Do most men prefer to wait until sex is meaningful or would they gladly take casual sex for egotistical reasons rather than really wanting to?

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  • Men have no need or desire to make this distinction.

    Unlike most women, most men have no trouble separating sex from love. And while most men want love, and seek it, it's difficult to find, so when a man doesn't have love (a girlfriend or wife), he still wants sex, and if he can get sex, he will, and he's not going to be slowed down by the fact that he isn't in love with the girl. For men, sex is an end unto itself, and we don't need love to enjoy it.

    It's great when we have a serious relationship partner that we can have sex with - sex can definitely be better that way - and many of us prefer that - but that doesn't mean that we're going to go without sex by choice if we aren't in a serious relationship; if we can get laid, we will. That's part of what it means to be a man.

    • Why is that part of what it means to be a MSN? You mean societal pressure says so?

    • No, it's biological. Men are genetically programmed to spread their seed. That's our purpose in life.

    • I’m not sure I completely buy that tbh otherwise more men wouldn’t settle down.

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  • I personally prefer to have sex with people I am in a relationship with. While I am an enthusiastic lover I am not a sexual genius and for me it takes a long time to figure out what a woman likes in bed and so casual / one night stands just don't do it for me. I'm actually quite comfortable with a hug for the first one or two dates, kissing only for the next few after that then if we get to where we are calling ourselves girlfriend/boyfriend we can go from there. I am never comfortable having sex on the first one or two dates. I don't mind some random groping but not actual sex.

    • That’s precisely what makes sex good. You know what each other likes.

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  • As I've aged, I've become much more selective, but like most young men in their late teens and twenties, having "meaningful" sex really didn't enter into the equation.

    • What about men more like 30s/30s age range...

  • Personally, the sex I had with people who I was dating was among the worst I've ever had.
    In fact, I had better sex with my exes after we have broken up and I no longer had to care about their feelings or their boundaries.

    If I ever find something "meaningful" I suppose I will be able to see for myself whether this will reflect on my enjoyment from sex or not.
    As it stands, I've never had anything meaningful, but I have enjoyed sex a great deal regardless.

    I don't want to mislead people and have a relationship with them when I suspect that I may have no capacity for romance or emotional attachment.
    For me, casual sex is not something lesser that I'm settling for, it's simply the only thing I understand and actually enjoy.

    I'm not saying this is true for other men, and I'm not trying to discredit whatever it is that others feel in regards to sex and romance, it's simply what is true for me and my experience.

  • Most men who want a serious relationship are ready for sex sooner than their partner is ready for it, so women get the idea that the guys aren't serious.

  • Men have sex when they want to and can.
    It feels better when it is meaningful, but close to no man waits for the special one to get their noodle wet.

    • So the next question is why...

  • Well, literally 90% of the guys I know go to the clubs and have sex there w girls they fking met first time, so :/
    Personally, I'd have sex w a girl I really love, when we get in a deeper relationship. I could never have sex w a girl I'm not in deep love with.

  • Lol its a pretty obvious answer most men would jump at the sex

    • Let’s see lol

    • Or are u asking what the men on here would want as most on here are Conservative

    • Yeah I’m just curious in general. What is it you think men get out of casual sex? Because for many women it seems pointless and mechanical without the feelings.

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  • I'd be the waiting kind of guy but if I had an opportunity to be with a woman in your age bracket I wouldn't want to wait.

    • Why not?

    • I'd be afraid of losing that opportunity

    • Ah okay

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  • Sexual intimacy and fondness should grow together.

    • I agree

  • Even thou I'm a 53-year-old Male I never had actual sex for simply I believe in waiting to after marriage so I am a Male virgin and I swear it's the truth and a lie detector test will show I'm telling the truth

  • I would rather wait but sometimes you have to strike while the iron is hot.

  • Meaningful sex is way better than casual.

    • Definitely

  • Egotistical reasons? What exactly is that?

    You need to understand the basic difference between guys and gals...
    Women connect emotionally.
    Guys connect physically.
    This isn't to say guys don't have emotions, but the connection dynamic is just completely different for the two genders.
    Guys show their affection by being physical - it's the way their brain, body, is wired. It's the testosterone - the sex-drive hormone - they have some 15-25 times as much as you do.
    So yeah, a guy will wait for a connection, he has to before she'll agree to sex. If you're ready, he's ready.
    Girls are the keepers of sex.
    Guys are the keepers of commitment.
    Don't be giving up yours 'till you get at least a little of his.

  • When men get horny without any thought they would take a hookup. But some guys have discovered how good making love is so they can control themselves and wait

    • I presume most men who’ve had long term relationships have discovered that though. I’m not talking about young guys here, more like 35 - 45 age bracket.

    • Ok, then I’ll be better able to answer your question in like 20 years. Send me a reminder because I doubt gag will be around that long ;)

  • I prefer to wait for meaningful sex. I don't want to share my body with another person unless we're in love.

  • second one , i dont understand the logic why it is egoistical , she wants it , i want it , it is mutual
    or , when i hire a hooker , she get paid , i get satisfied , it is mutual

    • It’s well known that men relate masculinity to sex

  • I prefer to wait till its meaningfull personally. Hard for me to get turned on if no connection

    • I agree, I’m the same.

  • Guys don't want to wait. I don't see any sence in waiting for a meaning in things that doesn't need any meaning

    • Some do

  • Yes of course

  • I like casual sex.

    • Because...

    • It fun with out any strings.

  • If a guy is out at a bar and finds himself getting horny he'd probably happy if any girl there would sleep with him with no strings attached. On the other hand, if he meets a girl at work he thinks could be his soulmate he will probably want to wait to build the relationship to see where it goes before having sex.

    • So in relation to the girl at work he likes... he’s bound to get horny about that too right... so even when horny he can choose not to act on it...

    • Would he try it with his crush too when he’s horny...

    • He's bound to get horny over the girl he likes but he can choose not to act on it with her. He may masturbate while fantasizing about her. Is his crush the same girl he likes at work?

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