Do do you think it's unfair to change your mind on threesome agreement?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend decided to try a threesomes the deal was we would do a mfm an fmf. We did the MFM a couple of times but now she said no to the FMF

[summiter]

I think she should give you a chance with a FMF 3some. How was the MMF experience? When I was a sophomore in college my girlfriend said that her roommate (who was way hot) wanted to join us for sex. I was a horny 19 yr old so of course I said yes.

We spent an entire afternoon and evening naked and had some fun orgasms. I had to take a few breaks to recharge but it was fun. The next morning I was kinda sore but I had a big smile. The closest I came to a MMF event was actually a MMFF 4. 2 couples shared a 4 person tent. My buddy brought his girlfriend and I brought mine. We all got naked and had a lot of sex right next to each other but we did not switch partners.

[Asker]

It was pretty good actually kind of enjoyed seeing her get some dick

[HeresJames1]

Mfm or mmf? Mfm = no deliberate contact between guys, mmf = deliberate contact. Also how was it? I've had a couple mfm its fun.
The answer is yes its unfair, but she's a woman and well what can you do she's got the pussy...
She could be jealous at the idea of you getting it on with another woman, or she might be totally straight and find women repulsive, OR she wants her cake and to eat it too...
Meaning she has you her loyal boyfriend, and youve given her opportunities for new dick + two cocks/male bodies at the same time while she knows there's no chance of you leaving. So sexual freedom and secure relationship, but if the tables reverse... she may not be secure enough.

[Asker]

It was mfm no contact between me and the other guy basically I watched him and her have sex which I must admit I did enjoy

[Little_Bumblebee]

If she's not comfortable doing one, then let her say no. It should be pleasurable for the both of you. And you should both feel comfortable doing them.

You should never feel forced to do anything sexual.

Talk with her about it, she might either need a break from it or she has something that needs to be taken care of, like insecurities or something.

But don't force each other.

[Asker]

I know I'm not going to force her I just feel like she tricked me

[JaneDoe377]

Well maybe she really did change her mind. Such is possible. Threesomes don't seem like a good idea to me, it's hard to avoid jealousy, at least with one person. 3 people, there's bound to be one jealous personality.

[Asker]

She like it when it was mfm

[JaneDoe377]

Maybe she thought she'll get jealous with another woman there, is what im saying.

[Asker]

Well yeah she did admit that

[JaneDoe377]

That's probably why. I know i would be jealous. No way would i have a 3some, with males or females.

[Asker]

Yeah she also said she only agreed to it because you didn't think I would actually find a woman to do it

[Asker]

And I got to admit I was kind of jealous

[JaneDoe377]

That seems like a normal thing to feel in that situation. Maybe it's better if you guys don't do them, for your own peace of mind.

[Asker]

But at the same time I also enjoyed seeing her happy and getting pleasured

[JaneDoe377]

That's a tough one.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm debating if we should keep doing them or not

[AustinMan]

I guess it depends on her acting in good faith. Maybe the first threesome showed her something that turned her off.

[Asker]

Will she likes it with the another guy just not another girl

[AustinMan]

Sound like she's a little jealous/insecure/possessive.

[Asker]

Which I guess I understand sharing isn't for everyone

[AustinMan]

That's so true. You may put in the position of choosing between the relationship and group sex MFF.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is her reason for deciding to not go forward with it?

Do you view this relationship as a potential LTR?

[Asker]

She doesn't want me to be with another woman and yeah I do

[OlderAndWiser]

So you can try to force or coerce her to follow through with her promise or you can accept it and move forward. Which do you think is more conducive to strengthening your relationship in the future? I understand the unfairness in the situation but, sometimes, life gives you unfairness and you simply must accept it.

[Asker]

No I'm not going to force her or guilt her into it

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you think that she manipulated the situation so that she would get what she wanted and she could then deny you what you wanted?

[Asker]

Yeah kind of but I'm not sure

[OlderAndWiser]

If I felt manipulated, then I would have great resentment and mistrust of her.

[Marcuslrh]

Waw really I think that would be the end of the relationship for me ouch think you messed up their mate should of gone with the fmf first 100% there is no way I would go the other way myself though so I could never make such an agreement

[Berethor]

She made a sucker out of you, but then you should never agreed to FMM in the first place.

[ghostqueen]

It would be unfair to expect your partner to do something they're uncomfortable with. People are allowed to change their mind.

[boggboss]

Me I'm not sure what to say from what you have said she simply straight up lied and made it so she got what she wanted without ever being fair but me thats her choice now you have to decide what you wanna do

[Asker]

Having a threesome really isn't that big of a deal I'm more upset that she lied to me

[boggboss]

Thats for me the issue if it was simply that she changed her mind out of fear or insecurity then fair play it happens but what u are describing is her playing you for a fool wanting to have sex with others under the illusion of you doing the same getting what she wants then saying thats enough

[Asker]

I can't say for sure that she straight-up lied to me but that's how it feels

[boggboss]

Surly if she said she never intended to do fmf then she lied no?

[Asker]

Well what she said was she didn't think I would find girl willing to do it. And now that I did she said she can actually go through with it

[boggboss]

It equals the same thing as thats shows because of a inability to do it thats why she said yes when shown it can happen no

[just_a_potato]

I was about to get into a threesome with a guy I liked romantically and canceled last second because I was afriad my feelings would get hurt, sounds like a dick move but one of the best decisions of my life 👌

[Asker]

Yeah I can understand that I don't think she had any intentions in the first place

[Keble]

Could be she really did lie or that she really changed her mind. I do think it's a bit unfair though.

[Asker]

Well she said she didn't think I would actually find a girl to do it

[Keble]

That's not true.

[Asker]

What do you mean

[Keble]

That you wouldn't be able to find another girl. She doesn't want to do it likely because she afraid you could.

[Asker]

I guess I should probably just drop it I wouldn't want her to do anything she doesn't want to do I guess

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Yikes, talk about a bait and switch. I wouldn't trust her after renaging on her word AFTER getting what she wanted

[ColHathi]

Yes.

[Browneye57]

Sick and depraved. Consider you will implode your primary relationship. Hope it was worth it.

[dutch69lover]

It sounds a little unfair especially since she agreed to it before hand. Maybe she feels insecure about another woman joining you. Talk to her and maybe tell her you had the same thoughts when it was was the other way around.
Then again maybe she feels just horrible about the whole idea in general and only went through it for you. Either way you need to talk to her in a loving way about it.

[Asker]

It was actually her idea in the first place

[dutch69lover]

It may have been her idea to start. Maybe she decided it wasn't what she thought it was going to be.

[Asker]

She liked it when it was with another guy cuz wanted to do it again

[Asker]

And she basically admitted that she never had any intentions of doing it with another woman

[dutch69lover]

Like I said I'd talk to her about it. We don't have this problem as our partner is her girlfriend of many years that loves both of us dearly. That being said, all of our emotional connection to each other is what has made our work all these years so it's kinda hard to view these problems from strictly a casual sex standpoint

[Asker]

I did she straight out said no she doesn't want me having sex with another woman

[Wise4myage]

Its totally unfair, and Id be pissed off I was you.

[joeldalton]

oh man you got suckered.

[DreamCatchcer]

In the MFM threesome did you and the guy engage in any Bi sex like blow jobs?

As to your girlfriend, it seems she is a bit selfish.

You shared her with another guy. Why won't she share you with another girl?

[Gedaria]

I have only ever done it twice and that was with the wife and her friend.
Cannot say no to the wife...

[HelenJacob]

FMFMF do. or swinger

[Asker]

I think she only wants mfm

[Twalli]

To change her mind now is a bit hypocritical

[CaptainLonleyPants]

Consent is everything when it comes to sex. In threesomes its common for one person to be neglected. Especially when its FMF threesome. Plan things out and seek advice from pros so no one gets neglected. Make sure to discuss feelings and be open and honest about any jealous issues. That could have been why she cancelled. Reassure her and come to her prepared with a plan and you may get what you want. Recommend Fetlife for good tips and info.

[Asker]

I think I'll just drop it for now I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want to do

[In_Trance]

No...