Do men that have less sex tend to cum more quickly?

My boyfriend and I are days away from our 6 year anniversary and this is our 2nd time dating. Well this time dating my boyfriend usually cums with in 2 minutes and I'm left with built up aggravation because I'm not getting off. We do have 2 children and I have have 2 Older children prior to him. I have had a hysterectomy and been off my Harmone meds for a year now. We don't have much time to be together and our relationship is rocky. I'm being straight up cause these things may have a factor in in why he always cums with in 2 minutes. Could it be the cause we don't have that much time? Are is it possible that he is cheating? I'm really lost here and could use some advice.. I'm honestly ready to give up on us
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  • Has this always been a problem? If so, he probably just isn't trying to hold out or he just isn't good at controlling it. Usually guys who are relatively inexperienced will climax sooner because they have not learned how to control it yet. This can also be from jerking off over the course of his younger life, which as a kid you want to finish really fast so you don't get caught by your parents or siblings. It can take a while to get over this habit, but often there is no further problem after a short time. It sounds like you have been together a long while and it has not been a consistent problem the entire time. If this is the case then definitely let him know that you think it is a problem and it could be a factor in a breakup (I don't think it should because that just seems ridiculous, but that's your decision). Do not talk about it like it's a disability or a sign of immaturity or weakness, because it is not. He's no less of a man because of it and don't give the impression otherwise because that in itself will probably cause problems. Just let him know (if he doesn't) that it is something you would like him to improve on. Some tips would be to keep a condom on if he doesn't already, maybe try a position that is less arousing, such as him being in bottom (if he's not into that so much) or skipping foreplay if you do it now. This usually helps delay a climax, but the best thing to do would be not waiting a very long time between goes, so he doesn't have as much time to "recharge." The case could also be that something is bothering him, which you should check into when first bringing it up. If this it what is going on then just talk it over and try to help if you can. It may have nothing to do with you or your sex lives. Either way, I strongly advise not to break up over something like this. It isn't that big of a deal and can be easily dealt with.

  • It can be a factor. Especially if it has been a long time.
    It could be that he is just too excited to be getting it again. But I'm sure that he had probably 'self facilitated'.

    This can also be a trick that some guys use to hurt a girl. As most men can control when to go.. it's all in the head. So if he is blowing early he might not want you to enjoy it but take all the satisfaction for himself. It's like 'F' 'U' I got what I wanted.

    If he was interested in your pleasure, he would warm you up first (talk to him about this), then control himself.
    Talk to him.

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  • Seems natural for someone (man or woman) to cum quickly if they do not have sex regularly! No?

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  • I haven't had sex in 5 years and i can guarantee you that you will cum more quickly when you dont have sex reguarly.. tbh if you want him to last longer than have more and more and more and more sex. We are just fragile men with needs. But need real practice for actual deeds.

  • Not sure how are correlating Mr Quick's early party to cheating, but that isn't it. What is his mood? mental state? Did he lose his job recently? Stress is usually the culprit with these issues. Help him figure it out, if you care enough. Sounds like you might not if you are willing to bail over something like that.

  • what you need is a better lover. one who can control his own desire to cum until you have had your fun too

    • This. He needs to learn not to be sexually selfish

  • I don't think he is cheating, but if if their is tension. Between you 2 then stress can be a reason he isn't lasting long and yes lack of sex , of you guys are only having sex once in awhile then that can be an issue as well , answer this? When he finishes that fast is he upset or does he not care?

  • yes of course SOP natural
    but at your age and even just OK in shape
    he should be able to do it several times/night, each time taking longer to cum
    the more sex you give him, the better he becums... like anything sports or real life activities

  • There are two reasons. 1 he don't sleep well. because less sleeping reduce sex capacity and he should have took eat some dark chocolate it increase sex capacity

  • It could, but often guys jerk off regularly so it's not a big problem.
    Here's a trick that works more or less 100% of the time; Tell him to jerk off or help him yourself and wait about an hour. That way he can get in the mood again (i. e get hard again) and not cum as fast. Enjoy your +2 minute sexy time. Make sure he's ok with the plan because he won't be in the mood much an hour after but can easily get in the mood with the right physical stimuli. ;)

  • The longer you wait between 2 orgasms the faster they cum.

  • The less sex or self play he gets the more sensitive the monkey becomes. More sensitive equals to quick climax.

    If he cums quickly, no he's not cheating it's actually the opposite. Firstly if he was getting enough sex, he wouldn't be this sensitive.
    secondly if you didn't turn him on this wouldn't happen.

  • Yes.

  • Yes.

  • it is possible because he is not getting much sex

    • No man cums that quickly if he's getting laid regularly.

  • Maybe. Either way a lot of jerking off is involved..

  • It's a possibility

  • Yes. That is why you need to perform foreplay to the fullest to enable your partner als to enjoy the lovemaking

  • yes more sex, more practice, more skill.

  • Maybe the first time but ok then

  • It's all about control...

  • I think that's more down to weak PC muscles. With stronger muscles, he can hold off and use them to stop.