Do threesomes ruin relationships?

[tallandsweet]

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Threesomes are opening Pandora's Box. Either it will be good for both, be good for one and not the other, and could potentially end in disaster for both.

One could enjoy it and want to do it more then the other.

One could leave that person for the person that was invited into the threesome.

Could lead to cheating.

Regret having invited the third person because most times it is with a friend or family member.

Everyone thinks it is a great idea until it happens and they are not very happy with the outcome.

I recently read a story about a couple that had a threesome. It was totally the boyfriend's idea and he invited his best friend. Well, he has regretted his decision because while having sex his girlfriend came hard and fast while the best friend was having sex with her and it upset the boyfriend. She tried to explain it was because of the situation of doing something new and she was nervous. She said she just got really turned on and it just was bad timing because the best friend was at turn.

I have heard another story where a couple decided to have a threesome and again the boyfriend's idea but with two girls. They invite a stranger into their bedroom and it turns badly. The guy had suspicions that his girlfriend might be cheating on him. He found out it was with the girl they had the threesome with and his girlfriend dumped him for the girl.

So threesomes are dangerous as the outcome is not always the one you expect it to be.

[bamesjond0069]

If its with another man than yes, relationship will go downhill at some point from it for sure. With another woman it can often work just fine.

[tallandsweet]

What's the issue if it's with another man?

[bamesjond0069]

Because men are competitive and you can say its all respectful and nice till you're blue in the face but men as a whole do not accept this. For example i was a bull in a cuck relationship once and honestly the dude was just normal and if i bumped into him on the street id think just fine of him. After he willingly let me fuck his girlfriend i just can't respect him. Most guys even just hearing this wouldn't respect him. He himself probably is going through self esteem issues over it. Typically women dont stay or be good to men they dont respect so with him being put down so much she's bound to as well and then the relationship is over. With women its opposite. A man who can bag multiple women is socially desirable so the woman will tend to hang on harder and harder to the man after a 3some. I've done this with a few girls and they tend to be extra committed and work extra hard at our relationship afterwards because they know i am capable of attracting other women. It doesn't work like that for men because a man just will feel less committed if dudes bang his girl.

[DaisyM23]

Depends if the individuals want it equally and want to experiment and have fun etc

[MCheetah]

Yes, because it's selfishness and usually only one person wants it.

[Lionman95]

I can ruin a relationship because there is at least a chance that the partner who is of the same sex with the incoming third person compares him-/herself with the incoming third person.
It could that the male sees the other incoming has a bigger dick and a better technique which automically lowers the guy´s self-esteem because he feels like he´s not good enough for her.
It could be also the other way around, the woman could feel less attractive because the incoming has a better trained and better shaped body which leads to her man being turned on stronger by the incoming woman.
All in all I wouldn´t consider a threesome at the beginning of your relationship because the relationship can be over pretty soon.

[anon1903]

No, if :
- both are bisexual
- respect boundaries and rules- isn't doing this just for "novelty"- isn't cheating, the arrangement is consented- includes all partners in all activities, if possible- polyamorous tendencies in both partners so they don't get jealous- third person wants a healthy threesome and doesn't break them apart for selfish reasons

[qwert1234]

Depends.
If the rules and boundaries are both agreed upon prior and is followed, then I don't think there would be problems.

[Andres77]

They can enhance or hurt.
You've got to navigate this one carefully.
The relationship should take priority over a special event but there are ways to do it and have fun.

[OutWestBandit]

Depends on your relationship. Some women I have been with were uber serious about being with just me. Others always seemed like they were looking for the door anyway.

I would never bring that up to the serious girlfriend, but the other one. Yes absolutely. Problem always is who you invite over. If they are too close to you and her - drama will ensue. Someone out of town, something on a vacation, yes.

But maybe I am a little too kinky about that kind of thing.

[TallAnon]

I've heard that it often does, yes.

[msc545]

It depends on the strength of the original 1 on 1 relationship.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

yes, very immoral

[Seppel]

Yes that can happen when one of them gets Jealous

[Turtleneck22]

Not sure. Wanna have one. And find out. I think it depends on so many things. MMF or FFM. Depends who wanted it or asked for it. Are you in a relationship or just all agree. Too many factors.

[JesseJayNeak]

Yes cause many men are not into sharing such as myself

[tallandsweet]

Heard that many times before.

[Pulseofsulfur]

It depends on who the 3rd person is. If it's one of her girlfriends that she really trusts then fine but if it's a random person it'll ruin the relationship

[tallandsweet]

Interesting point of view.

[Pulseofsulfur]

But otherwise I'd prefer monogamy

[Anonymous]

As long as...
both truly want it
it is not an excuse for problems in the relationship
everyone respects boundaries

[Anonymous]

No but I was a little bit jealous at first