Do men become emotionally attached to the first female their intimate with?

[Anonymous]

Do men become emotionally attached to the first female their intimate with?

[MrOracle]

Not like girls do, no, meaning, a girl can have sex with a guy she's not emotionally connected with, and having sex with him will make her become attached. Most guys don't work this way.

Instead, guys are either attached to a girl or they aren't. A guy will know if he has an emotional connection with a girl very quickly, either from just hanging around her or upon his first significant interaction with her. But if he doesn't have those kinds of feelings for her, all the sex in the world won't change that (for most men). If he did have feelings for her in the beginning, then sex will usually intensify and deepen those feelings, but they had to exist in the first place.

[Asker]

If a insecure adult male settles for a stranger he met online (first gf/first sexual partner) would the same case apply?

[MrOracle]

It could - as I made clear, there ARE exceptions, but I think in this case, much of the time, you're just talking about someone who, probably out of desperation, has a low threshold for attachment, and so it's not necessarily the sex that caused him to become attached, but just the romantic attention from a girl.

[SteveSmith1985]

No... I don't think that this is necessarily the case at all. In other words... I DON'T think that a guy being intimate with a woman for his first time FOSTERS OR CREATES an emotional attachment... UNLESS THERE WAS ONE ALREADY, TO BEGIN WITH.

So, to me, it would very much depend on the circumstances (the relationship) between the guy and whoever the woman was who became his first.

[Volucum]

Not the first. There are a lot of ways people can fall for eachother. Like what triggers that falling. For me, after I feel safe with them. Waking up next to them will just flick a switch.

[Zealashton]

depends on indiveduals

[Raunch]

Some would wish but fat fucking chance.

[MrTuxedo]

Definitely not neccesary, tho some do.

[JeT98]

Pshh anybody that says no is bullshit... you're always going to remember your first time having sex... the emotion might not be love or admiration all the time but you're still going to have some type of emotionally reaction when thinking about the person you first got intimate with...

[roland77]

I keep down-voting those. :-) I remember my first time very well.

[ecfresh]

Depends on how long they have known them and whether they were emotionally into them before being intimate. Unlike the chemical reactions that take place in the female body, intimacy resulting in orgasm doesn’t create the same chemical reaction in guys and thus they don’t feel attachment after sex like women for the first time

[Asker]

So if a guy loses his virginity in his twenties the likelihood of him settling down with that same girl would be because he wants to and not from a sense of infatuation from sex?

[ecfresh]

If he loses his virginity in his 20s then he is just starting his sexual journey and starting to mature as a boy into a man. He may say anything he wants, but I wouldn’t trust his words if he makes any promises long term to her. It would take a few years for him to prove he is serious about those intentions. He likely will have changed his mind by then

[Asker]

So his current partner (his first and only) will likely not be his last?

[ecfresh]

Because you said likely no. The odds are much less than 50% that the woman he loses his virginity to will be the woman he spends the rest of his life with

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@Asker sex is just an intimate moments it will ware off soon but its the emotional stuff and how you support the guy and his influences and surroundings will impact if he would be with that girl or not

[Asker]

@Aakash_Hangargi If a insecure adult male settles for a stranger he met online (first gf/first sexual partner) would the same case apply?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Yes why not if he gains confidence after multiple sessions if it was only for sex he will definetly leave her for more but if he is attached to her personality he would stay

[meye_naim]

For me it was no but I was 12.

[reptocarl]

Maybe

[roland77]

Yes, of course. :-) And sure with my next coming partners, too. :-)

[MrMilti]

No, my first was a terrible person and I am very thankful, I got out soon enough.