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  • Oh this ol' chestnut.

    Why do women still watch romance movies and read trashy books when in a relationship? Why do women need sex toys to masturbate when in a relationship?

    Women and men fantasize differently. Men are visual and women are thought driven.
    So a female reading or watching a movie about love and romance, and sex. Helps her to fantasize and when she masturbates she thinks about stuff that help her get off, which may or may not have anything to do with her partner.

    A guy is visual and looks at visual stimulus to get aroused and fantasize. Porn has NOTHING to do with his partner, or how happy he is with her or how he feels about her. Men do NOT compare you to other girls, we can admire them but we don't compare. Women compare and it is why they seem to have such an issue with porn... they see the girl in porn and compare her to the parts of herself she hates and assumes we are looking and thinking the same thing... we are NOT.
    We look at porn and see stupid things that make us like that particular movie or image... like the way her butt hole throbs when she cums, or the look of hunger in her eyes, or even the way the muscle at the bottom of a guys penis jumps when he is filling her with cum. It has NOTHING to do with the girl or the whole picture.

    If anything... girls watching romantic movies and expecting their partner to watch it with them is more wrong than a guy looking at porn (alone). We don't want you to feel inadequate, or allow you to compare and drive yourself nuts over nothing.. so we hide it. When we are sitting watching a chick flick with you and you are saying shit like "I wish you were more romantic" or "I wish you did those things"... You are essentially pushing unrealistic false expectations onto us from your fantasy and making us feel inadequate and for some reason you are completely OK with this? It isn't right.

    So if you feel a guy should stop having fantasies after he gets in a relationship... you need to expect that you also have to stop having fantasies, which is impossible since yours are in you mind and we can't possible get that to stop... so fair is fair... let us have ours and you have yours. Know it has nothing to do with you and we are not comparing and get over yourself.

    • Is it okay if I use this answer for future reference? lol Also, this really needs to be MHO

    • Yeah man, use it every time you see this ridiculous biased idea.

  • A lot of men do and it's about fantasy and convenience:

    Okay. Let's take a major step back and try to not make this all about you, shall we? When a man engages in sex with a woman, it's a complicated affair, pun intended. He has to take into account her needs, boundaries, stated preferences, feelings and a host of other factors. All this before he even gets to the part about his needs and trying to achieve the closeness he seeks. You wouldn't have it any other way. You want a considerate, caring lover, no doubt.

    When he watches porn, it's all about two things: fantasy and convenience. If you really, honestly expect him t never lust after another woman in his head, you sadly mistaken. He was a girl watcher when he found you and finding you, no matter how satisfying, doesn't kill that desire to look. There's an old saw that is absolutely true: when a guy's through looking, he's through. He is, to put a point on it, NEVER going to stop looking at other women. Nor do you want him to.
    It's that sexual desire that's the engine of your intimate relationship. Nor do you stop looking at attractive men nor does he want you to for the same reason. That he looks at other women and porn says nothing about how he feels about you.
    So porn is about him fantasizing. It's also where he likely finds new ideas to bring to your conjugal bed that you'll hopefully find very entertaining.
    The other reason men watch porn is convenience. He doesn't have to take all those factors I mentioned into consideration. It's just him and his dick.
    Bottom line: fear not!! Just relax and enjoy the man in your life and ignore the porn. Or better yet, offer to watch it with him. It makes a great warm up.

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  • Yes, tho it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the girl or the relationship. As a guy I think it's just an instinctual thing to check out other girls (not a creepy stare or anything, but just a quick "boobs - okay don't do that") Porn is sort of similar. Its just another way to look at the female body and relieve any needs if we must.

  • i do but only because my relationships are always online... if i actually got in person relationships where i could have sex i'd watch it a hell of a lot less often since let's be real no parter will have sex on command there are gonna be times where a partner will need to release on their own

  • Watch it with him

  • yes, and it is even better when she joins me

  • there are many that do. mostly, it has nothing to do with the girlfriend.

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