Do men pretend to be in love just to get laid?

Question

Everything is great. We have a great relationship, a lot of interests in common, and sex is amazing. He tells how he feels about me but I still wonder if he's telling the truth.
He never gave me a reason to doubt him but recently I was thinking if a guy could just play being in love just to get laid.
I mean he knows that I like having sex with him and would do it no matter how he feels, so is it possible that men would just pretend being in love to get laid?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have to confess something. My boyfriend and I used to play mind games with each other before we started dating exclusively and he admitted that he used to say he loved me just so I would agree to have sex with him. The ironic thing is that I never did have sex with him and eventually he actually fell in love with me because of our deep understanding of one another and the fact that we could tell each other anything. To answer your question, yes, guys do say that to get girls to have sex. However, a guy who genuinely loves you will demonstrate it on occasions that you aren't having sex as well. For example, my boyfriend always called me at night and just wanted to "check on me." It's the little things that show somebody truly cares about you. Sometimes he'd randomly tell me that something he saw reminded him of me and that's why he would visit me out of the blue when I least expected it. My boyfriend respects that I want to wait to have sex and I know how hard that is to find in a guy. Choose a guy who will like you for you and won't pressure you into anything or stop liking you for not doing something. I think you'll know whether a guy means "I love you" or not based on his actions :) Hope my answer helped a little :) Interesting question!

tinyclit · Accepted Answer

I don't know whether men specifically pretend (maybe so), but I do know that a lot of people are in love with being in love and that for them the feeling is more natural and they don't avoid it and instead bask in it's glory.

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

lol good question. I'm sure it's happened before, but not all of them. #generalisation611

raio81597 · Accepted Answer

It is possible but usually fizzles out over a years time. There was a book I think called Why men fake it? I saw some women looking at it in the book store but they thought it was about sex but was about relationships. Maybe check the internet to see if you can find it, it will probably be a good read. Keep in mind also that based on past experience that we can filter our perceptions through negativity and that could spell doom for a great realationship so keep that in mind going forward.

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

Women having a amazing relationship then start overthinking shit. I doubt that he is pretending. Usually in a relationship you can tell if the relationship is going to get sexual soon so if he had that connection with you there would be no need because you was gonna give it up anyway.

Now some men will do that if they think it would speed up the process of getting laid or if that was all they was in the relationship for was to hit it.

Tdieseler · Answer

No... i believe its You acting like its "great" that creates that illusion..

Applefan1 · Answer

Some men yes, All men no.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, men do not do that. There are some boys and some overgrown boys who do that, but they are not men.

ravidricha96 · Answer

Some guys do that. Some girls even do that. Not all guys do that. Not all girls do that. It's an individual basis here.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Well, sex is a great reward and the best natural drugs out there. I don't know that he can pretend that he loves you and get away with it long term... but your gut is questioning it and woman have good sense. Cut him off and have a great deep conversation and dig into some issues and find out how he responds:) If he works with you, he loves you. If he bails, then I'd say no.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Yes they do  they usually do this

sawno · Answer

The guys that do are absolute assholes, i personally am not one of them. You should never toy with someone's emotions thats not cool. If you want to only get laid say it up front.

RandomBritishGuy94 · Answer

In general I believe sex means less to myself then it ever has to a women I have dated. At least in terms of emotional involvement. I don't need anything beyond a basic connection to have sex.

I've never lied about being in love (or what I thought was love) but I do find women get more invested then I do a lot faster.

GifMan · Answer

Until he gives you a reason not to trust him, trust him! If he's lying about his feelings, you'll find out sooner or later. However, if he's being honest and you continue down this path of mistrust and doubt, you'll end up sabotaging the relationship.

BillieJean1070 · Answer

I'm sure some do.

WomboComboo · Answer

i don't think i ever would, but guys certainly pretend to be in love to get in your pants

cth96190 · Answer

Some men do. They are the sort of players and all-round arseholes that make younger women tingle in their panties. The rest of us get the fallout, because "all men are bastards".

06CuriousMind · Answer

Yeah I always wonder this too. I'm always scared I'll lose my virginity to a guy like this.

genericname85 · Answer

i´d say we don´t. we maybe are not sure about it but still want the sex xD so we sometimes just tell her the shit she wants to hear.

akadatank44 · Answer

Not me but I could see some guys being that way. I don't know why just be single then.

Scrambledagain · Answer

It's one of the tactics, yes. How else are men supposed to get laid lol i get irritated when all these guys in gag say no. I've only ever seen the former.