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Do girls need to orgasm to enjoy passionate, intimate sex?

I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time last night. It was very intimate and movie-like. We looked into each other's eyes, started kissing and then I carried her to my bedroom and we made love. We went slowly and kissed pretty much the whole time, it was very tender and intimate. After a while, I finished. We kissed some more and then we went to sleep in each other's arms. It was amazing for me. But I'm questioning if she actually enjoyed it because she didn't have an orgasm. After I finished, I thought about going down on her but I didn't want to lose the connection. Should I have gone down on her? Do you think she enjoyed it anyway? Would she have enjoyed it more if I did go down on her?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Sometimes it's nice to just enjoy that connection. I don't always orgasm during sex but it feels good knowing I can make my boyfriend lose control.
    Usually when I don't finish he'll go down on me or finger me and rub my clit so I finish too.
    Chances are, though, that if it was your first time having sex she wasn't expecting an orgasm. Especially if you guys aren't very experienced.
    Talk it out with her and ask what she liked or didn't like. Ask her next time if she wants you to go down on her- some girls love it and some hate it. It's important to communicate what you guys want and expect from sex. :)

  • I don't necessarily need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex, sometimes it's just the intimacy that makes me feel good about having sex. If I surprise him with a quicky before we are about to go out or something I don't expect to orgasm every time, (not to say I haven't). = } If we have the time and I'm really into it it's easy for me to orgasm with him. If he goes down on me he can have me there sometimes within a couple of minutes or less.

  • Going down on her would have been nice if you'd really wanted to or she'd asked but it's not something you should feel you have to do. Sex isn't a scoring system where you keep count of how many each of you have cum.

    I'm sure she enjoyed it a lot. Just like I enjoy sex with my so when I don't orgasm.

  • No, I don't have to have an orgasm to have fully enjoyed it and be fulfilled. If the foreplay, ravishing and sex is mediocre then I feel cheated, but if the foreplay, ravishing, kissing and sex are incredible I'm fine if I dont orgasm and still feel satisfied.

    • And if the foreplay, ravishing, kissing, and sex are incredible AND you orgasm, how is that? ;-)

    • Superb..

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  • You should have. You failed.

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  • The goal doesn't always have to be an orgasm. It can be to just be pleasured and feel good.

  • We can definitely enjoy it without having an orgasm, I'm sure it was great for her.

  • No orgasm necessary in my opinion :)

  • I'm sure she enjoyed it. It's known girls take longer to orgasm, but if she was happy when you guys went to sleep I wouldn't question it too much. Girls don't have to orgasm to enjoy sex, it's just a bonus.

  • you don't need to orgasim to enjoy it. Some girls take a lot to orgasim and some girls can't at all. That doesn't mean having sex still isn't enjoyable.

  • no orgasm isn't needed to enjoy sex i guess

  • She Probably Enjoyed It But She Would've Enjoyed It More If She Had An Orgasm. You Should've Gone Down On Her, She Probably Would've Been Surprised, Yet Excited.

    • Agreed! Do I "need" an orgasm? I would say does the man "need" to get off to enjoy it? I rest my case. :))

    • Exactly Lol

  • No, but it would be preferred. You should have gone down on her. It wouldn't have ruined the moment, it would only have made it better. You should always try your best to make sure she also orgasms.

  • No i dont need to orgasm to enjoy sex. For me, sometimes the build up to orgasm is as good if not better than the orgasm itself!!

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