Do men really care if a girl is heavier than others?

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'5" and 160 lbs, size 10 jeans. I have a nice and curvy figure, but I'm definitely bigger than most of my friends/girls at my college. Most of the weight goes to my thighs and ass (I have a fantastic ass because of it, I'm not insecure about that area) but I also have a protruding stomach when I relax, some flub on my arms etc.

There are a lot of guys who pursue me and want me, but I can't help but feel insecure about my weight around them. Whenever I have sex, I always try to find positions that make me look skinner and am in my head the whole time about what I look like and it normally leaves me not being able to be fully satisfied in bed.

My main question is do guys really care what the girl looks like while in bed/in general? For instance, if he sees belly rolls when he puts my legs on his shoulders during sex, is that a turn-off? Or if I wear a crop top and don't have a perfectly flat stomach, is that a turn-off?

FYI: This is not a post asking how to lose weight. I go to the gym, eat healthy etc. and am already on my way to working towards a better body. I'm just curious on the mindset men have about it.

[Berethor]

So your insecurity about your weight didn't stop you from having sex, and from having sex with lights on, and from having sex while you fully naked, but you always try to find positions that might make you look skinnier, even though the guy had already saw all of you. Yes guys tend to be more visual than girls and guys usually care about if a girl looks pretty/sexy enough, but if the guy didn't find you attractive enough then he would likely not been having sex with you in the first place, and he was likely was not wasting time on pursing a girl that he don't find attractive enough.

Most guys are no fools, if the guy likes girls with thighs and ass of your size, he likely knows that it usually comes with bigger belly, and he likely consider it a fair trade-off, also some 'imperfections' can make a girl look more natural and sometimes even cute. If he puts your legs on his shoulders during sex then how is that position make you look skinnier to begin with? considering that most of your weight goes to your thighs and ass, the guy is fully aware that he is having sex with a curvy girl even if he was not seeing your belly moves, maybe he like seeing your belly moves while he fucks you, as it gives him more feedback, that said I don't think that a crop top is good clothes choice for a curvy girl, you belly is not your selling point, your ass is, so you better wear clothes that have more focus on that. :)

[tenukitanuki]

I think the men especially pursuing thicker women are doing it because of their experience. The belly rolls when he puts your leg up might actually be very erotic despite what we're comfortable sharing as public opinion. You might just need a bit more intimacy to assuage your worries. I'll gently hold around the soft embarrassing area and embrace them to show them it is all love to me.

Getting a woman out of her own head and making her feel comfortable with herself is also just part of fucking half the time. That's always been my trick to dating larger females, to handle them such that they can feel like tiny women secured in my arms. If I grew tall enough to do it, why not use it? I can tell they just want to feel like a natural woman and that's what The Do is all about. Weed and mushrooms might help

[Gwenhwyfar]

A lot of guys are fine with that, especially once they’re inside you

[AustinMan]

I'm guessing that you are light years more concerned than they are. Keep working on your body but when he's fucking you, be fully present in the moment. Maybe he should discipline you for disrespecting him and not accepting his sexual prowess?

[Mark-IV]

I’m going to be honest, it does matter but not as much as you think, from the way you’re describing yourself, you seem curvy but still tight and you dont have rolls of skin, as long as you don’t have a big belly and your stomach is reasonably flat, you’re still attractive.

as for the skin rolls of your legs are up, no man will care about it, most girls have them at that position, and if your thighs are as rounded and shapely as you said then that’s a very attractive trait and you probably look hot naked

[igaveyouanickname]

Sorry, but yep. Weight positivity is a load of bollocks. WHR is a big deal for a man to assess a woman's reproductive value.

If she can't store fat in the right areas, isn't symmetrical enough, and doesn't have good muscle tone, no boner and no competitive bonering.

I absolutely won't date anyone overweight, it's nothing personal because it's how I am wired.

[Tamera952]

Nope not at all... tall hey care about is their penis and where they can stick it to get it off.

[Guffrus]

Body isn't a problem, but insecurity is.

[Asker]

well, yes. i'm trying to get over the insecurity part.

[Kurαȷ]

If you have men pursuing you then they clearly don't care.
Someone who cares wouldn't pursue you to begin with.

[Matthew2222]

I prefer them so not at all. But "on my way to working towards a better body" is a huge red flag to me.

[JPrez]

Most guys won’t care and be very accepting and like you for you. You may have some dudes who only go after the perfect 10 bodies but in general you’re pretty enough to get the attention of a lot of guys.

[AaronKrieger]

If you're chubby and curvy, then I want you to have fat on your belly, arms, back, and all of that. If you didn't have those things it'd weird me out if you still had the big ass and hips, yet a flat stomach. So if me or any other guy are going after someone with your body type you can relax. For me it'll turn me on if I see that you look natural and that you're not trying to pose to look skinnier, since I'll just see through it if you do.

It's not l'm not a "chubby chaser" as I like skinny girls too. I just prefer for girls to not be so insecure about their stomach and just fat on their bodies. Like if you just own it and try not to be so insecure over it I guarantee guys will find that really attractive that already want you.

[TadCurious]

Your body type is very sexy.

[Ripper_E]

I have to see a woman to know if I'd be okay with it. Her being fat isn't an immediate issue unless she is too big.

[Unliving_Boar]

You are a walking paradise. Never forget that. You give the best cuddles. Sex is AMAZING with you!!! I dont have to hear "TOO DEEP!!" Your skin is so soft. I can actually get a real hug instead of feeling like I'm hugging my 8 year old. Its a hug I can feel. I dont know you personally so all I can comment on is the physical.
I will say that I've seen women who were 150 lbs and sloppy looking, and those who were 300 lbs and gorgeous. Its all about how you carry yourself.
So walk out your front door with your head held high, and work it gurl! Work :pause: it!

[jamesgoldman]

Conventionaly not but it would prove problematic with my back in the bedroom as I can't be active in a sexual regard (several attempts were fruitlessly made back when I was still dating)

[Angelo75]

Well to be honest I care about girls weight.
Many times heavier girls make it up like 10x with their personality.

[dudeinohio]

You sound good to me... no problems in any respect.

[jasco]

It depends honestly, how much does she weight and what does she look like

[martinxdenver]

The hungry ones with no options wouldn't care.

[BensGlory]

I love bigger girls anyways

[Twalli]

My girlfriend's stomach has rolls when she lifts her legs like that, I don't think many girls don't. So that isn't a turn off for most guys. I figure if a guy wants to sleep with you, your weight isn't an issue for him.

[Cowboy6666]

I don't care about weight so much. I just want open minded kind girl