Do guys think it's cool if their girlfriend masturbates?

or would they rather she wait for him to take care of her needs?
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  • Coming from someone who has been there, I would prefer that she did, as it allows her to practice her own sexuality, as she pleases. Cannot imagine a 'relationship' with someone who 'represses' her own sexuality waiting for me to accommodate her. (If that is the best term to use here)

    As I have had many relationships beginning at 19, I have seen many sides of girl's sex drive and how they feel about sex and their own sexuality as regards of what is "proper" et cetera, EVEN if they were in a sexual relationship with another man. My own VERY SPECIAL and erotic relationship was with a girl who did just that, and so did I, and we both masturbated alone AND together as we saw fit and to this day, I could shoot myself for not marrying her.
    She, my 'missed opportunity" girlfriend, came up to me in a store, while we were shopping, and said: "I've got to go home and masturbate" So I asked her 'to whom", meaning Who got her hot. She pointed out this guy in the store, and I immediately got 'hard' thinking about it.

    I told another woman about this experience and she said she would be "FURIOUS" with her boyfriend or Husband if HE did that! For ME, it meant nothing, but her expressing her sexuality, that ALL OF US HAVE.

    At a job I had back east when 29, a cute girl and I 'played" around at work and outside work in her car, (that could have gotten me fired) She had a boyfriend that she had for a long time, and she/I played, and am certain she did not tell him.

    In college, a classmate, who also had a 'fulltime" boyfriend and I discussed our separate sex lives, including our masturbation habits while alone and with our separate SO's. We both were very hot with the discussion, and she said she was going to masturbate, "after you leave"

    All of us change, or should, in my opinion as to what is acceptable sexual behavior as we mature and see what is acceptable to our partner.

    • I'll try not to be offended because you basically took a shot at me. But I still would rather wait a few days or even a week for him to be here than do it myself. I guess that makes me dumb in your opinion.

    • No, no, no, that was not my intention, to offend you, and I am terribly sorry if I did. Please forgive me if I offended you. I just meant to tell what MY personal experience has been and NOT to heap any guilt and offend you in any way. So sorry. Glad you responded in the way you did as I want to apologize to you if you took my comments the wrong way or if I indicated that 'waiting' was not the thing to do. Bruce

    • oh ok. np then. yea I have not been a big fan of masturbation. I do it sometimes but not very often. most times I will just wait for him.

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  • I think it's totally cool as long as she wouldn't rather do that than have sex.
    It shows that she has a high libido. And it is super hot to watch her get herself of.

    I virtually lived with a particular 30 year old woman for over a year. She was beautiful, hypersexual and orgasmic.
    Even though we both worked full time, we had sex at least two or three times a day and sometimes for hours at a time without pause.
    One day I found her vibrating dildo and she admitted that she sometimes masturbated when I wasn't around. I don't know how she found the time, but my admiration for her only increased. And from then on, we employed that dildo during sex, on occasion. It also inspired me to ask her to masturbate sometimes while I watched.
    She was amazing.

Most Helpful Girl

  • You really should only care if he respects your decision to do it or not.

    • Haha. Would you ask him if you can do it or not?

    • No, I would just do it.

    • Obviously lol. Would you mind having a chat?

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  • I would hope she would wait for me in situations where she knows that I'm going to be there soon to take care of her. If it's only a couple of hours, then, yeah, please wait.

    If we know we're going to be apart for a couple of days or more, then knock yourself out. I'm certainly not going to deny her pleasure and release for days just because I can't be there.

    This is how I behave myself, and it's how I hope my girl would behave (and generally, it's exactly what they've done).

    • I like to wait for him, I've waited a week or more. Even if I'm wanting it, it's more fun to wait until he gets here than to take care of it myself. I just tell him as soon as he shows up I am jumping on him lol

    • Fair enough - I've done the same - but I wouldn't just automatically EXPECT that level of sacrifice, given that masturbation isn't immoral or harmful. If she chooses that, that's okay too. And I'm perfectly okay with her jumping on me as soon as I get there - I've had it happen many times... :)

    • It's fun!!

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  • Fine. I've purchased sex toys for her. They help to keep her occupied, and with near zero effort on my part.

  • Sure it’s fine. It’s natural.
    we both have high sex drives and give each other enough sex, but it’s fine for her to do her own thing too

  • I'm perfectly fine with my wife masturbating, in fact I'd find it more concerning if she didn't.

  • Smart guys know that most gals masturbate. Some once in a while, others very often. And that is good. A gal can relieve herself when she is horny. And she can be ready again as soon as her guy is with her. Very cool. Enjoy yourself!

  • I know my past girlfriends and my wife masturbate and I think it is great. It is normal, healthy and it feels great! Some of my exes also had vibrators which were great to watch them use and for me to use on them. As you know, all guys your age masturbate frequently, but most will never admit it.

    • I'm not a guy 🤷‍♀️

    • I get that but I said it wrong. I meant to say that all guys in their teens and 20's masturbate frequently.

  • I'm completely fine if she masturbates. I would love it if she let me watch. Or, better still, participate. Maybe I could finger her while she played with her clitoris. Or play with her nipples. Either way, it'd be hot. No ned to wait for me. I can take care of my self -- if you know what I mean. 😀

  • It shows that she not a frigid, but I rather have her wait for me unless I am busy.

  • As for self loving there is nothing wrong with it & if I had a girlfriend & she wanted to tickle her taco more power to her & if she needed a hand I would join in.

  • its normal.

  • I think it's great. Iv want to be with a woman who knows what she wants, and wants it often.

  • It’s part of life and doesn’t need anyone’s permission. Greater self knowledge can be a good thing for partner sex in the future. I don’t see how any guys would be offended or jealous. Say it stops her from cheating or she’s doing it while thinking about you, what’s the problem?

  • I love it when my SO masturbates with her rabbit vibrator and I get to watch. She often asks me to masturbate too and cum on her tits, which often puts her over the edge to an explosive orgasm. Intercourse is painful for her, so we masturbate together much more often than having sex, which is fine with both of us.

  • yes its natural and good

  • If by cool you mean interesting then not necessarily

    It doesn't bother me if that's what you mean

    Everyone needs to masturbate every once in awhile even if you're in a very healthy sexual relationship every once in awhile you just need that type of love that only your own hand can give you

    Plus every once in awhile it's something fun to watch



    All in all the only two things I'm going to think are going to be "that's hot maybe I can watch" "maybe I can/should join in" or "I should just leave her to it"

  • I'm OK with it.

  • Watching my wife masturbate was something I always enjoyed, and that never prevented regular sex. So, yes, I love it when a lady masturbates, whether I'm present or not. Actually a very healthy and lovely activity !

  • I will just say to my girlfriend "when you want to masturbate just do it, don't ask me for permission, that's your right"

    • My boyfriend doesn't try to stop me... I just usually wait for him because that's my choice. I'd rather he took care of my needs

  • Yes, that would be hot

  • Sure is!! I'll even be more than happy to help!

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