Do guys find it cringey if they're with a virgin who's ashamed/embarrassed about sex and has unrealistic expectations?

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  • I haven't run into that situation. Well, in high school, but she was cool with it.

  • It's annoying but I would just show her the way.

  • Virgin who's ashamed/embarrassed about sex? I don't personally care about it. Unrealistic expectations? That's a red flag if you can't deal with it. The prince charming does not exist, love is not like in the movies and don't expect me (or any man) to be or give you that.

    • By unrealistic expectations I mean expecting sex to be painful the first couple of times, expecting the man alone to take pleasure, the girl "giving herself" to the guy and it being one-sided, that sort of stereotype I mean. I kind of gave him the impression that that's what I thought sex was like.

    • Oh. Then, it that case, I would do my best to prove her otherwise but I wouldn't have sex with her as long as she has this apprehension as stress, anxiety or apprehension can really ruin the experience for her. I see sex as an activity both should enjoy. I know how to give myself pleasure so I naturally focus on what pleasures my partner to make sure she also has a good time. Honestly, don't try it if you don't feel ready or if you keep stressing over it as it will really ruin the experience for you.

    • @Asker "Giving yourself" to a guy doesn't mean you're a sex slave or a prostitute. It's more of a figurative term. It means you're sharing the most intimate part of your being with him. And it doesn't mean he's in control of everything. You can also be fully in control of what happens. It's a shared experience. It's something you do TOGETHER.

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  • Anonymous questions im sick of it

  • Nah. Sex is always "uncomfortable" at first, but eventually a groove is found. Don't worry.

  • Virgin or not sexual shame is not sexy and is a huge mood killer

  • No, that’s a great opportunity for me to teach her.

  • "Guys" are all different... I never met one that felt that way

  • yeah

  • Yes absolutely

  • Nope. Just unrealistic expectations and holding onto them is cringe on it's on.

  • What do you mean by unrealistic expectations? Having an orgasm the first time or what?

    • It being painful and him taking what he wants and me "giving myself" to him? I don't know, like there is a bit of shame/anxiety around that.

    • It sounds like you need to build trust with him first. Do you trust him? It’s hard when you’re young because most guys are only interested in sex while girls want relationships mostly. But whatever happens ignore what society etc says because it’s wrong, sex really is not shameful. And once you have it it’ll no longer be such a big deal. Just aim to pick someone you trust enough for your first time.

    • "It’s hard when you’re young because most guys are only interested in sex while girls want relationships mostly" Yes this is kind of my concern I guess? I don't know.

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  • I don't know about cringey but I’d be pissed off if she’s a virgin who never had sex n has unrealistically high expectations. Like wtf. U should be greatful for sex at all if you never had it before. But you want a 15/10 fuck your first time?
    sounds like a spoilt rich kid who gets everything they want

    be greatful ffs

  • Personally I extremely prefer this kind of girls. And about your question it's hard for a man to handle the situation but it is supposed that he already knows that you have no experience and expect all weird reactions even crying. The situation is very normal just you have to talk together and find your common interests in sex.

  • Yes, don't go there.

  • nope, because you will lose it at some point in your life and you will learn stuff when you're going through it.
    we all experienced it, it's a little stressful but it's gonna become a good memory when you've done it.

  • Nope. I’m here to help the best that I can.