Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
If you are following the debate about relationships between men and women, you will almost certainly come across this claim: women do not like nice guys.
While women do say they want nice guys who treat them well, many have experienced the very same women going for the “dangerous” bad boy, at least as far as casual sex is concerned.
This means nice guys aren't winning the casual sex lottery as much and more often than not become "Friend-zoned" and may see themselves passed over, again and again.
I think it is true, nice guys really do finish last, but I also think it's more complicated and it does have other causes than simply being nice. Confidence means a great deal to women, and if you are shy or demoralized by many rejections, then confidence is not really your thing. If giving up in advance comes easy to you, then it's a major sex killer. If you do not hunt, you will not eat so to speak. If you do not even think you are any good or you are not masculine enough to get a woman to like you, quite frankly you most likely won't.
If you can sit all night looking at women, but are never able to say hello, or you are the one who shares her interests, makes her laugh and finds her attractive but yet never picks up her otherwise not so subtle signals, that NOW is the time to kiss her, then you will be in this category, nice guy or not.
First we need to distinguish between casual sex and relationships, obviously women's requirements are more loose and focus on sexual attractiveness and performance when it's just casual sex. Likewise most of us will be happy to fuck a super hot bitch, as long as we can get her off our back just after sex. In a relationships, we do NOT want a bitch at any circumstances regardless of her looks, the same goes for women.
When a woman wants a boyfriend, then personality, common interests and stability etc. are all important criteria and turn on's.
Another phenomenon is realism: if your are 40 years old and fat without any money to burn on young hot chicks, then you need to go for women who are more likely to be into you. Sure, a hot 23 year-old, would be preferred, but let's face it, it's not going to happen. You may not be able to kill a bear, but you can kill a rabbit. Unfortunately sex is not a right, but a privilege that we have to earn, so let's be realistic about it. If you are only into young hot women, you better get rich and go for gold diggers.
It's far easier for women to get a sex partner than it is for men, that's how it works. Men are easy, women are not, so this is the result - tough luck but you can't change that, so deal with it.
It may be a cliché, and of course there are plenty of exceptions, but many women are submissive in their sexuality in some degree. For some it means being spanked, bound or worse, but for most it is just a matter of attitude. It is usually what women mean when they say stuff like, "a real man, one who knows what we wants, takes control" and so on.
It does not mean that they are looking for a jerk, what they do want is a man who can be sexually aggressive and controlling, so they in turn can give up control for a while in bed. Nice men are bad boys in bed, but only in the bed, it's not that hard or difficult to understand. It's the female version of whore and Madonna. It's not disrespect to take control in bed, it's only disrespect to try to force her into something she clearly do not want. It's nice to be bad, sometimes, get it?
Regarding "pick-up artists" or coaches, in my opinion you can use the theories positively to boost you confidence, which of course is always a hit with women, but that's about it. Do not put too much into it, I have seen a 5 hour lecture from a coach once; many good points but it's basically not very useful unless you have the personality and then only for casual sex.
As for casual sex only, for those of us in countries where prostitution is legal, it may be far easier, less time consuming and more rewarding with success every time, rather than doing the game about learning how to pick-up girls for one nightstand's etc.. Of course Americans do not really have this option, but you can carry a gun in public (hey I ain't judging, each his own preferences).
A final point: do not be afraid of rejections, these are key essentials. We all get rejections, it's how we deal with them that really makes the difference. You can quit, and be alone with your hand or get amazing sex by keep trying and cope with all the rejections it takes.
So do not take it all so seriously. Most women like to be hit on if it happens in a good way, and if it is a good woman, she will also reject you in a nice way when she is not interested. Otherwise, rejoice of the horrifying rejection, this means you are now free of this bitch – and yes, every women who rejects a man in a bad way is a bitch – end of story.
Women do get turned on by confidence, but it has to be real...you can't fake it like an orgasm. They do get flattered when someone shows interest in a nice way, but unfortunately, confidence is also a characteristic of psychopaths, idiots and douche-bags so they tend to end up scoring quite a bit. But women do still prefer nice guys who are bad boys in bed.
This is my opinion, of course plenty of women will probably object to what I said, however, this is how it really works in my experience.
Sorry if my English sucks, but I hope you get the points anyway.
What Girls & Guys Said
20 28OK, so what, exactly is, "Confidence", and how do you get it? Lots of "experts" keep telling guys to "just get it" without saying how to get it or wtf it even is!
I have said how; You have to learn confidence the right way, by experience. When you learn what works and what doesn't, how to behave , what to say and not to say, how to evaluate the situation and how to set the mood, how to read her signals etc. Then and only then, will you start having success and gain confidence.
Experience in what? what are the basics of "setting the mood" "reading her signals" etc?
Women want a gentle thug... one who opens the door for her and slaps her ass as she walks in
Can't girls be bad too?
Lol don't take anything seriously from girls on here at all, you won't ask fish how she get caught youd ask the fisherman because fishes would only tell u bad advice lol
Excellent take, but you omitted on key point.
The losers who spout stuff like "Chicks dig jerks" are incapable of understanding that it's not true. It's their life mantra. The idea that they could be wrong, is utterly alien to them.
Confidence? It doesn't exist. (According to them.) So how could it be important to women?
It's all about confidence and bad boys seem to show off a lot of confidence. Nice guys typically show low self esteem.