Do guys ever really fantasise about making love or are the fantasies usually rough sex?

Yes I do fantasise about soft, passionate sensual lovemaking
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  • Growing up I used to fantasies a bit a of both one at a time. Some girls I fantasies about just feel worth the lovemaking while other times I just fantasies about rough sex.
    Now I've come to realize that it's not one or the other but instead it's supposed to be a perfect mix of the two.
    Because after all sex is only enjoyable when both parties are active and energetic a slow type of sex quickly gets boring and uninteresting which is something I wouldn't want for someone I actually might love.

  • I don't get the whole "rough sex thing". I once had sex with a woman that wanted me to spank her. I lightly tapped her ass while I was fucking her, but she really wanted me to hit her hard. I just took my cock out of her and told her I was uncomfortable with hitting her like that. Besides, we had not even been on a first date (longer story) and it is way too easy for a woman to setup a guy for domestic violence. They never believe the guy. I have never had that issue, but I have seen it happen.

    • Good for you, you made smart choices. The kind of sex that could potentially be dangerous should only be practiced when both partners have established trust.

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  • Considering a good portion of my actual sex life is making love, my fantasies are usually something different. I tend not to fantasize about something I'm getting regularly.

    • So describe how your fantasies usually go if its not too private

    • I guess it depends on how I'm feeling in the moment. I have a LOT of different kinks and interests, so the theme of the fantasy can vary wildly, but I'm usually fantasizing about either my partner, or people I make up for the sake of the fantasy and weave them into whatever sexual kink I'm masturbating to/imagining in the moment.

    • I see. thanks for sharing

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  • My fantasies, when I have them, are either giving or receiving oral sex and it is closer to soft and passionate.

    • Really? Receiving oral I understand, but would you say you fantasise about giving oral more or intercourse?

    • Hard to justify, but yes. Giving oral triggers every sense, are further pushed by pheromones and her reactions make it all the better. Perhaps in the spirit of total disclosure, I will say that I am a short round with a quick trigger and intercourse is not a strong suit for me.

  • Rough foreplay and then gentle love making after would be best.

    • what? I've never heard that one before. always thought gentle foreplay leading to rough sex out of buildup of tension. how rough foreplay and gentle lovemaking would go?

  • Both

  • I dont fantasize it rough... but rather... well it will jusglt get too personal

    • well I'm guessing it's not lovemaking either

  • Whether soft or rough, it must be passionate for me; perfunctory sex acts are not acceptable here!

    • Describe what is passionate to you

    • When the girl is thoroughly sexually aroused and even dominant; face and voice and actions would show desire.

  • soft sensual, but where I dominate.

    • describe soft sensual, what that means to you

    • Sensual: She comes in: I get her to sit down but she is not allowed to touch herself. I begin to touch her; I then undress her. As I undress her, I get to touch every square inch of her body. Once she is naked, and her bladder drained, its her turn to undress me. Once both naked, hugging cuddling, and gentle penetration. Gentle rocking motion for about 30 to 45 minutes.

    • Lovely, although I don't see how she would be able to undress you slowly after all that time you spent kissing her skin, I'd think she'd want to get straight to business

  • The greatest fantasy is not being annoyed by her presence afterwards

    • You're either with the wrong girls or you have issues

    • Right. I'd pay to Uber you away

    • You wouldn't have to since I'd not be there in the first place

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  • I obviously dream of Passionate Sex with my Girl. Rough Sex is hasty, unthoughtful, hurtful and selfish.

    • My favorite part is that most of what you said is wrong and highly subjective. Rough sex isn't any of those things if it's what both people are into

  • Yes I do. Sex is one thing, but making love is more bonding than just plain sex in my opinion.

    • so you fantasise about making love slowly and sensually rather than just fucking?

    • Yes, things like kissing her neck while running my hands along her body, then slowly going towards the breasts, sucking one while massaging the other. Then, my hands slowly going towards her crotch to rub her. After a little while, my head would join my head down there. It's just an example but I like this sensuality, me dedicating myself to making her feel good and loved.

    • ok yes, that counts

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  • Men like to act out their fantasies.

    • well duh. everyone would like to act out their fantasies. that's not what the question is about

  • both :D

    • awesome

    • thanks hun :D

  • THIS QUESTION CANNOT BE ANSWERED THE WAY IT IS WRITTEN. GUYS WOULD INDICATE EVERY ONE WHO COMES HERE. IF IT WERE ASKED WITH... ARE THERE ANY MEN WHO COME HERE BLAH BLAH.

    • What

  • I would say my fantasies are more about rough sex

  • Every once in a while that beautiful, graceful girl walks by (in slow motion no doubt) that i would give anything to treat her like a Queen, jump in front of a speeding car to save her, or make her sad , cute little daughter giggle, etc... a d spend hours, if not days making passionate love

  • Like women, we are all different. And yes, while guys are often more aggressive, some are not. I personally NEVER want rough sex, fantasy or reality. It doesn't turn me on. There are guys that like both. I'm guessing you have just never met any sensual ones? lol

    • I guess not

  • Most of the guys I fuck just like it rough.

    • well how they do it is not always what they had in mind

    • Probably so.

  • It just depends on my mood. Sometimes I fantasize about rough sex and others it's more soft and passionate.

    • so you do fantasise about that from time to time? which mood is more frequent for you?

    • It depends on who I'm with. With my current girlfriend it's pretty equal for me, although she prefers more rough stuff usually.

  • A little, for me. Though I wouldn't say I imagine soft love making much, but i'm somewhat more inclined to imagine cuddling, soft kissing in the rain on a streetcorner, stuff like that.

    But not with just like … random or unseen girls, at least for me. I might imagine having wild dirty sex with some random hypothetical girl, if i'm imagining something more affectionate and romantic, it would be someone specific.

    • So I guess the answer for you is no. Cause if you've had women in your life that you had feelings for and still sex fantasies with them were more rough sex then lovemaking I hope you voted rarely or no

    • I didn't vote, but I guess I've answered your question. I imagine romance, and I imagine fairly wild sex, but more romantic sex, it's enjoyable, but I don't fantasize much about it. Though I would, in an ideal world, choose it sometimes - just less often.

    • So how do your wild fantasies go if you don't mind sharing?

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