Do guys only look forward to marriage because of the sex?

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  • As a rule, no, not at all. The vast majority of men who propose marriage (in the western world, at least) are already having sex with the woman on a regular basis, so sex isn't really much of a reason for wanting marriage today. Sure, some guys just get married because they are afraid to be alone, and will prefer marriage to the wrong person rather than being single, and there are some guys who get married strictly out of duty to tradition or whatever, but the majority of guys who are getting married today are doing so because having a WIFE and a FAMILY are important to him.

    Having a partner to share and enjoy the good times with, and to help him through the bad times, is almost always a primary reason, and having children is often, though not always, another primary reason. But the sex itself isn't really a factor - again, because he's usually getting that already, and because sex is going to be assumed to be a part of marriage (hard to have kids if you aren't having sex, for example).

    If ALL a guy wants is sex, marriage is going to be the last thing he cares about. There isn't a huge shortage of women who will trade casual sex for attention or gifts or just outright money, and if casual sex is all a guy wants, he'll find those women. And plenty do.

    The days of men marrying for sex was pretty much over by the 1980s - Feminism had made casual sex easy to get, and made marriage WAY too costly and risky unless the woman was exceptional - and men saw what was happening to their married fathers, uncles, and friends in divorce court and with child custody. Men being court-ordered to pay 2/3 or 3/4 of their take-home pay to their ex, who routinely denied them custody or visitation of their kids, and courts who did nothing about it. It was too late for those poor bastards, but men who hadn't already fallen into that trap learned those lessons well, and that's why so many men are choosing not to marry at all. Of those who still do, MOST have good reasons for doing so - reasons they can easily articulate - and getting sex is rarely a major factor.

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  • I’ll put it like this… if you are worth it in every area of a man’s life including sex, then a man will want to lock you down. We don’t necessarily look for marriage for sex.. but we marry because we know we can get exclusive pussy whenever we want it… or that’s what a marriage is supposed to be… the benefit is having sex whenever you want. Obviously, that’s hardly ever the case since many women in marriage get comfortable and lazy and don’t put the same effort into pleasing a man. Remember, cuddling, talking, kissing.. all of that is acceptable before marriage so that’s not required for marriage. What’s looked upon negatively is the sex before marriage and that is the only benefit really a man has to get married. Only real incentive.. especially since women want to be taken care of, and all manner of other things.. for many marriage sex is really the only thing a woman can bring to the table. It’s unfortunate.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe for the 3% of men that actually get sex whenever they want when married then maybe for them they look forward to it

  • No. But in my experience, guys look to forward marriage less , than women do.

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  • That's pretty much the bottom of the list of reasons I had to get married. My number one was to make a good future and household for our children.

  • If you are waiting to have sex after marriage then maybe.
    otherwise no... Im looking forward to a family and spending our life together

  • Well if that's what they're doing it for they're not going to be very very long

    There's much more to it than that just that and if that's what they're thinking then they're marrying the wrong person probably

  • I wouldn’t say it’s “only” the reliable sex that makes guys look forward to marriage, but it is definitely a huge part of it. Men NEED sex, as males experience love through physical intimacy. So yes, the thought of a loving wife to have sex with on a consistent basis does help make the promise of marriage more appealing!

  • It's not 1950 anymore, only a few people still waits for marriage to have sex

    • yeah no shit it's not 1950, what I meant is whenever a guy gets married, in whatever time it is, do guys actually feel excited to get married, and if they do, is it only for the sex. it could also apply to the past when you had to wait for sex for marriage & whether that was the only reason guys wanted marriage back then

    • In the past I would say yes. I mean, translated to modern terms, when I was a teenager I got into a "relationship" just because I wanted to lose my virginity. Awful, I agree. But that makes me think that if marriage is what stopping you from having sex, men would mainly look at that to get married. Nowadays when having premarital sex is okay (in most places), the sex is at the bottom of the list as reason to get married.

  • Sure, unless they already have sex then there is no much to be looking forward.

    https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/why_buy_the_cow_when_you_can_get_the_milk_for_free

  • OMG yes and I did also since I was a virgin on my wedding night and I had waited 21 years for it.

  • I'm not into waiting for marriage for sex, so no.

  • You think we need to marry you to have sex with you?

  • If he is told no sex before hand that can become a thing

  • You know that people don't have to be married to have sex, right?

  • No. If both were smart, they would have plenty of sex prior.

  • I doubt it considering there's women that spread their legs for fun so why would anyone marry for sex if they can get it off any girl willing to spread their legs

  • Sex is great but there’s a whole lot more to a marriage besides sex that’s your wife your best friend and life partner your everything to have her and hold her for life a very special bond as well as sex

  • Why? You can have plenty sex before marriage.

  • Imagine getting laid daily 🥳

  • If they only care about sex they’re not going to wait for marriage.

  • No. I can have sex without marriage.

  • No, marriage makes sex disappear for most guys from what I understand.

  • I look forward to it because that means that she doesn't have to visit. She can stay here with me. She won't leave to go home, because this is her home.

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