Do relationships come from sex on the first date?

We have been speaking for 4 weeks and I know it’s not enough to warrant him entering my body but I feel like I’m grown and I haven’t had sex for a year and I really like him so why not? I do want a serious relationship with him but I don’t know if having sex with him so early will hurt my chances what is your view on this?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It definitely can happen and if he's cool, he won't think less of you for having sex on the first date. After all he did the same thing. However, I would not advise that route if you want a long lasting commitment. Many men will disagree but many men are unaware of why they do the things they do. People in general tend to not appreciate what they can have easily. Also a guy would wonder if you're like that with all guys.

    If you wait and he gets upset that you wanna wait then he obviously doesn't respect you and you can easily bounce. Sometimes a guy's ego will make him want to pursue you harder. If he works hard for you, he'll start to think he must really like you. For most guys though, unless he really likes you, you can't hold off too long either. So it's about calibrating the situation and finding a good balance. Confident communication of your standards is key.

  • Statistically, if you're a woman looking for a long-term relationship, having sex on the first date is very detrimental to that goal. That's not to say that successful long-term relationships NEVER happen with first-date sex - it just means that the vast majority of the time, it doesn't work out that way.

    in my opinion, wait until the 3rd date. That's where, statistically, the line crosses and where waiting beyond that doesn't bring you much more advantage, but NOT waiting until the 3rd date means you are working against your own long-term goals, trading them for short-term pleasure. As a man, of course I understand the attraction of that short-term pleasure, but, again, that's just stacking the odds against your own long-term desires.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If having sex hurts your chances, that would remain true regardless of how many dates you've been on.
    Like.. imagine if a guy says 'too bad you opened your legs because I really liked you and would've pursued a relationship with you but since you fucked me one date too early, my feelings for you have vanished'.

    I'd be happy that I dodged that bullet, tbqh.

    • Well I did it and we are still the same way. We’re going on a dinner date tonight. Thanks for being open

    • awesome! Good luck and I hope things work out between you two. :)

    • Thank you

  • I can tell you first hand that it is possible. I'm sure it is not something that happens all that often.

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  • It can but its rare. Do what you want but i dont consider it smart to have sex early on. I have to be in love and in a longterm relationship first

  • Depends on the guy. Personally, all of my serious relationships were with women I had sex with before there even was a first date.

    • What made you continue seeing them, was it personality? If otherwise, can you say"?

    • Honestly? I just really like sex and so did they.

    • haha, okay

  • i mean it's pretty basic thing to know it's just lust the first night... And pretty much is for the next times. The only way you shall see that's not lust if he actually cares to not just focus on that which i wouldn't be able to say but you would after.

  • I usually do it even on first date lol n you are weigh past it so get going lol

  • It varies from person to person every relationship I've been in that lasted a while and involved having sex pretty soon after we started talking. the shortest relationship I was ever in only lasted 2 months we went on 9 dates before having sex and a month later we broke up

  • it is possible to have long term after but everyone is diffetent. just like the rest of life, it's a gamble. you won't know till you try.

  • Your headline question is a lot different from those in your write-up.

    Answer to headline question: No.
    Answer to write-up question: It depends on how we would view this action. Discuss it with him.

  • Labels don't matter. "Serious relationship" is one of those labels.

    If you like him, do what you want. If you don't, then don't. Don't overthink everything.

  • I think it’s unhealthy for relationships to start with sex.

  • Have you talked to him about a relationship?

  • Could go either way. The argument for waiting is that a guy who just wants pussy won't wait too long. Yet if he wants a relationship, aex on the first date won't change it.

  • 4 weeks I'd think of you as a friend n be no longer interested in that. But I'm weird.

    • Haha good one

    • What is? But all my relationships been more from knowing and being around a bit, not dates n trying this stuff so maybe diff then.

  • everyone is diff... for me if a girl has sex on the first date thats a plus as being intamate is not something i take litlly and i dont play with any girls heart i have sex to feel closer of a bond and to get rid of my shyness

  • Nike says it best just do it

  • Sometimes... but I would think she is a slut if we had sex on the first date.

  • Hahaha No!
    Girls do this shit all the time.
    If you put out quickly... you show your worth. We know you have done it before with other guys and you lose quality as a long term partner.

  • Everyone is different, but for me, sex early doesn't change if I want a relationship or not. If it affects it in any way, it's the opposite and I want one more! But I've had sex on the first date before, still wanted her (like I say, even more so actually). My advice is don't put a "time stamp" on it of when "you should or shouldn't". If you feel ready and comfortable, no matter the time table, then it's ok.

  • Generally no.