Do guys prefer dominant or submissive partners in the bedroom more?

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Which do guys prefer overall? Dominant, take control women or Submissive, relieving control women?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

All women dislike themselves and because we dislike ourselves, we fervently hate any man who doesn’t see through our bullshit. The more a man loves us, the more we hate him. The more he overlooks our sins, and the more he fails to see how corrupt we are, and the more he gives us the benefit of every single doubt – the more we despise him. We will escalate our bad behavior until we finally break him and he wakes up and realizes how worthless we are and what a fool he has been for believing in us. We want a man whom we can’t have. We want a man who honestly doesn’t give a fuck about us, who doesn’t care if we come or go. That’s the kind of man we will pursue. Call them bad boys or call them whatever you want, that’s the kind of man we want – period. The kind of guy who will make us orgasm, crudely, and give us a huge sexual thrill in the bedroom, and then discard us like used toilet paper, and fuck our female friends afterwards, just because he can. (Just like we would do with his male friends.). We are constantly poking, prodding and testing a man, in order to find out what his boundaries are. If he has no boundaries, we will destroy him, especially if he loves us. A man has to have boundaries, and he has to outline them precisely, and he has to force us to adhere to them with the power of his conviction and the power of his action. If he doesn’t do that, we will beat him over the head with his weaknesses (his lack of boundaries) until he breaks. Women are narcissistic masochists. We hate it when things are going well, especially if they continue to go well for long periods of time. We know down deep that we are fucked-up and not worthy of anything that is truly good. So when things are going well in a relationship, we eventually sabotage it. We just can’t help ourselves in this regard. We could have the greatest, most handsome, most well-hung husband in the world—a one-of-a-kind man who makes all of our girlfriends jealous; we could have the greatest children in the world, who are beautiful, well-behaved and ambitious; we could have the most enviable career imaginable; we could have all of the money and prestige and the truly good things in life, and we could repeatedly tell ourselves over and over, and believe, on the surface, that we would never cheat on our husbands. But down deep we know that it’s a lie. Because one day, we could walk into a grocery store, and some bad boy could whisper just the right combination of words in our ear, and the next thing you know, we’re at the Motel 6 getting it in the ass. That’s just how we are, and any woman.

chrissykerdock · Accepted Answer

i couldn't deal with a submissive guy... i like a guy who likes me in short dresses and expects me to give him blowjobs on command... and likes to cum i n my mouth often.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I prefer women who are submissive in the bedroom. After all, it's men who do the fucking and women who get fucked. That's the nature of sex.

I like positioning a woman's legs, gripping her and fucking her hard, moving to different positions, lifting her, clutching her breasts, waist, hips, thighs and ass, sometimes grasping her wrists, pinning her, pulling her hair or swatting her ass. The only thing I have no desire to do is to harm or degrade. I don't have any BDSM kinks.

But I do love it when she is active, fucks back, and moves in ways that maximize her pleasure. I also really like cowgirl.

A submissive woman knows what her body is for and will satisfy my urges when I want to plunder her for a quicky, or even when I just want to play wither boobs.

I love a woman who is eager to service me with her lips and tongue, and who swallows.

But it has to be a two way street, and I enjoy spending unlimited time skillfully caressing, licking, kissing, sucking and chewing her erogenous zones, making her euphoric, and bringing her to orgasm repeatedly until she is exhausted and content.

Кураж · Accepted Answer

I like women who sport a sassy and headstrong personality outside the bedroom but turn all mewly and meek inside of it.
I like to be challenged intellectually, but the idea of female sexual dominance just comes across to me as pure cringe.

I can't emphasize with it, it does nothing for me.

MrNameless · Answer

Ideally I'd like a woman who can switch, but I dominate the majority of the time.

RobT312 · Answer

I think it’s fun to flip roles, but I’m typically more dominant and like being the dominant one

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Even as a Dom with a sub, you really don’t want her passive and giving up all control. This is where a bit of feisty comes into it, as it gives you an extra dynamic to work with.

MrCommodore · Answer

Personally I prefer submissive women.

Apple1996 · Answer

I think all guys are different. My guys likes that I'm more dominant

Berethor · Answer

Most guys prefer submissive girls, but they don't care about it as much as girls.

mb120101 · Answer

Depends on the guy. Most want to dominate but it’s always kinky to have her take control

pixie215 · Answer

both -more dominant but submissive would be a nice switch

sissyalexa · Answer

Dominant every time! I love strong women and love them taking control!🥰

The1Girl · Answer

I think a lot of guys like dominant women. Not necessarily BDSM and strap-ons lol, but I tend to hear more about how they like a woman to take control.

FriendlyCanadianGuy · Answer

I like when she's dominate during oral if that's all we're doing

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

The ones i date prefer submissives.

Dez_37_46 · Answer

I prefer a dominant somewhat partner.

AviatorTom · Answer

I like a bit of both, sometimes dominant sometimes submissive. Though I enjoy being on control (and so does she), it's nice sometimes to just lie back and let her pleasure me.

Finchie40 · Answer

Doesn’t matter I just prefer a girl to initiate sex like I initiate sex with her

oldguystillhasit · Answer

Either an equal or a slightly submissive woman

Blackcupcake · Answer

I like someone who can understand what I like and also read the vibe…

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

I'd like a sexually dominant partner, but I've dated sexually submissive girls and enjoyed playing the dominant role very much too.

megabamse · Answer

You ask like if we all universally think the same? We don't , we have all different types of preferences. I love taking full control, but i also love it when she knows what she wants and she tell me or even takes it.

Andres77 · Answer

Submissive in things sexual only... because I'm better at pleasing her than she is me (plus my body has limits, I can only cum once a day whereas she can cum over 20 in a few hours) so I like her being a starfish and just let me do what I want... because she's going to enjoy it, and I've earned her trust to have the latitude to do anything I want.
Outside the bed we're co-equals in everything.
Except issues of security.
I'm in charge of security and sex.

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