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Do most men behave like this during sex?

I’m sitting at home right now, my boyfriend just left for work. A few mins before we had sex and he said “do you think I can cum in ___ minutes?” And that kinda hurt me tbh. It’s like he forgot about my satisfaction. He didn’t try to satisfy me at all, and I kinda felt used a bit. Am I wrong to feel this way? I’ve never orgasmed during sex, mainly because I find it difficult. He knows this. Everytime we have sex I feel unsatisfied because he doesn’t do anything to make me edge after he cums. I just feel like crying right now, not because I feel like he doesn’t care about me, but because I want him to know that I want to orgasm too! How should I address this?
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  • WOW I feel you and you pain from your words I think I just really sucks you really need to talk to him about it when I have sex with a woman my priority is to make it all about her I want to get her off like she's never ever got off before. That's what turns me on is to making her orgasms one after the other. I can tell you how to go about it but I mean it would be so rude so mean in a roundabout way and that could just add more problems so I think the best answer would be you need to communicate with him and let him know exactly what's going on in your world and if he needs to step into your world and to make it all about you and if you can't do that then there's another way to go about it but it's like I says I don't know if it's right or not

    • Thank you and I hope you have a chat with him and let him know how you feel because otherwise it's just going to get worse for you I can't be afraid to say anything you just have to say it if he loves you he will understand it

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well, Sweet Pea, I have to sympathize with you. I have always felt that I was a considerate man in bed. That said, sometimes an erect penis overrules your thought of being considerate, and kind during and after sex. That said, there is no excuse for it and I TOO am guilty of that, not on every occasion but far too many
    You need to talk to him and consider what I said here. Far too many men are selfish with sex, and only want to get their nuts off and forget about your sexual needs. Give him this input. He has to realize that he fucked up, if he loves you or cares for you.

    • Let me add this, after a guy shoots his wad (ejaculates) he looses a lot of his sex drive, that is until the next stiff penis comes along. I dearly loved my girlfriend and we had great sex. She knew I jacked off regularly and she masturbated regularly. I told her to NOT WORRY about me ! I could jack off anytime, especially after we fucked and sucked, and I went home to jack off about what we did, WITH HER KNOWING IT. If I had a stiff, pulsing penis, I was wanting to do whatever it took to get her off, including eating every orifice she had including her ass, to get her off. Once the semen is in the sheet, in her vagina, on her stomach, that 'push is GONE ! I am done, but I had to RECOGNIZE the biology of the act and react accordingly and make sure that she had several orgasms before me. Remember, a stiff penis has no conscience.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If you’re unsatisfied every time you have sex, that definitely has to change. You’ll just have to be open with him about what you need from him. A lot of guys are kind of dense when it comes to sex and you have to spell things out sometimes. Don’t be afraid to have that conversation with him. Don’t be overly emotional when you have the talk. Just be honest and adult about it. As for tonight, I wouldn’t take it personally. Sounds like he had a short time before he had to work and just wanted a quickie. Sometimes it’s ok to let him have that. There have been times in all my relationships where I was basically just servicing my partner. He should earn that occasional privilege though by being attentive to your needs most of the time. Good luck.

  • The way to address this is simple. What you just told us you need to tell him. Allow yourself time to cool off and feel what you feel on your own then talk to him. He sounds selfish but sometimes people need a wakeup call to change. If you feel this is worth salvaging then give him a chance to

    • Yes he is good in every other aspect but this. He is also a very good listener so I’ll be sure to have a convo with him tonight

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Sounds like he was focused on having a quickie. He needs to slowwwww down and focus on the foreplay and get you warmed up before jumping to sex.


    I’ve been known to enjoy a good quickie, but it’s not for everyone.

  • Tell him hey it's hard for me to cum can we do a session where our only focus is to make me cum and explore how u can control me or make me cum easier?

  • You need to help him understand better how to make you cum, most women are almost afraid to tell their partner what works.

  • Im sorry but its not always about you. You give you take... Mutually... it was a quicky before work... so get er done... Im sure there’s times that he did something just for you. Just to make you happy in the relationship.
    And if he hasn’t well then you need to find somebody else

  • I don't know about most men. I sure hope that's not the case cause that's super selfish. I just know I'm not that way

  • So your boyfriend is doing the sexual equivalent of dudes seeing who can piss higher at the urinal? Must be great him treating sex like a competition for one.

  • Next time he wants to have sex, tell him it's your turn now and ask him if he can make you cum in ____ minutes by fingering or eating you. If he's not interested it's time for him to find a new girlfriend.

  • You have to communicate this to him. I always appreciated it when my wife would "critique" my performance because I really want to please her but I am not a mind reader.

  • No, most guys like taking the time to make their partners cum. The next time you have sex, INSIST on making him take his time to pleasure you. If you want to have good sex, you need to take ownership of what that means.

  • does he give you head at least?

    • No.. he has but that’s maybe 1/7 times we have sex

    • damn your boyfriend buzz no cap

    • Should he do it more? Everytime? He’s my first boyfriend so I don't know what to expect of guys

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  • sex is YOUR obligation to your man. It doesn't matter if you like it or not.

  • Tell him to make you cum or he's toast!

  • I think you should have a realtime talk with him and let him how you are feeling. Sex should not be a selfish act where only one person benefits from another

    • Thank you, I will.

    • Yes p! ease do

  • my advice is for you to practice cumming, get to know what feels best and what works fastest, how can you teach him if you don't know?

  • He was horny and was wondering how fast your beauty could make him climax at the moment. He probably isn't like this all the time since you asked if his current behavior is akin to other men

  • You need to tell him how you feel. He was only thinking about himself and his manhood at the particular moment in time.

  • Best way is to be honest with him and tell what you exactly want
    From the looks of it he only cares about himself
    So he needs to know that 2 people are involved in sex and not just once
    If he understands and starts working towards this well and good
    Or you are better off with someone else

  • He needs to be less sefish

  • 1. Directly
    2. Take control
    3. Say to him: No sex for you not any gratification at all until yoh make me cum at least twice.

    Some men need to be taught how to be a gentleman.

    For more info you can dm me

  • my guess is, you lost your virginity in high school, your teens

    • Nope.

    • well i assume in college then, while still in teens, like 18 or 19

    • Why does it matter?

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