Do I view my fuckbuddies as property?

So I’ve had only 2 fuckbuddies/affairs. Everything is fine until they start seeing someone (exclusively dating) but they still want to see me from time to time.. weird but anyway. The first one ended up getting married but I was pretty annoyed. He’s totally unhappily married now 😬. The second one is younger but is dating someone new and yes…it annoys me.

But the thing is, is that I don’t have feelings for them. Like I don’t wanna marry neither of them (plus I’m married myself-open relationship). I just don’t like them having someone else and for some reason it bothers me. I don’t cry about it but I’m just like 🙄🙄🙄 when they have a significant other. Am I selfish? Do I view these men as property? Overall I’m an unemotional person so why do I feel this way about their relationships?
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  • Might be a territorial thing. I was like that as a teen with guys I didn't even like and would flirt with them in front of their girlfriends and mark them as my territory still. Might just be instinctual. Now, I don't get that way unless I actually have a real attraction and attachment to the guy already. Although, I do still get that way even if I'm not seriously wanting to be with the guy and I'm not in love with him. They are people I enjoy time with, so I have marked them as mine in some way and don't want to lose what I enjoy about them.

    • Territorial sounds correct! I don’t wanna be like that tho 😩. How did you overcome it?

    • Getting in a relationship where I like my partner so much that I don't really care what anyone else is doing and have no real interest.

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  • I viewed mine as literally just a cock that I could use when I wanted. Once I had fucked them, they could do what they wanted until I needed them again. It was the guys that got funny with me having other fuck buddies.

    • Love this perspective

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  • Oh don’t worry about that, plus you already answered the questin by stating that you are generally unemotional, so that means that while you are unemotional you see your own good and your pleasure or interest is to have them around you and exclusively for you so it’s normal!!

  • It sounds like there may be a bit of jealousy, and perhaps you don't want others fulfilling their sexual needs and desires.

    • Didn’t even think about that. I could understand that. I hate the fact that he’s having sex with someone else. Possessive as well maybe? 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • It seems like you just need to determine where the possessiveness is starting or why it is starting. Then perhaps you can isolate your issue

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Because you are a broken trauma driven mess

    • LMAO 😂😂😂

  • It's human nature, like we can feel possessive of someone we fuck

    • That makes sense

    • Nothing to be ashamed of. Best thing to do if you don't love him is find someone to love

  • I experienced this situation too. I need to talk to you. Can you write on Instagram?

    • Yea what’s your IG handle?

  • Because they leave you for others...

    • They don’t really leave though. They always reach out to me from time to time while they’re in a relationship. I’m just tryna figure out why I want them to stay single lol even though it isn’t fair to them

    • Because they use you like side cheek and it's obvious when your old toys play with new people you get little sad