Do guys repeatedly have sex with a girl they are not attracted to?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

You are confused because you are projecting female priorities and behaviors on men, and that doesn't work.

The majority of guys wouldn't have sex with a girl they didn't find physically attractive, and the ones who would are either the player types who only care about increasing their "number of women banged", or the desperate types who will take sex wherever they can get it. Neither of those probably apply here, or you'd probably have mentioned it, so it's pretty likely he finds you physically attractive.

But for men, physical attraction and wanting to have sex is a totally separate thing from wanting a relationship or having an emotional connection - unlike most women, who have to have an emotional connection before wanting sex. It's always important to remember that, for men, these are two different, separate things. And, yes, it's VERY common for men to be physically/sexually attracted to women they aren't emotionally/romantically attracted to. In fact, it's at least 10 times more common for that to be the case. And most men will happily have sex, as often as they can, with a girl they find physically attractive even if they aren't emotionally attracted to them, because sex is fun and pleasurable.

If, as a woman, you try to equate sexual interest from men as romantic interest, you're going to be setting yourself up for a lot of emotional pain, because 90+% of the time, sexual interest is NOT romantic interest. This is why most women shouldn't have sex outside of a relationship - if you can't have sex without developing feelings for the guy, then casual sex is not for you. Guys can have sex without developing feelings - we're DIFFERENT - and so you need to behave in ways that protect yourself emotionally as well as physically, and do NOT project your own (female) perspectives and priorities on men, because men's are different.

Thatsamazing · Accepted Answer

Some of them, yeah. I don't understand why you would do that, or why you'd have sex at all with ANY girl you don't find at least SOMEWHAT attractive, but some guys really are just that desperate. It depends which guys you're talking about-- the tall dark handsome type that can get a lot of girls? Most of them would not do that, no.

JjTheWizard · Answer

I don't get out much but my friends sometimes talk horribly about people they've had sex with or plan to have. From that alone. yes. Definitely.

InfobotsMom · Answer

Yep, especially if it's not every day. I mean, a guy gets horny, he wants to bang, so even a girl that he isn't attracted to seems like a good option if she's up for it. After sex he's probably a little repulsed, but then a few days or a week later he's horny again and it repeats.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Maybe, fills time. If they playing field and its just a booty call

SOARER_ · Answer

1. Yes, its unfortunate though 2. Most likely not

cth96190 · Answer

A male has to be attracted to be prepared to jump through all the hoops that preceed sex. If a man is not attracted, he will probably not have an erection.

justawhiteman · Answer

yep! I never would but a lot of guys do

Browneye57 · Answer

Only if she'll let him. ;) Girls are the keepers of sex. Guys are the keepers of commitment. Don't be giving up yours without getting at least a little of his.