bf's bed, and found semen stains on the side of the bed. He had his bed skirt tucked under his mattress, and when I pulled it out, it was covered with streaks of jizz! So... I understand men masturbate. I accept that. But at the same time, I wonder if I'm not satisfying him? Whenever I ask him if he's jerked off lately, he denies it and says he doesn't do it. But he is clearly lying. What should I do? I really wish he would at least use a tissue instead!
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I just want to clear up one thing here... I'm not trying to bash the guy for masturbating. Ok? I just don't want it on OUR sheets! And... I just want to make sure and hear from other men, that it doesn't mean he's not satisfied with me.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I had the same problem with my boyfriend. After his several attempts to deny his masturbation habits I finally found naked pictures of random girls from the internet on his phone. He then admitted to masturbating sometimes twice a day! In all honesty some men are not happy with just "one" way of getting off. There is nothing to "confront" your boyfriend about. Tell him how much you supposedly masturbate (make up a crazy number per week) and see if he is offended or turned on by it. If he is offended then you should confront him about his masturbation habits. Find out if you are satisfying him enough.

    • Good answer...

  • Don't shame him for doing it.
    Instead join in on the fun.
    If you ever catch him , try to help him out.
    If you become a very big and active part of his sex life , all he will be fantasizing about is you.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It's one thing if you don't feel comfortable with him watching p*rn or getting off to other women, but it's another thing for you to feel uncomfortable about him continuing to masturbate. It is completely normal to masturbate even if you have a healthy sex life, and it does not mean that you are not satisfying him. I still watch p*rn sometimes (she does too), I still masturbate (so does she), and I am still very satisfied by my gf and our sex life. Maybe just ask him not to shoot his load on the sheets!

    • The point of my question is not to change the fact that he masturbated, ok? I said "I accept that". All I wanted to know is if a) it has anything to do with me not satisfying him. And b) how can I tell him to not blow it all on our bed?

  • Don't make him feel bad, see if there's anything you can do to help him.

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  • If he hasn't stopped staining the bed you need to have a talk with him. It's disrespectful of him to make a mess of the sheets. At the very least tell him to jerk off in the bathroom. In my opinion if a guy is satisfied by his partner he won't masturbate often.

  • Its probably just out of habit or boredom more then you not satisfying him.

    As for the sheets. I think if you should just tell him that he should use something other then the sheets.

  • Masturbation becomes routine in people's lives. It's a habit that takes time to break.

  • Talk to him, tell him you don't mind him masturbating but ask him to use a tissue. And no, it's not related to sexual satisfaction. I have amazing sex with my girlfriend but I still masturbate by myself. I don't do it because I'm satisfied, just because, sometimes, I need that sexual release but I don't have the time or don't like having sex.

  • Every guy masturbates, as do most girls. I have no doubt that the only reason he denies it is that he knows you and can pretty well guess how you will react and he doesn't want to subject himself to that if he can help it.

    It's sad that he feels he needs to hide it, but don't blame him for that. Blame yourself.

    • QA - I just realized you are talking about HIS bed. What should you do? Mind your own business, that's what. It is not your place to confront him about it or suggest "at least use a tissue instead". Jeez!

    • That's presumptuous on your part. I've never given him any reason to lie. He knows that I do and how often. Blame myself? Ha!

    • Presumptuous? I think not. Ha!

  • I think you should mind your own business. So long as you have a good sexual relationship with him should not concern yourself with whether or not he masturbates.

    • Why am I getting such harsh comments from all the guys here? I'm not mad at the dude for doing it! But he's leaving jizz stains in our bed for gods sake! All I wanted to know is how to go about fixing that. Not trying to change the fact that he masturbates