Do guys feel ok to cheat if another girl know and accept that you’re already taken?

Question

I don’t understand why guys always be so nice when chatting with a girl who already taken while girls dont. When I found out my ex cheated on me, I saw their conversation. He texted he already has a girlfriend (me) but she kept texting “i miss you. It’s fine we can hangout when she is not there”, and many things like she always know he has a girlfriend but she is fine with that and even begged to open his door to hug her cuz she feels so lonely (while i was sleeping in his house) and she knew that. One of my male friend also said gf’s sister tried to flirt him and texted “I’m horny whenever I see you” even when she knows he is her sister’s boyfriend. Meanwhile, during our relationship, many guys flirt me too. I said that I have a boyfriend and they will “sorry I won’t bother you again” or “oh i hope you’re happy I’m sorry I didn’t know that”. And they never text any flirting or sexual message again. My question is do you guys really feel it’s ok to cheat if that girl beg or accept that you’re already taken?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Is it okay to cheat? No. It's never okay to cheat.

That said, this is what happens. Most guys really struggle to get a girl, especially younger guys who aren't yet established. Girls have all the power at that time, which is why you see those guys immediately accept that you're taken, apologize, and leave you alone. BUT... girls get extremely jealous, and even though there are tons of single guys, a lot of girls want a guy BECAUSE some other girl has him. Girls want to be with a guy that other girls want, because to be with him makes her feel superior to those other girls.

What they don't realize is that pursuing a taken guy actually gives the GUY the power - and the sad reality is that many of these guys, who couldn't get female attention despite tons of effort for years, now suddenly have a girl who is willing to do anything to be with him, even knowing he's already taken. Shockingly, he's suddenly realizing he's got power - SEXUAL power. And trust me, he's only too well aware that this power is fleeting, and if he passes on the chance to take advantage of it, he's not likely to get a second chance.

This is like being starving - having nothing but water for several weeks - and suddenly you have a chance to steal the food of 5 other people and actually be full for the first time in a long time. You know it's wrong, and that it will hurt other people, but you are SO hungry, and this is a one-time opportunity, that the temptation to accept it is incredibly strong, and a lot of guys - who would normally be faithful, fall to this temptation. It's not like he has any feelings for the other girl - he doesn't. For him, it's just a chance to have sex with a new girl - something he's had a desire to do but felt impossible before. It's really difficult to say "no."

Of course, many guys still manage to say "no" even though it's difficult. But not every guy is that strong - and if things aren't going well in the relationship as it is, it's all the easier to say "yes."

I don't write any of this to justify cheating - as I said in my first sentence, cheating is ALWAYS wrong. But it can be helpful to understand WHY things happen, even if we all agree that they should never happen.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

It easier to cheat if the other woman know about it, also a man is like a key, a woman is like a lock.

Guy13 · Answer

It is sort of like a False Positive. Guys assume that the “girlfriend” will keep herself and their Business separate. A good sign of a boy rather than a man ‼️