Do sex toys actually help? Would a vibrator help my case?

Help as in make you come undone?
I know it sounds silly but I have a problem, I don't think I ever actually orgasmed ever since I started touching myself and I've tried many techniques. If I have ever had an orgasm then it was a disaster and I did not experience the pleasure... Tbh, I don't believe orgasm is as good as people make it out to be...

I don't really know where's the problem. I worry that it's my body, that I am simply unable to have an orgasm.

I haven't had sex yet but I hope that once I do, the guy will help me in this matter.

So yeah, would a vibrator help me? What should I do if start to feel pleasure (when I focus on my button) and it gets too much? I never "come undone". Never :(
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  • I know of a guy who had the same problem with his wife, they were married for 2 years but she didn't orgasm once. Because of that he bought his wife some toys but they did not help at all. His wife told him that I'm fine and stuff. So, I would say that it is all about your libido and if you don't orgasm, there isn't something wrong with your body but it's your libido. If you want to accomplish an orgasm just experiment with your body and with time you'll be able to know how you can orgasm and with which way you can.

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  • Clit stimulators, like either a wand or a satisfyer might be your friend here.
    I could hardly get an orgasm by myself either.
    And it's always good to know what ticks you.

    I would not recommend you to put your orgasm on the shoulders of a partner without knowing how yourself. There are a lot of selfish lovers out there, or some oblivious enough to not know about the clit or where it is.

    Also, remember, especially for women, it all starts in the brain. You need to be turned on in your mind and work on that. If you're not into it and try to get an orgasm, then it makes sense it isn't happening.
    Explore yourself and your sexuality and learn to relax and be safe in your lust.

  • You need to experiment with your own body an what makes you feel good. B4 using tools. I was young when my boyfriend couldn’t blve that I never touched myself. I was like 12 n didn’t even think that was something I could or should do. He wanted me to try n he helped but it was like… a bunch of fumbling around n he didn’t really know either. 😂
    but eventually he found a spot n was my first time I had one and also…. To his benefit… I literally said plzzzzz don’t stop! I was mortified!!!😳
    But it did take time.

    • You are only 18 you are still very young!

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  • Try a clit stimulator like a Leno Sona. Never fails to do it for me.

  • i like mine but mostly the shower spray

  • got to be worth a try

  • Get a Hitachi Magic Wand!!! OMG they are incredible. I promise you will cum with it!

  • It could help, but I think you need to know which spots on your body, when touched, turn you on.

  • Get a good friend to help you..

  • When you "start to feel pressure and it becomes too much" as you said, you keep going

    • I tried to do that but nothing came out of it. I really believe my body is at fault. Though when I use a shower head's hot stream and focus directly on my button, it makes me feel all kinds of pleasure and I come a little bit but never in a great amount so that I'm experiencing "pleasure through my whole body".

  • The problem is your not doing it right

  • does it feel good to touch yourself

  • I bought a rabbit for a friend for Christmas. It was somewhat of a joke, but I wrapped it and put it under my tree. She was a bit embarrassed when she unwrapped it and saw it. But I told her to give it a try. I will never forget her exact words.

    "Holy Mariah"