Do guys respect their friends with benefits?

[Anonymous]

A lot of people telling me that fwbs is not a good idea but I've had one and we're great friends, we're attracted to each other but neither of us want a serious relationship. I've also heard that fwbs means "good enough to sleep with, but never good enough to be with", which I don't agree with. People choose not to be in relationships for all sorts of reasons. If you've had this experience, why did you chose to be someone's friends with benefits ?

[EmeraldSky]

Usually, no guys do not respect their friends with benefits. They may display a false sense of respect so that they're not deprived the experience of easy sex. Some guys may have the most minimal, minor respect for her. Yet in actually reality, they will not show her nearly as much respect as they would show a girlfriend candidate or wife material.

There's certainly a lot of truth to the saying "good enough to sleep with, but never good enough to be with" because honestly, if the girl was good enough to be with, then the guy would pursue her mind and heart rather than just her p*ssy. His focus would be more on getting to know her and exploring the depths of her as an individual and less on exploring what she can do sexually. A lot of people try to say it's all about not wanting to be in a relationship, but 9/10 times that's not true. Yeah, someone may not want to be in a relationship but when the right weak in the knees, can't sleep, can't eat, eager to hear from that special person connection comes along; that mentality flies right out the window.

Personally, I've never experienced friends with benefits and I don't intend on doing so. This is because I feel like I'm worth more than some temporary, impartial experience. I like to reserve my body strictly for the men who deserve it. I'm not going to put myself in a position where I volunteer to be worth nothing more or less than my parts, the shape of my parts, and what I'm willing to do with them. Also, I feel that engaging in friends with benefits would be cheating myself out of a more fulfilling experience with a man.

[wildwolfxoxo]

Generally, the guy who wants to be friends with benefits is the guy who doesn't want a relationship but instead wants to be a player and not be tied down, and in that case, most of the time that guy is not going to respect you. Respect is tied in with feelings, which means if you dont mean anything to him, he's not going to respect you, you're just another piece of ass.

But, this isn't all friends with benefits, just some. A lot of guys do the friends with benefits thing because they've been hurt so much they can't risk getting close to anyone else, some are afraid to commit, you get what im sayin. So i guess my point is it all depends on the guy.

[HandsomeRaj]

1. WHOA you got that all wrong about 'good enough to sleep with, but never good enough to be with' - you got your wires crossed there young lady, it's not that way - always
2. For me I prefer being friends with benefits with someone owing to reasons that are VERY different
3. I respect any human being and especially women all the while as long as they hold their respect intact (I respect even nymphos and truly so)
4. There are a lot of guys like me who respect their friends with benefits more than the woman on the street (that does not mean they respect the 'woman on street' any less)
5. She's someone who's comfortable with you, having mutual likes etc why would someone want to disrespect a woman / girl who's a friend and all the way at that? (those who do don't deserve them and no way any type of a relationship with any woman for sure)

[Mike22Ohio]

I tend to fall more with the second paragraph you wrote. I've never had a friends with benefits situation but if I'm not willing to be in a relationship with a girl I'm sleeping with, it's because I don't view her as relationship material. I've had many friends in those type of situations and there was always one constant: They wanted to have sex but didn't want any commitment. They wanted to be able to do whatever they wanted with whoever and they normally didn't view the girls as relationship material. They like them as "fuck buddies" but normally nothing more.

It's not the same for everyone though. Some people can have solid friends with benefits situations but normally there are problems later or someone grows attached.

[MrOracle]

As the others have said, this is up to the individual guy. If this guy treats you like a friend otherwise, then, yes, he respects you. If he didn't respect you, you'd know it.

No doubt, some guys are jerks and just want sex with a girl and won't respect her, but plenty of guys, who also want sex, are capable of being friends (not necessarily close or best friends, but friends) with a girl and have sex with her too.

It's all about how he treats you outside the bedroom - that's how you know.

[Theguyoverthere]

It really depends on the guy's attitude. Some guys just really have shitty attitudes about sex and disrespect girls for stupid reasons and throw the sex out there as a way of lowering her self esteem.

I personally have more respect for FWBs then a lot of girls I have met because they're not glorifying themselves over being "pure" and all that nonsense. Girls who talk badly about other girls having sex make it such a big deal to the point where girls are afraid of doing it at all even in a relationship. It gets way outta hand.

[parkway]

Just enough to keep her on the books. What is nice about your set up is you both think that it is ok. I would never get involved with a woman who was a fb with me or others, all I could see is party easy girl.

[Red_Arrow]

I think the answer is in your question. People told you about guys that don't respect their friends with benefits , but you have one and are good friends with him. Different guys have different thoughts, respects, etc. You cannot pick a general belief and apply it to all.

[SüßeJäger]

im not the friends with benefits type but I don't think if I was that I would have much respect for her. Not because I think she's a slut or anything but because that relationship by nature is very self centered. In my mind, if she's just a friends with benefits then there is some reason she is not more. I would feel like im taking advantage of her somehow.

[Redhi]

Meh. It's transactional. Hard to see her as anything more than a sexual outlet. That's A OKAY if that's how she sees it too. If she's looking for something more, then he's a user. And she's delusional. Samenis true is reverse gender scenario, too.

[TadCurious]

I've had a friends with benefits relationship. And I really cared for her, and liked her, and I did respect her. We just both knew we weren't going to get serious. We'd known each other for years (grew up in the same neighborhood) and she was (is) SO funny. And she liked sex, and so did I. But, yes, I did respect her.

[lkjhg69cum]

Sure we do. If he doesn't respect you then he is probably just an ass hole. That's Why they are called "FRIEND with benefits". If the respect is lacking but he's a decent guy then you'll just be a one night stand or just an occasional fuck. We'll most likely still have sex with you on occasion, heck, even if a woman I hated wanted to have sex I'd most likely still do it. It would be a grudge fuck and I'd for sure wear a thick rubber. See the difference? Someone who doesn't respect their depends is probably a prick themselves, oother doesn't matter if we are having sex or not. If I don't respect you, you aren't my friend, and they will be not be invited back. There is absolutely no reason Why you can't respect your friends with benefits . I'VE known a few who have gotten married later. Love isn't always something from a Disney movie.

[Metal189]

well, you have to ask yourself if friends with benefits is respectful in the first place. the idea of it

[mario1321]

It can get awkward real fast

[legalboxers]

friends with benefits , I mean this is me, if you want something from someone, the sex is good, the friendship is good, then just date this person

[dodger87]

Most definitely

[Anonymous]

If they were legitimately friends before the sex then yes I think guys will still respect her.