Do men not like being used for sex?

[Anonymous]

So a few days ago, this guy asked me what were my intentions with him and I told him they were to have sex. We've been talking for a while now with no problems and that questions came out of the blue. He says he gets that from girls a lot. He seemed fine with it and asked me when are we going to hookup. It was suppose to be yesterday. I didn't hear from yesterday or the day before which is the day he asked me. Usually when a man hears sex, he doesn't hesitate or turn it down. I'm not using him for a hookup but even if I were do guys even care? I know girls do.

[integrale77]

If I didn't have a girlfriend if you sent me a message offering no strings sex my reply would be "where and when?".

Some guys have to put up the pretense they are looking for a relationship but once they get to dip there wick acting is over so getting a no strings offer is like easy mode.

Yes there will be some guys who are offended by the pump and dump but few and far between.

[MrNameless]

Nobody likes being used for anything. If you just want sex out of him, make that perfectly clear. A lot of people want different things, but many don't communicate. This is how relationships are destroyed before they really even start and accusations of being led on and being jaded for future relationships begin.

[MrNameless]

But you did make your intentions clear. Maybe he got busy or lost interest?

[Berethor]

Men tend to be more sexual than women, so men usually don't mind being "used" for sex.

[Reece12345]

This guy just sounds unenthused. He may have gotten cold feet for a million different reasons and changed his mind. Lack of self confidence, maybe?

But he still should have talked to you. Uncool to not even reach out.

[Kaneki05]

I think it's pretty simple. We don't like it if ain't on our terms. And I don't think anyone likes it really when it ain't.

[Summeroflove]

Normal men don’t.

[FunkyMonkee]

Correct! If you WANNA fuck me, just say, "Can I fuck you?" Don't go leading me on like you're GONNA be my girlfriend if all you want is a quick cum blast up your pussy! Chances are, if you just tell a guy that you wanna fuck him, he'll go for it! Too bad girls aren't that way!

[JPresidente]

If they’re horny enough they won’t care.

[Stevefiveo]

Odd question for a guy to ask. I don't think you scared him away. He might have just gotten a better offer.

[Asker]

i dont know when i ask him does he have sex a lot or do hookups he told me no cause he has a low sex drive.

[Stevefiveo]

Oh, that is unusual. But the low sex drive response explains it. I never met a guy like that before.

[Asker]

he also is insecure about his penis size but i told him it wouldn't be a problem.

[Stevefiveo]

I wouldn't take it personally. It just sounds like you two are not a good match.

[shanshu]

If I woman just wants to fuck me I'd be up for that

[Guardian45]

Not all guys are the same. I suspect your guy has been used for sex before, and doesn't want that anymore. If you really want a relationship, then you should let him know; otherwise, cut him loose!

[CubaPirate]

What goes around comes around take me baby lol 😆 😘

[Dreamclouds]

Being used in general doesn't bring a good feeling

[Anonymous]

I had a friend with benefits who I gave good, "productive" oral to. She told a friend who visited her once when I was there. Even then I could tell the girl was checking me out. Later on, that girl asked me out. Over dinner she told me she would like me to give oral sex. We had a good sexy time later but my focus was making her cum from oral. She told me she had never had an orgasm like that.

Did I like it? Yes. Both girls flattered me.

[Anonymous]

Women don't like being used for sex, men don't like being used for money.

I think it's more a matter of guys being turned off by loose women.