Do girls who are virgins face criticism/scrutiny from girls who are non-virgins?

We know that this happens to a lot of male virgins, but from both genders. I had a co-worker once who was 21 and one of the other girls who was 18 and wasn't a virgin was putting the 21 year-old girl down for being one. I thought that was ridiculous. Do females who are virgins ever deal with other women scrutinizing them or jeering at them for being virgins?

Do girls who are virgins face criticism/scrutiny from girls who are non-virgins?
2 1

Most Helpful Girls

  • Thank you for asking a question right up my alley.

    Yea it happens a lot. But that's if you broadcast it. I don't talk about that kind of stuff with anyone. I remember when I was a high schooler I had girls give me a hard time for being a virgin. Like it was absurd to them.

    But I always heard from my parents when I would tell them girls in my school were giving me a hard time, my parents would say that those girls regret losing their virginity to a guy they didn't marry. They know society prefers a virgin over someone like them so they are sour about it. They want virgin girls to be like them and they don't want the virgins to be better than themselves. That's probably true...

    If virgins weren't seen as this big deal that everyone wants, religion and women being sold as property back in the day has something to do with it. Then I feel like women wouldn't have this pressure to be perfect.

    Though I am religious and I am not complaining about it since in the bible it says women and men should wait for marriage. Not just women and men can just do whatever the heck they want and then have the audacity to say they want a virgin after they whored themselves around.

    The last time I revealed I am a virgin, I told my ex-friends friend. My ex-friend introduced me to this other girl a while back she has been hanging out with. She is really young like early 20s... And we were drinking.

    I hung out with her a couple times before. She has been with a lot guys, she is promiscuous. I revealed to her that I am a virgin and she was very disturbed by it. She wouldn't get over it. She got stuck in a trance and it blew her mind so much since I am older than her.

    I didn't think she would react that way. I was 27 at the time and she was probably like 20 or 21. She has had sex with over 20 guys. She goes onto dating apps and meets with them and they have sex. I thought to myself how does she not fear that she'll be murdered? That she will be held there against her will and become a sex slave to the guy.

    So I think that was the last time I revealed it and had to deal with the negative reaction. I ended up lying to her later. Because she acted so freaking weird about it that I just said, "Hey I lied I'm not a virgin. I've been with a couple of guys and I didn't want to seem like a whore." I didn't need to do that, to say that. I did it to make her stop acting weird which is like to heck with her... Why should I care?

    But I did... While I said that my ex-friend was looking at me like wtf why are you lying? Lol but she didn't say anything. The young girl stopped acting all bent out of shape over it.

    Don't worry I'm not friends with her!

    I struggle with this with guys. Sometimes I get a little bit embarrassed when I am talking to a guy, I feel like they'll judge me a 28 year old girl for still being a virgin. Not every guy favors the idea of a girl waiting and I hate having the conversation where the guy questions you.

    Either they don't believe it or they are highly against it. Maybe because they are at an older age (in their 30s) they don't have the patience to wait for marriage.

    • Wowww, thanks for sharing. And yes, it is absolutely okay if you want to maintain your virginity especially until marriage. You are right that the Bible says we should be doing that. I personally have failed at it and every so often I feel a little twinge of remorse that I didn't wait until marriage. But I can't change it now unfortunately.

    • Younger woman are worthless and useless.

    • You are beautiful ❤️

    • Show All
  • Hell yeah!! I remember being like 16, in the locker room and getting looked down on from this two popular girls cause I was a virgin and had no boyfriend to that time lol

    This happens a lot, I have heard enough stories like that

    • bitches be bitches lol.

    • Teen girls are the meanest shit! I could count so many things that I got bashed for

    • @melanieeeb Yeah, that's terrible. Teen girls - and girls in their 20s - are the worst because they think they know everything and because people allow them to behave however they want. So when you're unchecked, you live life thinking it's okay to exude cruelty and disrespect towards others.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

22 26
  • It’s the virgins with the high Wifey Value. These are the ones who can handle adversity that most men have no idea about.-Although I do know some young adult male virgins.

    These are the women with the backbone and judgment that can be trusted with Covenant, your heart, your children, and your money. As long as the man is worth a damn or of equal Value.

  • I'm sometimes told online that I should be having sex by other women (and men, but you asked about other women specifically).

  • No, not really. It was the guys in high school and early college who were douches that shamed females for not fucking them ASAP (not an exaggeration). We had "The V Squad," back in high school, which I LOVED. If people did or didn't in most cases, it was our own business. I also'd never shame anyone for who or what they do in that regard, as long as it's not hurting themselves or others or any other bbs.

    • I might flirt when I'm single, sext, I might tease when single, but when I'm taken, it's a very different story. Men tend to assume I'm a slut, which I'm really not. I'm more modest than people'd think in clothing and action (especially when it comes to myself and romantic relationships in general around others) and that's just me. I have a very consistent overall view of bodily autonomy, privacy, your body your choice, and differences in POV and lifestyle.

  • Yes we do. But mainly because virgin women tend to be undesirable.

    It’s like the ugly nerd little boy being picked on for being ugly and not fitting in.

    Being virgin as a woman makes you look undesirable and naïve. Easily manipulated. Specially by other women. It makes you look like a target of some kind. A lot of the time women also see a virgin as a threat. Because men tend to prefer a virgin female. So an experienced woman could potentially feel that the virgin is a threat to her relationship with her man or the man she’s trying to obtain.

    • I mean; the experienced woman can feel that the virgin woman is her competition. When the experienced woman want to obtain a specific guy

  • Sometimes but yeah I usually feel like it’s the younger crowd or immature type of girls who’ll do this and pick on women for being virgins most of the time.. they kind of overreact too because losing it at 21 or 22 isn’t like 30 or 40.. 21 and 22 is still young adulthood even 20s period! People are so dramatic literally. I lost mine at 22 and I think it was the right age.

    • For real. I lost mine at 21 and I have no regrets. I'm actually glad I waited

    • @WanderingLoveWizard which is still young enough to enjoy the experience, I mean you hear about it online and even shows where some people are virgins in late 20s or even 30s since they waited for marriage or never had a relationship, I guess many people assume you get the high school experience but times have changed for sure, just like women having babies older but most of those are celebrities with money to freeze eggs or have procedures, everyone’s timing is different. I don’t regret losing mine at 22 I didn’t wanna feel forced and uncomfortable in high school nor did I wanna risk getting pregnant , better that I educated myself about sex.

    • Absolutely, I think that's smart. Not to mention highschool is gossip central. Agreed 100% 👍

  • I would never criticise anyone for their choice of when to end their virginity. Everyone is different.

  • Yes, i have.. They all laughed about it

    • @chrysantenum95 seriously?

    • @MasterKS yes. And keep mocking me by saying im just wasting my years to haven't feel or taste the best thing in life

    • @chrysantenum95 unbelievable peoples! Fuck them off!

  • Because misery loves company. It's never happened to me personally, but from the times that I have seen it happen that is always clearly the case.

    • You think a non-virgin woman is miserable?

    • I think any non virgin who attempts to shame other women for having standards for herself is definitely miserable.

    • I see. Yeah, that's probably true.

  • It can happen but a girl is much more likely to be slut-shamed than to be virgin-shamed.

  • Women take it as a personal insult if other girls make different life choices. Women also give each other the worst advice on purpose

    • This is super true, especially that last part. Like when a woman likes a guy and has an opportunity to be with him, if her gfs are single they'll try to influence her not to date him so they all can be in hell together.

    • Absolutely if they like the guy themselves or if they have a man but they don't want their friend to have a better looking guy or a guy that makes more money than their guy.

    • Women are sick, bro.

  • I was surprised at lot of answers below. I would have figured most women would realize they were virgins at some point too, and it wouldn't be a big deal. Especially, if it is a friend... they're still the same person, who cares if they haven't lost her virginity yet?

    I guess girls that age are very competitive.

  • People who make fun of virgins are called "kids"
    When you grow up, you realize it's really not a big fucking deal.

    I'll admit it's a little strange if someone is approaching 30 and has never had sex, but I assume they have their reasons

  • Those girls are jealous that the virgin is more valued

  • I may or may not be a virgin by different people's definitions. Either way I haven't found any girl to care or judge. No one that I hang out with does.

  • I bet they do.

    The promiscuous ones probably know deep down a guy looking for a wife and family would be more attracted to a virgin and they want to shame into joining them in the hook up culture.

  • What business is someone's virginity status to other people?

  • Promiscuous women tend to say bad things about women that have better morals and wait to be in an exclusive LTR before having sex.

  • That's sad to hear... Somehow women associate being called a slut by a other woman as something bad, while at the same time, society promotes it as something to be seen as not. Everyone can choose for themselves, and neither are bad.

    I love sluts for what they provide and I love the opposite for what they provide.

    • Ohhhhhhkay. Lol.

  • I have heard girls laughing at other girls for being virgins and clearly they thought something was wrong with them. Possibly there might be some regret fueling this if they have worked out guys don't like high body counts.

    Safety in numbers. If every girl has a high body count than guys don't have choice. A few virgins could reinforce some girls are more discerning which in turn reduces market value of high BC girls.

    Guys can be anti-virgins too but that is because virgins are not sexually available. And causes suspicious that a virgin possibly has a low sex drive. I don't think skills is that important as basics are easily learnt.

  • I mean sometimes yeah

  • Show More (28)