You can care about a woman and want to do those things to her, yes. But that's assuming that SHE enjoys those things too. If she didn't like them, and you still did them anyway knowing she didn't like them, then you obviously don't care much about her feelings, right?
But many girls LOVE to have rough, hardcore "p*rn star" sex, and love to please their man, and to have their boundaries pushed and to be dominated. It can be a HUGE turn-on for them, just as it can turn on a dominant guy to be dominant.
I wouldn't think any less of a girl who WANTED those things and did them. I *might* think less of a girl who absolutely didn't want them, but did them anyway, especially if she let herself be used or manipulated. It's not the sexual act that would make me think less of her, though, it would be the fact that she didn't stand up for herself and her own desires.
Now, this type of sex is NOT required of every woman. It's perfectly okay not to like this stuff, and to not do it, and there are plenty of men who have no interest in it either.
But it's also perfectly okay if you DO like it, and want to do it.
Just make sure that your partner understands and cares about YOUR feelings, whatever they are, and respects you. If he respects you outside the bedroom, then he's far more likely to respect you inside of it too.
When the man and woman both give their free and informed consent to do these things, both partners become vulnerable while trusting the other not to exploit the situation: the woman trusts the man to be rough and dominant without hurting her, thinking less of her, or transgressing her boundaries; the man trusts the woman to let him be rough and dominant without hear being fearful of him as she is with other men, will not think less of him, and will not tell others that he did "horrible" things to her; and both partners trusting eachother to keep the acts a secret so neither will suffer in their social and professional lives.
If a relationship has enough trust for these kinds of acts to occur (assuming that both partners want them to occur), then I think that would be a sign of a healthy relationship. If both partners trust eachother, both learn that their trust was well-placed, and both respect eachother more because they kept up their end of the bargain to ensure that the trust was well-placed, then that can create an intense intimate closeness between them, along with the additional trust and respect.
I've never done these things with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with, but I can say from experience that a man who cares for you will not think any less of you lol. Quite the opposite. Who wants to have the same old vanilla sex all the time? That's boring.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Not hardcore every time, you've got to mix it up, but yeah, we like hardcore sex. I've come on a girl's face before and still respected her afterward.
Personally, I think romantic, sensual sex sounds better than lusty, impersonal sex. I AM a hopeless romantic though. Also I don't really have much experience with that stuff, so I'm talking hypothetical here.
No I won't loose respect, but yea I would not treat her this way either.
Yes, i"d like to do that with a woman I care about, rarely if she wasn't into it, frequently if it turned her on to be treated like that.
No, it would not make me lose respect for her. To be honest I'd feel closer.
I don't think you can make general associations about sex and love
otherwise what would you say about BDSM? S&M? etc.
love and sexual tendencies can not automatically be associated with one another
If she was into it I'd try to accommodate her, but it's not what I'm into. I don't think Id be able to do it for very long either cause it's a turn off. For me sex is only good if it's a positive affirmative thing where she and I both accept and savor all that the other one is. The connection is the important part.
Like I said, if she needed it to get off and really enjoyed it, I might change my mind based on her pleasure, because being part of her orgasms is the main thing I like about sex. I have a couple every day myself. That's nothing special. Her's on the other hand...
Yeah, that stuff is great! And no we won't lose any respect for you. Honestly if anything, we will gain respect for her because she is willing to do the sexual things with us that we like even if they aren't her favorite. It means a lot to us.
definitely agree with gemgem. nothing like a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets. love a classy a girl who knows her place in bed. i love my partner and she is as submissive as they get. from facefcking to spitting in her mouth, slapping, spanking, swallowing, and coming on her face, and hardcore dirty talk. its what were into and in no way does it affect the way i feel about her.
I'm not really into throat fucking or anything hardcore like that.
I would much prefer sex to be gentle and affectionate (I know I sound like a girl)
But if it was what she wanted I would do it and certainly wouldn't think any less of her.
I like hard sex, but nothing harmful. I do like coming on a girl's face but I would always talk about it beforehand
Never heard "a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets"? That's what we love
if we have that kind of bond.
Nothing hotter then getting into a huge fight that turns into hard sex. Pushing each other around, biting and choking, hair pulling. Just awesome.
It wouldn't make me lose respect for her, no.
I love my girlfriend like crazy, and she's very submissive sexually. Outside the bedroom, we're equals, but behind closed doors, she loves to be dominated.
IF she did that with me, then NO, i'd be some happy mofo with a big :D on my face. I'd be like: "god damn, she's taking away all my powers... but i like it. Wonder why. Hell, where is she? BABE, i'm ready for another one ! "
BUT let's be clear about this one: NO, i would NEVER MAKE HER do that. If she's into it and let's me know then, OK, i'll give it my best shot. And i'd be willing to take some back (for example i'm thinking about her sitting on my face and grinding while i'm working my lips around her pussy. Maybe some hair pulling from her as she "uses" me)
One more thing though! I don't think hardcore/dominating sex is good to have all the time. I'd rather have passionate, LOVE kind of sex more than the hardcore stuff.
It's good to be kinky, but once in a while.
For those down voting, i'd rather hear your reasoning. It's a personal opinion. What is wrong with that? Loser !
Do girls like passionate sex? lol..anyhow I'm not in to throat fucking or make her swallow etc by any means. Those really are disgusting to do with gf. But very much like going hard and fast
It depends, but losing respect? Why in the world. If it's in relation to me as in we're doing it then I obviously like her in some way. If I know a girl that's having sex with someone else that's none of my business it wouldn't affect anything
Well my girl loves when I fuck her throat. I want really into it before I met her but she loves it so why not.
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