Do men confuse being dominate in bed with being an aggressive thug?

To me a dominate lover is one with good stamina who takes control, thrusts with enthusiasm and drives you to orgasm. You feel he's in charge but not threatening. I think most women want a man who will make them feel desired in bed through their passionate sex.
However a lot of guys here seem to translate this into we want to be verbally abused and slapped around. That to be dominant they also have to be violent. I get it a small number of women into bdsm want to be physically abused but surely most of us don't. I want my pussy pounded not my face.
I can't help think a lot of girls are being put off trying sex when they hear that guys say they have to pull your hair hard and slap tits red raw to be good lovers.
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  • Something tells me , you are the aggressive one in bed. I bet you would jump on top of me slapping my thing all over the place. I also bet you like to use a huge strap on , ramming that thing in a guy's ass.

  • Porn creates problems

  • Most probably do.

  • Yeah I hate those idiots in chat with scream name ImYoDaddy69 or something stupid. Demanding a sub dm them now to serve and pleasure. They are fucking idiots

  • No not at all

  • Can't say I have experienced it but would like to find out

  • I am submissive I love to be dominated

  • They sure do, 'cause we're all cavemen still. Where's the fun in not having mild hair pulls or light slaps anywhere and everywhere? Takes two to tango, and tango well. Lol.

  • That's why I only have sex with someone I'm in a long term relationship with. There are too many guys who don't respect us if we have sex with them too soon. And the lack of respect shows in how they treat us.

  • Some guys just use being "dominate" in bed as an excuse to abuse women (because they can't do it anymore without the cops being called and them being arrested for physical assault). It's explained very well in the book "Are Men the Weaker Sex?", free from kobo books, but basically a lot of men resent women because we need them (which a lot of guys take as being weak).

  • And that's another thing about porn... False ideas and views...